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Anybody Dislike Dating?
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21 / F / CT
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Posted 7/28/10
i don't get really like it anough said lol
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Posted 7/28/10
I can agree with you up to certain points.

You remember that dead horse called "Nice guys finish last?"

I argued that nice guys don't finish last because they're not in the race in the first place.

Jerks/Bad Boys? They're far too preoccupied with themselves to see the people around them much less care about them. They don't get into relationships either.

Therefore, when it comes to relationships, neither exist. That's my argument on it.

As for what women want, it would be presumptuous to say, nobody's psychic and can support a hasty generalization like that. So any statement stating "Women want..." or "Women don't want..." , I'm going to be skeptical of. I'll drop a hint though. "Don't listen to what women say.." is the last thing you want to do with a woman. Now if you said "girls", it would be a bit more accurate. I'm not going to fall into the trap of speaking for them though, I can only talk from the male point of view.

Also, being self made, having well developed lives, financial wealth, health and wellness, etc. are not pre requisites of being real men and women. Also, they don't hide. You see them every day just as much as you would see any other person. Definitions of what a real man and what a real woman is can vary, that's understandable. However, I stand by my assertion and everything it entails.


Let me give an example. You know of a 25 year old police officer. Single. Good looking. Every possible item on the list, check check check check. Would you ask him/her on a date?

Here's another. TV anchor in your town for your local news station. Ditto the above on the stats. Would you ask?

Where does the intimidation factor start? Where is the line drawn? Where is that person "out of your league" ?
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33 / F / USA
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Posted 7/28/10
I'm not a fan of dating, but enjoy meeting new people. Currently, i'm single and loving it. In the future, I would like a boyfriend but don't want to go through a bunch of prospects to find him.
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29 / M / New York
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Posted 7/28/10
Not that I don't mind the idea dating, but I'm enjoying my independence and concentrating on my career right now. I'm an introvert, but I would like to find Ms. Right eventually.
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M / Canada
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Posted 7/28/10 , edited 7/28/10
Well way to turn a simple question into rocket science bro; (Monghu)

I love most forms of intimacy with a female, but the dating aspect is such a drag.
It's almost a ritual that turns into a relationship overnight.

Hence, I prefer friendships that can deviate into the naughty zone, though, that usually dissolves the friendship, in retrospect, very pleasant.

But you virgins shall see the light, physicality is safest to figure out in a relationship, but after just listen to your body.
You eat when you're hungry, don't you?
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26 / F / California
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Posted 7/28/10
I've never had a boyfriend,never really wanted one.....all my friends have drama with there men so I enjoy going out on dates an meeting new people ,but as of late I would like to have a boyfriend ,an feel like I'm ready for one but I'm not really one for dating,witch is strange because I would love to have some one to hold an be held an all that good stuff . But again I'm not really one for dating
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Posted 7/28/10

Lemonii wrote:

Well way to turn a simple question into rocket science bro; (Monghu)



*laughs* Amen, Sir.

It isn't the question itself that is complicated, it's just explaining it all. Entailment can only go so far, sometimes just have to spell it out.


The reasoning behind "why date?" is very important though, as the answer determines the difference between happy and successful dating and repeated train wrecks.

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24 / M / Osaka, Japan ★
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Posted 7/28/10
hhmm.. as long as I like the person I am dating with well prolly everything
will be enjoyable.. but if the person sux like hell then he should be buried alive in the
dessert...
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M / Canada
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Posted 7/28/10
Jean is awesome, lol, don't change a thing;

But for Monghu and other frustrated by life men, I have some wrong advice that should feel oh so right.
People that are out of the dating game, feeling lonely, feeling like they need help,

READ THIS

All of you guys (and girls) have a similar complex.
it's the reason the word perfection seems to surface from time to time.
Perfection stems from a deep rooted anxiety towards failure.
Now stating the problem is one thing, undoing it might seem harder, but it's not.
Try to recall an instance where you've learned something without getting it wrong first.
Go on, I'll wait.........
That's right, never.

Sure, you might have aced a test or gotten a correct answer to a question once in your life, but never no way no how can you grasp an entire concept without prerequisite experience.

So step one is accepting that failure to achieve your goal is part of the journey, never the final stop and often the first step!
Failure is scary. But it's not permanent. And it will always serve you as a life lesson on future ventures.

Get a prostitute in on the preparations if needed.

It's like paying for an education and will surely help you get the edge off on a date with a non-working lady.
Don't forget, a lady is always a lady and no, you don't have to carnally consume said working lady, just use her to gain experience in appropriate touching, non-committal conversation etc.
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Posted 7/28/10

Lemonii wrote:
It's like paying for an education and will surely help you get the edge off on a date with a non-working lady.
Don't forget, a lady is always a lady and no, you don't have to carnally consume said working lady, just use her to gain experience in appropriate touching, non-committal conversation etc.

And herpes.

Dating is fine, but ladies. Here's the deal: Pay for your own shit on the first date.

You think that men should pay for your shit on the first date?
Fine, I will pay for your shit assuming you will sleep with me that night.

Once I've confirmed you're not a gold digger, I'll pay for your shit. Or else, shut the fuck about this whole "gentlemen" crap. It's utter bullshit.

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Posted 7/28/10
You're not supposed to be a bargainhunter if following my advise, indeed.
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Posted 7/28/10

coorta wrote:

I have not dated anyone in a very long time. I would give anything to be able to date again, but I made a choice long ago not to try even if I wanted to. I fell in love, and I had to end the relationship due to something I did. I hurt the person I loved the most. Because of that, I ended it with her, and she was heartbroken, as was I. She begged me to reconsider, but at the time I felt I had no choice.

After that, I ended up in a lot of 1night stand situations to try and fill the gap in my heart. To find some pleasure that would take the pain away, or at least help to ease it. In the end I had to give up. Nothing helped me to feel better. In the end, I made a promise to myself, that I will never again try to pursue one night stands, or fall in love. Because in the end, I dont want to cause anyone else the same pain I caused her.


And you call yourself a man? Pathetic. I've seen rape victims and starving children with less issues than you.
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M / Canada
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Posted 7/28/10
Makix, you're not exactly sympathizing with anyone, are you?
How is your critique constructive?
I'm sure they've heard your shouts a dime a dozen, how's about you try to help'm instead, don't kick m when he's down
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35 / F / FL
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Posted 7/28/10
Wow, there's a lot of people here who haven't dated at all on here. I'm one more of those. I'm not necessarily against dating though. I won't date someone just for fun or temporary companionship. If I ever do start dating it'll be with the idea that I'm looking for someone to marry and have a family with.
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Posted 7/28/10 , edited 7/28/10
That's enough. Don't start a flame war.

I'll say this about my dating, personally.

I have no issues. I have casual dates and I make use of call girls when the desire is there. When I go on a date, sex is the LAST thing on my mind (because I get it taken care of specifically elsewhere !)

The stereotypes and generalizations are dangerous as well. I get tested every six months and I take every precaution. In addition, the companies I receive service from pride themselves on their reputations and they are top class. I've had no incidents with them, period. I dare say my regular choices are quite fond of me as well.

My dates are usually upscale and planned. I mean I go hollywood with the wallet. I typically dress business casual but on a date I break out the 3 piece, my best borsalino fedora, and every intention to treat this lady. I frequent places where I'm on a first name basis with many of the staff, known as a generous tipper, and have a few strings to pull in case I want to surprise my date. Best thing is, due to experience and practice, I'm damned good at planning a budget for the date and sticking to it. My estimates are accurate down to a 5 dollar margin of error.

It is typically common practice for the one asking to offer to treat. I've had a few women turn down my treat offer and go dutch, I've had two rare incidents where two women treated me instead. But it is just plain rude and crass to say something like "If I treat, then you have to sleep with me. Otherwise, you pay your end."

What you place emphasis on speaks VOLUMES about you as a person. That is an incredibly selfish statement to make.

Money's the least of my worries on a date. All I'm concerned about is whether she and I are entertained or not. Just focused on the conversation and the flow of events for the evening. When I go on a date, I turn heads. I'm suave, classy, damn good looking, connected, witty, clever, and flexible. I am out to enjoy this fine lady's company and be entertained.

As a result, want to take a guess on just how big the smile on my date's face usually is at the end of the evening? Whatever I spent is a pittance compared to the word of mouth praise that has gone around about me, the respect I've earned, and all the future happy dates I will go on.

I have had a grand total of 0 complaints in my lifetime. That's including the big "ex" in it.

Worrying about the damn bill and getting laid, sheesh. Just get the call girl and spare the nice lady the trouble. Your itch gets scratched, lady gets paid, and the "date" is spared the waste of time and is free to move on to other boys and men.
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