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Post Reply Can Bestfriends really fall IN LOVE with each other?
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Those saying it's a bad idea, think about it logically.

Do you really value the person you "randomly" fell for so little that after you break up it's perfectly okay that you never speak to each other again?

If you were best friends, fell in love and broke up, who's to say that it wasn't something for the better?

To take that step deeper into a relationship and realize for better or for worse if you are truly meant to be close in the end is a much better outcome in my opinion than falling all over yourself for worthless bimbo/douchebag #257. Pain is never a good enough reason not to pursue the potential for true happiness.

That being said, we're human. Falling for anyone for any reason can happen. It's up to each one of us to decide whether the price is worth it.
Posted 1/6/13
yeah t could it all depends on how close they are its easy to fall in love with someone and if its someone you're really close to like ur bestfriend it happens without you even realizing it yourself
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Now, I haven't gone through all of the the posts on this topic, but I am pretty sure I am one of the only ones of these opinions here. So, please, don't discount what I'm saying right away. And beware, it's going to be a long post.

While I am not the oldest person on Crunchyroll, I am above the average age of members here. I think my situation can show one of the more long term results of such a situation. I have to explain the situation in some detail to get my points across, so, here it goes...

When I was in high school, I made a really good guy friend whom I considered a best friend. I fell for him, pretty deeply. While I wasn't the one to clue him in, he did learn of this and told me that he didn't feel the same way. For a few months, maybe about 6 months, it was pretty awkward and he wouldn't hang out with me alone like we used to. It seemed like everyone knew. They made up all of this drama and rumors that I was trying to break up him and his newly made girlfriend. His girlfriend pretended to be friends with me for his sake, but it was pretty clear to all that it was very fake. However, I went along with it because he was very happy and I didn't want to cause any more drama. Unfortunately, not everyone thought that and continued to invent drama and lies, much like you see happen in the shoujo series minus the physical bullying. During all that, despite him not hanging out with me alone, we still remained friends and talked. He got over his awkwardness at some point and we hung out just us. His girlfriend got very paranoid and prevented that from happening again for a long time. I went the entire summer vacation without seeing him and only heard from him a couple times. All in all, things were like this for about a year until he broke up with his girlfriend. Things steadily got better between us after that and we went back to normal.

I still had feelings for him for a very long time, and made his life miserable at times because of it. But, eventually, I got over it and now we are even closer friends than we were before. We are both graduated from college, have careers, and out on our own living in different states. I still talk to him pretty much every day. We even joke about me being in love with him occasionally. It's times we laugh about now.

Sometimes, I don't know why he ever stayed friends with me. I'll even ask him that sometimes, and all he'll tell me is that I'm a great friend. One of the rare moments he purposefully and genuinely says nice things. Haha. Anyway, what my point was in telling you all that is that I don't believe you should ever keep your feelings hidden. I think that could equally harm it. Just be honest. I know it's risking a friendship and they may not return the feelings, but I think it's worth the risk. Even knowing what I know now, and going through all that hell and madness I went through, I wouldn't change him finding out about my feelings. I even wish that I was actually the one who told him. Our friendship made it through all of that. I would even say it's better and stronger because of all that chaos. If you are really that great of friends and they truly treasure the friendship you have, you'll pull through it. You just have to push through whatever it is and fight for the friendship if it means that much to you. I know it all sounds cheesy and like it belongs in a Disney song, but it's what I really believe is the truth from my experiences.

I know these things depend on the person and how it is handled, but I would just never say it's better to keep your feelings a secret and unrequited forever. If nothing else, my situation shows that the friendship can make it through all that. It's not unheard of. He never returned my feelings, we never dated and never will. But the friendship is still there. And very strong. Yeah, he pisses me off sometimes and I'm sure vice versa, but it's still strong.
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Oh, and addressing a comment that I read somewhere on here... A guy and a girl can be good friends, always friends. I have a really good guy friend besides the one I mentioned above and I have never had feelings for him and know I never will. The topic has been addressed by both of us, and I can say with a fair amount of certainty that those feelings will never arise.
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It happened to me once.. but ii nvr told him nnd it went away ;P
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I fell in love with my best friend a few times. Actually, I continuously fall in love with my best friend. It's awesome.
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Yes... I'm in love with my childhood friend I've been friends with since we were both toddlers. But I haven't hung out with him in a year, just see him in school hallways to say a quick "Hey" or "Hi". We both have Facebook too, but he's barely on it I think he has a crush on me too... we're both too quiet and chicken though lol But I will tell him my senior year of high school I'm a junior right now. <3 Since we've known each other for so long, it's pretty likely we'll end up together. We basically have the same personality and things we like in common, so I think he'll say yes when I ask him out later this year He's more of a chicken than I am xD But I love him anyway ^_^
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That happened with me and my girlfriend in the past we started off as friends.
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I assume it'd be easier to fall in love with your best friend, especially if you've known them for a while. You get along for a reason--certainly their personality is something you enjoy.
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Hmm.. The only way a friendship with a woman would work for me is if it was to groom a solid romantic relationship. I wouldn't want to deal with the annoyance of jealousy from a third party or constantly having to keep my instincts suppressed. Superficial friendships are another matter, for all they're worth.

So yeah, for me it would only be natural.
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My best friend is my girlfriend going on 3 years now and looking forward to the rest of our lives together. In my opinion, the reason so many marriages fail in the US is because people aren't actually friends. The looks will fade, the children will leave and eventually you're stuck with an old wrinkly person so you have got to actually like the person, not just be in love with them. Liking someone as well as loving them makes marriages work and keeps things fun.
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Havent read the whole thread but, the reason some people are bestfriends might be because one loves the otherone, even tho the 2nd one dont know
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It is not impossible.
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Tebbin wrote:

Havent read the whole thread but, the reason some people are bestfriends might be because one loves the otherone, even tho the 2nd one dont know


So if you weren't in love with her, you wouldn't be her best friend? That isn't being a best friend then, and in my opinion not a good foundation for love either as I alluded to above.


Tiff-Chan wrote:

It is not impossible.


For you? Many people find that it is true, maybe you'll even find it's true at some point. Just because it hasn't happened yet (or may not) doesn't make it impossible. Have you ever flown an F15? Probably not. Will you ever? Probably not but possibly. Does that make it impossible to fly an F15? Obviously not.
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katsu_lol wrote:

Many movies actually depict how bestrfriends, because of their closeness eventually fall in love with other. Can this happen in real life? What's your say?... Feel free to comment...


yes they can, my uncle and his high school sweetheart just got together and are really happy together it is the first time i have seen him NOT act like a playboy at age 40
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