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Nursing Homes and Your parents
Posted 8/30/10 , edited 8/30/10
If their are any parents reading this they'd be overjoyed and with a sigh of relief be thinking thank goodness these pains in the ass won't leave me in a nursing home and flee. I didn't wipe their asses for nothing so it seems after all.

I think it's karma their kids wanna take care of them or in cases where they can't at least hire good carers.
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Posted 8/30/10
Lolo died exactly 11:02pm last August, 25.. he was 97

He lived with us, until he got sick last month and ended up in the hospital..

anyway.. culture wise it's inconceivable for a Filipino to even consider dumping an elders to a nursing home. family is family and we'll take care of our own.
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I would NOT put my parents in a nursing home.
However, my mother-in-law is in an assisted living facility - they are basically an apartment complex, but each apartment has nifty little cords you pull if you need help (like if you fall and can't get to a phone). I don't see anything wrong with these types of facilities; she still goes out when she wants and shops on her own, and even goes gambling once a year with her neighbors there. Unfortunately my husband and I live a couple hours from her, so my sister-in-law takes care of her and checks in more regularly then we do.
My father and step-mother live in the country...basically 45 mins from the nearest hospital. My dad just turned 59 this year, and doesn't plan to retire from working until 73. He is pretty physically fit, but them living out so far worries me sometimes. If it came down to it, I would recommend an assisted living community, just because for his comfort, he wouldn't want me up his ass 24-7 (lol).
My mother and step-father only live 5 minutes from me. I think I can swing taking care of them...but again, they like a bit of space, and I would probably just have a nurse come look after them if that is what they preferred.

In all of this, I would be the one making all the decisions...my sister is too self absorbed and wouldn't be capable of looking after them. Sad to say about someone I love, but the truth hurts I guess.
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Posted 8/30/10
My dad threaten to hang himself if I ever put him in a nursing home. lol
I never planned to ever do that either way. I'd take care of both my parents if I could and if they are divorced by the time they get very old me and my sisters will think of something.
Posted 8/30/10
I would never put my mum in a caring home. She is a careworker herself & even though she is admittedly the best worker in the agency i've learnt too much of how saddening it can be. My mum's strong she could take care of herself no matter what but i'd be sure to always be near and help however i can
Posted 8/31/10
i wont put my parents in a nursing home, i think they'd want to go back to vietnam, so i'll let them stay over there, and send them money so they can buy whatever and just have fun ^^, of course they can come back and live with me anytime
Posted 8/31/10
I'd look after them, I don't want to see them end up the way my mum's parents were treated.
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purplekawaiix3 wrote:

i wont put my parents in a nursing home, i think they'd want to go back to vietnam, so i'll let them stay over there, and send them money so they can buy whatever and just have fun ^^, of course they can come back and live with me anytime


Aww my parents are like that too. They would someday wanna go back to Vietnam to live there after their retirements.
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