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Who is a virgin and proud of it?
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22 / M / Denmark
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In a way i wish i still were Sex just seems plain and boring unless its with the right person. For me atleast, so yah ^^' sex these days are way to overhyped ^^
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24 / M / USA
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I am proud for now, but I'll be one forever unfortunately
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17 / M / North Dakota
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I am a virgin and hell yeah im pround of it. My opinions on the subject.
people from age 13 to 23 are to immature for relationships in my opinion. You see kids going around saying ''well be in love forever'', but truthfully most of the time this is not true. Teens are to stuck up on forever and believe it every time its said.
MY OPINION IS IF YOU DONT GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP THINKING ''I COULD SEE MYSELF MARRYING THIS PERSON'' AND YOU DONT MARRY THAT PERSON WITHIN A YEAR OF DATING THEM THAN ITS NOT CONSIDERED A RELAITION SHIP TO ME.
People my age and sometimes older just want to experience love. If you say ''I love you'' but feel that marriage is hasty than its not love.
I know it sounds judgemental but I grew up in a very different lifestyle than others so people cant see it my way but trust me, i see it thier way and its ridiculous to me.

Also saying i want to express my love for you by having sex is retarded. Just ask that person if they could express their love for you by getting married. The love just flies right out of the window.

SEX IS NOT THE ULTIMATE EXPRESSION OF LOVE, MARRAIGE IS.
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im a virgin
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17 / M / Long Beach
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I'm a virgin ^_^

Which is rare for guys my age.


I'm "waiting until marriage", which means I'm basically gonna try and wait until engagement... which in turn means it probably won't happen, and I'll end up losing my virginity before I'm even 20 T_T kinda sad.
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Jdaimond wrote:

I am a virgin and hell yeah im pround of it. My opinions on the subject.
people from age 13 to 23 are to immature for relationships in my opinion. You see kids going around saying ''well be in love forever'', but truthfully most of the time this is not true. Teens are to stuck up on forever and believe it every time its said.
MY OPINION IS IF YOU DONT GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP THINKING ''I COULD SEE MYSELF MARRYING THIS PERSON'' AND YOU DONT MARRY THAT PERSON WITHIN A YEAR OF DATING THEM THAN ITS NOT CONSIDERED A RELAITION SHIP TO ME.
People my age and sometimes older just want to experience love. If you say ''I love you'' but feel that marriage is hasty than its not love.
I know it sounds judgemental but I grew up in a very different lifestyle than others so people cant see it my way but trust me, i see it thier way and its ridiculous to me.

Also saying i want to express my love for you by having sex is retarded. Just ask that person if they could express their love for you by getting married. The love just flies right out of the window.

SEX IS NOT THE ULTIMATE EXPRESSION OF LOVE, MARRAIGE IS.


I think you've got the wrong idea about both sex and marriage. Sex isn't an expression of love at all, it's an expression of sexual attraction. As for marriage, if that were the ultimate expression of love, then I would need to marry my friends and family too, and I definitely don't see that happening. Consider that you can love people without being sexually attracted to them, and also consider that marriage probably entails much more than simply loving someone. Finally, consider that if you think others your age are confused about what love is, that you might also be in the same boat. What makes you better at understanding love than your peers? I will tie up my post by saying that I'm pretty sure I don't have a complete understanding of love, but I would guess that the ultimate expression of love towards a person changes from person to person, and is almost never sex or marriage. (And I don't mean to insult marriage either, I'm just saying that love probably entails different things for different people. Marriage is less an expression of love, and more a byproduct of love, attraction, and logistical compatibility -- I think, haha.)
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Posted 12/6/12
I am.
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23 / M / Los Angeles, Ca
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Posted 12/7/12
Nothing but sex, drugs, and rock n' roll.
but on a more serious note, I respect the decision people make to remain celibate, although since I'm young right now I basically want to have as much fun as I can before I'm old and stuck with one girl for the rest of my life.
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Posted 12/7/12
I'm a virgin. I'm neither disappointed or proud of it.
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17 / M / North Dakota
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Posted 12/7/12

theYchromosome wrote:


Jdaimond wrote:

I am a virgin and hell yeah im pround of it. My opinions on the subject.
people from age 13 to 23 are to immature for relationships in my opinion. You see kids going around saying ''well be in love forever'', but truthfully most of the time this is not true. Teens are to stuck up on forever and believe it every time its said.
MY OPINION IS IF YOU DONT GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP THINKING ''I COULD SEE MYSELF MARRYING THIS PERSON'' AND YOU DONT MARRY THAT PERSON WITHIN A YEAR OF DATING THEM THAN ITS NOT CONSIDERED A RELAITION SHIP TO ME.
People my age and sometimes older just want to experience love. If you say ''I love you'' but feel that marriage is hasty than its not love.
I know it sounds judgemental but I grew up in a very different lifestyle than others so people cant see it my way but trust me, i see it thier way and its ridiculous to me.

Also saying i want to express my love for you by having sex is retarded. Just ask that person if they could express their love for you by getting married. The love just flies right out of the window.

SEX IS NOT THE ULTIMATE EXPRESSION OF LOVE, MARRAIGE IS.


I think you've got the wrong idea about both sex and marriage. Sex isn't an expression of love at all, it's an expression of sexual attraction. As for marriage, if that were the ultimate expression of love, then I would need to marry my friends and family too, and I definitely don't see that happening. Consider that you can love people without being sexually attracted to them, and also consider that marriage probably entails much more than simply loving someone. Finally, consider that if you think others your age are confused about what love is, that you might also be in the same boat. What makes you better at understanding love than your peers? I will tie up my post by saying that I'm pretty sure I don't have a complete understanding of love, but I would guess that the ultimate expression of love towards a person changes from person to person, and is almost never sex or marriage. (And I don't mean to insult marriage either, I'm just saying that love probably entails different things for different people. Marriage is less an expression of love, and more a byproduct of love, attraction, and logistical compatibility -- I think, haha.)


why did you throw friends and family in with that? Im talking about a different type of love and that argument was irrelivant to my post.
Also i will answer your question and might come off as arrogant but im not. ''what makes you better at understanding love than your peers?'' thats easy question. Im not saying all relationships from teen years dont work out, in fact, it brings me joy to see one workout. What im saying is that most are immature. They want to experiment with love, they want to see if it can happen when a lot of the times it isnt even there. Once they get bored, they quit and try to find it again no matter if it made someone cry or anything. I heard on a post that a this girl and guy had been going out and the guy said that that spark is gone and maybe they should take a break and be friends, he said maybe the spark will come back. That girl was hoping so much that the spark would come back. You know how often that happens, retorical question, it happens a whole hell of a lot. I couldnt stop thinking about it because it pissed me off so much. IF YOU CAN BARE WITH THE PERSON YOU LOVE CRYING, ITS NOT LOVE. I bet you he went into that relationship saying he loved her but you know what? he didnt. Almost every relationship i see is like this. most of the time relationships are not like they pertray them as on movies. Im just gonna say it in the best way i can. THE HIGHER PERCENTAGE OF RELATIONSHIPS ARE FAKE. But than you see that other percentage of relationships, They dont need sex to prove they love eachother, hell, they dont even need marraige but they do it anyway because its just another way for them to get closer. Another way to prove you love to a person is the will power to stay abstinate till marriage.

Also i dont believe love is always '' logistical compatibility ''. Ever heard '' God is love''? Ever heard ''God works in mysterious way''? I put those 2 together to form my own quote. ''LOVE WORKS IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS''.

It would not be mysterious if i said i knew every thing about it, but I can confidently say that i know more than my peers because unlike most of them my belief is this, you can never stop expressing love towards the one you love.
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Jdaimond wrote:

I am a virgin and hell yeah im pround of it. My opinions on the subject.
people from age 13 to 23 are to immature for relationships in my opinion. You see kids going around saying ''well be in love forever'', but truthfully most of the time this is not true. Teens are to stuck up on forever and believe it every time its said.
MY OPINION IS IF YOU DONT GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP THINKING ''I COULD SEE MYSELF MARRYING THIS PERSON'' AND YOU DONT MARRY THAT PERSON WITHIN A YEAR OF DATING THEM THAN ITS NOT CONSIDERED A RELAITION SHIP TO ME.
People my age and sometimes older just want to experience love. If you say ''I love you'' but feel that marriage is hasty than its not love.
I know it sounds judgemental but I grew up in a very different lifestyle than others so people cant see it my way but trust me, i see it thier way and its ridiculous to me.

Also saying i want to express my love for you by having sex is retarded. Just ask that person if they could express their love for you by getting married. The love just flies right out of the window.

SEX IS NOT THE ULTIMATE EXPRESSION OF LOVE, MARRAIGE IS.


Who are you to tell someone what is or is not love? For that matter, who are you to tell someone what does or does not make a relationship.
On a completely personal level, I find marriage silly. It simply isn't my cup of tea, I'd never consider marrying anyone I happen to get into a relationship with.
If someone feels sex is the ultimate expression of their love, then so be it. Love and relationships are complex, not many people have the exact same way of expressing their feelings. No one has any right to tell someone their ways of expressing love is wrong so long as the action is consensual, if you ask me.
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I can respect the decision of those who have said they wish to wait until marriage. Speaking as someone who is happily divorced, I can also say the following:

"What is the number one cause of divorce? Marriage."

So many people go into marriages with unrealistic expectations, in particular hoping to change their partner to suit their own preferences. It doesn't work. People may grow and change on their own, but if they don't seek it for themselves, only pain and heartache will follow. Some people hide behind masks until well into the marriage, and only then do all their bad habits come out. (This is exactly what happened with my ex wife. Given that she is a compulsive liar, and I was inclined to trust her, since I loved her enough to marry her...it was bound to play out that way.) Many abusive marriages also play out in a similar fashion.
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Spazticus wrote:


"What is the number one cause of divorce? Marriage."

So many people go into marriages with unrealistic expectations, in particular hoping to change their partner to suit their own preferences. It doesn't work. People may grow and change on their own, but if they don't seek it for themselves, only pain and heartache will follow. Some people hide behind masks until well into the marriage, and only then do all their bad habits come out. (This is exactly what happened with my ex wife. Given that she is a compulsive liar, and I was inclined to trust her, since I loved her enough to marry her...it was bound to play out that way.) Many abusive marriages also play out in a similar fashion.


i totally agree. i am a virgin and am happy to say i'm waiting for marriage to do it, although i'm not sure if i'll ever get married. but i have seen what you have said first-hand with my sister. she met a guy at her work (a restaurant at the time and he was a regular there) and they started dating. about 6 months (maybe 7.. can't remember exactly) they told my parents she was pregnant and that they wanted to get married. only thing is, she knew all this stuff about him (convicted felon in Texas for dealing meth and a few other things) but still wanted to marry him. after they were married for 3 months, they got divorced because all kinds of other shit was coming out about him. my niece was born a week before my b-day (end of June) and it was a nightmare. He was still living here and the court they went through said that he could have "parenting time" with his daughter. She was only a few weeks old!!! Now he hasn't shown up for the last 3 1/2 years (thank God) but he still pays child support. trust me, i'm not sure if i ever want to get married after seeing what a nightmare my sister has gone through.
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17 / M / North Dakota
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Jdaimond wrote:

I am a virgin and hell yeah im pround of it. My opinions on the subject.
people from age 13 to 23 are to immature for relationships in my opinion. You see kids going around saying ''well be in love forever'', but truthfully most of the time this is not true. Teens are to stuck up on forever and believe it every time its said.
MY OPINION IS IF YOU DONT GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP THINKING ''I COULD SEE MYSELF MARRYING THIS PERSON'' AND YOU DONT MARRY THAT PERSON WITHIN A YEAR OF DATING THEM THAN ITS NOT CONSIDERED A RELAITION SHIP TO ME.
People my age and sometimes older just want to experience love. If you say ''I love you'' but feel that marriage is hasty than its not love.
I know it sounds judgemental but I grew up in a very different lifestyle than others so people cant see it my way but trust me, i see it thier way and its ridiculous to me.

Also saying i want to express my love for you by having sex is retarded. Just ask that person if they could express their love for you by getting married. The love just flies right out of the window.

SEX IS NOT THE ULTIMATE EXPRESSION OF LOVE, MARRAIGE IS.


Who are you to tell someone what is or is not love? For that matter, who are you to tell someone what does or does not make a relationship.
On a completely personal level, I find marriage silly. It simply isn't my cup of tea, I'd never consider marrying anyone I happen to get into a relationship with.
If someone feels sex is the ultimate expression of their love, then so be it. Love and relationships are complex, not many people have the exact same way of expressing their feelings. No one has any right to tell someone their ways of expressing love is wrong so long as the action is consensual, if you ask me.


I am someone who has experieced hurting someones feelings. The things i said was immature and i hated myself for it. I told myself i would never hastly or irresponsibly do something again. I went back to the girl, got on my knees and said sorry in front of a lot of people to the point that it kind of embarressed her. At first it was so that i could feel better about myself but the more i thought about it the more happier i was that maybe she felt relieved to hear me say it. It was so far from love and as you said ''love is complex'' you just cant fake it. Faking it will only lead into trouble.
Also, i never pointed anybody out in particular so theres no reason to get offended. One of the facts we both got wrong and im just now realizing it is that there if you truly love someone you can never stop expressing you love for them. Sex or marriage, there truly is no way to express you love for them because love is to strong to express it with sex or marriage.
couple questions for you to answer.
Do you believe that more than half of relationships are love.
Why do you not want to get married.

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akali83 wrote:

I am. Waiting for the right man (my husband). Its not a big deal. The only reason people make such an issue of it is because the media utilise the idea of sex so well, we are made to believe that it is shaming if you don't do it.
(Its normally a let down for girls anyway)


I agree with you. I don't know why anybody's private life should be anybody's business. I, for one, don't want to know (or care) about another person's sex life or lack of one. I do however understand why some people publicly parade around their virginity, to give support/encouragement to others to keep theirs as well. Not too long ago you would have been teased/bullied/ostracized for being a virgin (if someone found out). It was also used as an insult......well, I think it still is used as one in some places...
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