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Post Reply Can Bestfriends really fall IN LOVE with each other?
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Jdaimond wrote:


CooWings wrote:

Yes, it happens. A guy and a girl can never only always be best friends; at some point or another, one of them will fall for the other. That's what happened to me and my best guy friend; we fell for each other, but just not at the right time.

He too soon; and I was too late.


What happened?
did it work out?



Sad to say, nope, it didn't.

We used to say 'I love you' when we hang out together during college, talk about how we'd tell each other about our partner if we ever fall in love, stuff like that. In our context, we're real hardcore best friends. He knows about my private life, I know about his. We share the same interests, and we cheered each other on when the other is down. The relationship felt rock solid, and I felt like we can count on each other for life.

The only thing we didn't do was tell each other how we really felt, when we felt it.

Then we graduated, I enrolled in graduate school in another state thousands of miles away from his graduate school, but still we kept in touch. We do the texting; call up each other and chat about a million things. He'd always end the call with 'I love you, shorty' - shorty was the nickname he chose for me because well, I was short, and I'd tell him 'I love you too'. One day that 'I love you' thing sounded different, and I realized we were about to cross that best friends boundaries. I was scared, and I kept making excuses from contacting him.

Our relationship started to fail; I became overly-conscious and our calls grew awkward. I started to show interest in him like, a year later, excuse me, but I'm really slow in lovey-dovey stuffs for my own reasons, but by then he didn't seem all too keen, lol, sorry for the lack of a better word there.

But yeah, it didn't work out.

Despite all this, to you guys who have this kinda thing going on, and have the means to make things work, or even to fix things to the usual normal of being best-friends-forever, do it. Don't wait it out until its too late. Fall-outs can happen if you don't do something.
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You gotta be a friend, before you become a Girlfriend.

I had one girl that was my "bestfriend", we used to stay up until 5 and 6 in the morning skyping, and talking to one another; We eventually dated, but then we fell apart. Now we're just strangers, not friends, not exes, just strangers with some memories.


It all depends on the people. I rarely use the word "bestfriend" anyways.
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Posted 11/15/12

CooWings wrote:


Jdaimond wrote:


CooWings wrote:

Yes, it happens. A guy and a girl can never only always be best friends; at some point or another, one of them will fall for the other. That's what happened to me and my best guy friend; we fell for each other, but just not at the right time.

He too soon; and I was too late.


What happened?
did it work out?



Sad to say, nope, it didn't.

We used to say 'I love you' when we hang out together during college, talk about how we'd tell each other about our partner if we ever fall in love, stuff like that. In our context, we're real hardcore best friends. He knows about my private life, I know about his. We share the same interests, and we cheered each other on when the other is down. The relationship felt rock solid, and I felt like we can count on each other for life.

The only thing we didn't do was tell each other how we really felt, when we felt it.

Then we graduated, I enrolled in graduate school in another state thousands of miles away from his graduate school, but still we kept in touch. We do the texting; call up each other and chat about a million things. He'd always end the call with 'I love you, shorty' - shorty was the nickname he chose for me because well, I was short, and I'd tell him 'I love you too'. One day that 'I love you' thing sounded different, and I realized we were about to cross that best friends boundaries. I was scared, and I kept making excuses from contacting him.

Our relationship started to fail; I became overly-conscious and our calls grew awkward. I started to show interest in him like, a year later, excuse me, but I'm really slow in lovey-dovey stuffs for my own reasons, but by then he didn't seem all too keen, lol, sorry for the lack of a better word there.

But yeah, it didn't work out.

Despite all this, to you guys who have this kinda thing going on, and have the means to make things work, or even to fix things to the usual normal of being best-friends-forever, do it. Don't wait it out until its too late. Fall-outs can happen if you don't do something.


Sometimes the heart sees what the eyes cant.
when your eyes say no, your mind says impossible but your heart says yes, listen to your heart because what your mind and eyes says has never brought anybody true happiness.
Also, regreting that you expressed your true feelings is much worse than regreting that you didn't.
If possible, i hope it works out for you.
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It's plausible. I fell in-love and fell out of love with my best friend. It ruined our relationship as lovers and as friends.
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Yes, i think it really does happen. I fell for my bestfriend but he doesn't know it yet. I'm trying hard to stop these feeling 'coz I'm afraid it might ruin our friendship
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Unfortunately it does not happen as often as maybe it should xD, but I agree with some of these people and I believe it can happen! Im still trying to figure out whether or not the friend zone really exists. I feel like that could play a part in your question to
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Yeah. It's not like you can decide who to fall in love with..
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Well, I've read some of these posts here...some of you are quite young (high school) I would never expect any relationship to last very long in those years. There may be some rare exceptions, VERY rare. I had a best friend in college. We met at a summer job working at a fancy restaurant, and ran into each other at the college (he had just transferred from another college because he changed majors, and I was just starting). We hung out a lot, and talked for hours on the phone. It turned out my dad knew his dad, and that I knew his half-brother ( when I was in high school).....then I found out he lived walking distance from my house....there was no escaping each other....he suddenly appeared one summer and BAM! everywhere I went, I ran into him. Later we dated for 3 years while in college, and almost broke up (well, I almost broke up with him), but then he turned it into "I don't want to live the rest of my life without you, will you marry me?" The worry/panic in his face told me he meant it, we then married. That was 21 years and 4 kids ago. We still feel the same way we felt about each other since the beginning. Our bodies may have aged, but our hearts still burn for each other.
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My bestfriend told me he had feelings for me, we dated until he cheated on me with his ex. Now I've lost an important person and a bestfriend...
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JoAnime3853 wrote:

My bestfriend told me he had feelings for me, we dated until he cheated on me with his ex. Now I've lost an important person and a bestfriend...


I have been cheated on b4 ... It sucks and never feels good. =(

GAWD SO MUCH DRAMA!!!! I HATE IT!

I have a current bestfriend and she tells me she loves me, ... in a freind way ... I dont say it back because I dont want to cross that line with her and she knows she is one of my best friends. Sometimes I feel like a @%$ when we hang out cause I know she likes me more then a friend ...
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If I could go back I wouldn't have crossed that line. We tried to be friends again after some time but it's never the same. Feeling like a @%$ now is much MUCH better than all the drama and bs. Don't give in if you know it won't work!
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Yeah, because that's the person you're most comfortable with. But in reality they'd just date some other guy and never want to risk going out with you because it might get weird.

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I'm in love with my best friend, but our orientations are incompatible so she doesn't love me. She's flat out told me that if I were a guy she'd be all over me. It took a while for me to get over that fact, though eventually I managed to establish the fact that i'd never love her that way and move on. So yeah, best friends can be in love, although sometimes things stand in the way of that happening.
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Posted 11/17/12

Jdaimond wrote:


CooWings wrote:


Jdaimond wrote:


CooWings wrote:

Yes, it happens. A guy and a girl can never only always be best friends; at some point or another, one of them will fall for the other. That's what happened to me and my best guy friend; we fell for each other, but just not at the right time.

He too soon; and I was too late.


What happened?
did it work out?



Sad to say, nope, it didn't.

We used to say 'I love you' when we hang out together during college, talk about how we'd tell each other about our partner if we ever fall in love, stuff like that. In our context, we're real hardcore best friends. He knows about my private life, I know about his. We share the same interests, and we cheered each other on when the other is down. The relationship felt rock solid, and I felt like we can count on each other for life.

The only thing we didn't do was tell each other how we really felt, when we felt it.

Then we graduated, I enrolled in graduate school in another state thousands of miles away from his graduate school, but still we kept in touch. We do the texting; call up each other and chat about a million things. He'd always end the call with 'I love you, shorty' - shorty was the nickname he chose for me because well, I was short, and I'd tell him 'I love you too'. One day that 'I love you' thing sounded different, and I realized we were about to cross that best friends boundaries. I was scared, and I kept making excuses from contacting him.

Our relationship started to fail; I became overly-conscious and our calls grew awkward. I started to show interest in him like, a year later, excuse me, but I'm really slow in lovey-dovey stuffs for my own reasons, but by then he didn't seem all too keen, lol, sorry for the lack of a better word there.

But yeah, it didn't work out.

Despite all this, to you guys who have this kinda thing going on, and have the means to make things work, or even to fix things to the usual normal of being best-friends-forever, do it. Don't wait it out until its too late. Fall-outs can happen if you don't do something.


Sometimes the heart sees what the eyes cant.
when your eyes say no, your mind says impossible but your heart says yes, listen to your heart because what your mind and eyes says has never brought anybody true happiness.
Also, regreting that you expressed your true feelings is much worse than regreting that you didn't.
If possible, i hope it works out for you.

Thank you for your kind sentiment. But let me tell you that I no longer harbor such feelings towards him, although I do wish we could return to being the best of friends. Things started to get noticeably different when I asked him this; "Hey man. So you see, I need your help with something. I have a best guy friend, and I learned that he looks at me as more than a friend. Thing is, I don't see him that way. I need to tell him about how I feel, but I'm not sure how to do that without hurting his feelings. So any ideas? I'm counting on you cus you're a guy and you're my best friend. Sorry for this, I know you're busy but I really hope you can help me here."

And after that he didn't get to me back. It was weird for him not to reply my text, but I didn't think too much of it. Until a girlfriend suggested that he might have taken that as a hint from me that I wasn't interested in him that way.
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check out this video, it explains all :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA
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