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Does the age really matter?
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Posted 6/14/10
As the others say, it doesn't matter if your like 20 and they're 28. However, I believe teenagers don't actually know what they want, they think they want something, then a few years down the line regret their decision.

A person has to have reached the maturity to actually fully understand what they are saying. Even a 4 year old can say 'I love you' but they won't know the meaning of the words. I still believe a 16 year old does not understand the meaning of the words, there may be exceptional cases with young people reaching a level of maturity that allows them to understand what they're doing, but for most cases, this will not be true.

Age does not matter, if the maturity is at the correct level. This isn't a case of whether two people can be together, it's whether one of the two making this choice of disregarding age will come to regret it in later life.
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Depends really. If it was a 16 year old going out with an 8 year old, that's weird...
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I think it is!
Posted 6/14/10

Chained_Angel wrote:

yeah it does to me. If I was dating a guy 8 years older than me all that would be going through my mind is "While I was in pre-school you were losing your virginity." too weird for me.



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well yes it does matter because you wouldn't want to be rolling around with a pedo.
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I would have to say wait till someone is at that age when they can really think maturely, and by that i mean about 18+ if ur 20+ for teenagers i geuss age really is important because we change alot around that area.
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it all depends on the level of maturity.
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Posted 6/14/10
it matters
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Oh, man, I am such a fucking hippie for this, but no, it doesn't matter. Why should age of all things get in the way of something as amazing as love? You need to look at people as people, not as numbers, you know? I'm not saying everyone should go around chasing 50 year olds down the street with bouquets and boxes of chocolates. I'm saying keep an open mind.

Although, on the other hand, there's nothing wrong with setting restrictions for yourself. If you're not comfortable with the idea, then obviously don't go through with it. It's like sexual orientation, in a way. Either way, the thing is that you don't point fingers. If someone is open to dating an older person, awesome. If someone isn't cool with it, that's just as awesome. It's a totally personal thing, and no one has any room to judge.

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Posted 6/14/10
I would probably date a guy who is at least 5 years older than me, anything higher and I want nothing to do with him. It disguts me when older men hit on me, messes up my whole day.
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Age, Gender, compatibility past history, financial status...

They ALL -matter-.

The question is: do they matter enough.

Three factors come into play here: age of consent, relative age, and what sociologists call "the cohort effect". Age of consent matters because if one half of the couple is underage then regardless of how they may feel, society at large is going to be disapproving.. to the point of criminal prosecution.

Outside of that, yeah as people have said in the previous posts. 10 years is a huge gap when you're 10 and he's 20. sixty years later you're probably roomates in the same nursing home.

The other factor with age is the "cohort effect" part of what makes us what we are is what we lived through and how old we were when we did it.

If your couple was American in the immediate post war era. It's likely only one of them truly experienced the great depression.

Someone who went to university in the 50's probably had a vastly different experience than one who went in the 60's

these things may end up mattering greatly to your couple. For example, What if one had grown up in the privation and starvation of the great depression but the other was a hopeless spendthrift?

Hope this was of use.

Posted 6/14/10
Yeah it does.
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yeah it kinda of matters if your jacked up on hermos and can't make chooses for you self. (sorry of my spelling)
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Posted 6/14/10
age matter under 20.

but from age of 30 and higher. it doesnt really matter. cause youre old anyway
Posted 6/14/10
only if the partner is illegal, lolicon and shotacon may make good anime&manga but in real life it is disgusting and anyone who prescribes to it in real life should be shot
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Posted 6/14/10
Age does matter, because in those 8 years the things you experience the person younger has yet to experience.

The older person will be more mature cause they've experienced more things.

I think that part of a relationship is discovering things and having new experiences together, not having someone guide you through those new experiences.
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