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Bisexuality (Fad or No?)
Posted 6/28/12
No. It's not a fad, tho it might seem that way to some who observe teenagers during a "questioning" or "bi-curious" part of life.

Also, I think some people claim it's a fad because it's wishful thinking -- they HOPE junior is just going thru "a phase" and will eventually "straighten out" so they calm themselves by minimizing it as a "fad" or "phase."

This is unfortunate. It's unfortunate when anyone gets minimized or labeled and written off this way. We should respect one another's journeys, not judge and minimize them.
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Posted 7/14/12

SugarandDynamite wrote:

While I believe that bisexuality is a valid and existing sexual orientation, I have witnessed (unfortunately) a large amount of teens, mostly young girls, label themselves as such. Which I would have absolutely no problem with if most of their profiles didn't read as follows: "AmiKawaiixxChanSu.14.Justin Bieber suxxxxxx add if you think so too! I'm bi but I don't kiss girls eww."

I find it rather unfortunate that a group like that has erased as validity of a true bisexual identifying themselves as such because of young teens wanting to label themselves as something "edgy" to be a special snowflake.


Agreed. For some, bisexuality might indeed be faddish, especially young girls trying to fit in. Guys oggle girls who mess around with other girls, most of them seem to think that attractive lesbians are hot. It's easy attention grabbing.

This is only coming up because of the increased social acceptability of non-heterosexuality. It's certainly not universal, but in the US at least we can be a lot more open about it than in the past. It's just a shame that for those of us who actually are bisexual because we're doubted as being legitimate. *shrugs* We know what we are.


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Posted 7/14/12
So if all the cool kids are doing it then the rebels and the outcasts are the ones who are going to be called out on it by being labeled homophobic. Wow times sure have changed since I was a teen.
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Posted 7/15/12

JustineKo2 wrote:

So if all the cool kids are doing it then the rebels and the outcasts are the ones who are going to be called out on it by being labeled homophobic. Wow times sure have changed since I was a teen.


I don't know if I'd go that far... I haven't been a teen for 7 years, but I do have siblings. "Gay" is still used as a word meaning "bad", "stupid", and so on.

There's definitely a double-standard. From what I observe day to day it still doesn't seem that it's okay for males to be openly bisexual. In bigger, more liberal cities, sure, maybe. But in small-town USA you may as well be an outcast, though at least you probably wouldn't get beat up for it anymore. Probably.
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Posted 7/29/12
Sexuality is fluid.
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Posted 7/30/12
You can like both genders and that's not a problem. But once you make the commitment to stay with that one person for the rest of your life, you still might like the other gender was well but i think then, it defines if your gay or straight. Same thing with the whole 3 or 4 people relationships (sorry don't remember the name for it) Yes you might be in a relationship with more people and different genders, but your still going to have something you prefer. So i think that saying your Bi is just an excuse not to tell people what you prefer.
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Posted 7/30/12
i don't think anything can really be understood, and I think all attempts at distinction or labeling are a watering down of one's true essence... I'll love who I want to love. I'll be attracted to who I want to...
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Posted 7/30/12

Woodayy55 wrote:

You can like both genders and that's not a problem. But once you make the commitment to stay with that one person for the rest of your life, you still might like the other gender was well but i think then, it defines if your gay or straight. Same thing with the whole 3 or 4 people relationships (sorry don't remember the name for it) Yes you might be in a relationship with more people and different genders, but your still going to have something you prefer. So i think that saying your Bi is just an excuse not to tell people what you prefer.


I think it's unfair to say that one person has to have a preference. I think everyone should watch the documentary "Middle Sexes" it's really informative about sex, sexuality and gender. Generally I think all labels (lesbian, gay, bi, etc) are ridiculous - go anti-identity based politics! Generally labeling something has been used to mark what those in power consider bad. Take homosexuality for example, the word homosexual came before the word heterosexual, and even then people who slept with those of their same gender were already being punished before the word. Homosexual was created to label people as deviant - as less than others. Once the deviant member of society has been named and only once the deviant member of society has been named do we label those who we consider "average/proper/acceptable/etc" such as the heterosexual. Okay that was just a rant about how labels have never been good in general.
But going back to the bisexuality as being an excuse, that is so unfair. People don't even necessarily have to be attracted to both genders, they can be attracted to anyone - such as pansexual, queer (if we're using labels, because while I hate the labeling system I also understand why we need it considering the way politics works right now) etc.

Besides, who is to say what someone can or cannot identify with? It's a choice and even if they don't "act bisexual enough" for you or even if they only ever date men because they never find a woman they are connected with but they feel as though they could one day. It should not matter because the label should be for the individuals life purpose and no one can have anything to say about that but them.

Like I said I think labels generally are dumb, but I understand why people use them to find community or at this point to make a statement in politics and we have to use them. Sexuality has proven time and time again to be fluid and changing. We're all just a little queer is what I'm trying to say ;P

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Posted 7/30/12
all a little queer, hah i get what your saying. Same thing with a group of guys and when they are all best friends or something they have their gay moments, cause it's just what it is. Labels ya people could def. work without them i think it's just some way for people to make it feel like they are not just being so steroe typical and find a label or scapegoat to get out of it
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Posted 7/31/12
I'm bisexual out of choice not, because it's a f'n fad, i honestly wouldn't care the gender of the person as long as we get along and no that doesn't make me desperate Phyzjob just because i don't mind the gender of the person i date, i don't judge people on sex, race, religion, or politics, i get to know them for who they are and if i didn't like them then i didn't go out with them, but seriously bisexuals don't exist, you just said to my face with no evidence that i don't effing exist get some facts and tell me i don't exist dammit.
Posted 7/31/12
I think being bisexual is real and it isn't a fad. But among teens, especially on this site, a lot of them just say they are for the hell of it. They say that they love boys and girls but have they ever kissed either of them? I mean they might have sure, thats not any of my business, but did they feel something? The point is being bisexual isn't a fad (or at least thats what i think) and some people on this site, specifically teenagers, should not use it so freely.
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Posted 9/23/12
Being bisexual itself is possible. As the word says, it's when you're both attracted sexually by girls and boys. It's nothing about feelings, just sexual attraction at first.

What I don't like is the FASHION of being bi brought by teenagers who thinks it's "sexy". It's not because you kiss one day another girl and have sex with her that you're bi, so sexy, so hot and on Youp*rn the next day. It's about being naturally attracted, falling in love, having affection. Equally. That your eyes of love don't see the differene between a boy or a girl.
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Posted 9/29/12
Locked because OP has nuked.

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