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What do you think of shy and quiet people?
Posted 8/1/10
What do you think of shy and quiet people?
How do act act toward them? Do you think they are stuck up, because they don't talk to you?
Do you think they are smart or smarter because they are quiet in class, unlike almost everyone else? Do you think they are depressing or weird or even crazy?
Do you feel like you have to act differently around them because they're different?
Do you feel bad for them? Do you try to talk to them because you feel bad for them?
Do you judge them harder or think about them differently because they are shy or quiet?


Sorry for all the questions but I'm just very curious about this, mostly because I'm shy and quiet (basically just introverted, though). I just don't understand why shy and quiet people get the bad rap because we don't talk all the time like everyone else. We can be social and outgoing if you get to know us better. And we're not always the ones that shoot up the school. It can be the ones that act normal when they're actually about to explode inside.

I also really hate when people are constantly asking me why I'm so quite. Asking me 50 million times doesn't mean I'm going to answer. And then everyone has to comment on how I'm so shy or quite for 5 minutes. Yes I know I'm shy and don't talk to people, but do you really have to tell me any chance you get? Does anyone else feel like this?




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i would act different....if they were shy to me that would mean they wouldn't really talk to me and that would be boring....^^"
but i would be nicee and talk to them C:
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Yeah, I get that a lot by people, mostly because I don't talk to others. People are always misjudging my character, and I always seem to cause animosity when around others, even though they have no reason to dislike me.

I've also been called "snotty" or "stuck up", and have recieved "pitty talks" from my peers as if I'm some type of scared kitten in need of comfret. I've also been asked hundreds of times "why are you so quiet?" or "why don't you smile?" To be honest, I don't owe the world anything, and if I smile than it's for myself. People don't know anything about me, yet I'm easily judged.

If I smile too much than I'm hiding something.
If I'm too nice, than I'm taken advantage of.

So I figured to fuck everyone else and just be who I am.
Posted 8/1/10

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Yeah, I get that a lot by people, mostly because I don't talk to others. People are always misjudging my character, and I always seem to cause animosity when around others, even though they have no reason to dislike me.

I've also been called "snotty" or "stuck up", and have recieved "pitty talks" from my peers as if I'm some type of scared kitten in need of comfret. I've also been asked hundreds of times "why are you so quiet?" or "why don't you smile?" To be honest, I don't owe the world anything, and if I smile than it's for myself. People don't know anything about me, yet I'm easily judged.

If I smile too much than I'm hiding something.
If I'm too nice, than I'm taken advantage of.

So I figured to fuck everyone else and just be who I am.


I know what that is like. Being pitied and looked down upon is irritating, but I know there are people who care for me. There are times when we doubt the affections of others and push them away from fear of getting hurt. Everything takes time to change, and even the most introverted person can open up to a more pleasant possibility than just living in self-ordained solitude.
Posted 8/1/10
They're people, who happen to be shy. Since I'm shy, I can relate to social awkwardness. And I don't care about social status. Treat me with respect & I'll respect you.


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What do you think of shy and quiet people?

I think shy and quiet ppl have a lot of things bottled up in their minds =/

How do act act toward them? Do you think they are stuck up, because they don't talk to you?


I act like i normally do 2 ppl... if they talk 2 me i talk 2 them, if they don't then i rly don't mind

Do you think they are smart or smarter because they are quiet in class, unlike almost everyone else?

Hmm sometimes... becuz when i have a friends in one of my classes i kinda do bad, but when they transferred 2 another class 4 sum reason i do very good (less distractions)... other then tht no becuz they might be a average type of person and they're unsure whether the ppl in the class are mean or nice or they might feel tht they're different (foreigner)

Do you think they are depressing or weird or even crazy?

Sometimes again... becuz of all the quiet and shy ppl i talk 2, i got 2 admit they're pretty depressed, weird, or crazy (but tht's wat i like about them)... but again it could be tht unsure average person or he/she is an anti-social person

Do you feel like you have to act differently around them because they're different?

Not rly.. I treat every1 the same.. if they're respectful and nice 2 me, then i return the favor... if they bother me then i be mean 2 them

Do you feel bad for them? Do you try to talk to them because you feel bad for them?

Not rly... if they want 2 talk, they talk.. if they want 2 stay quiet it's there choice

Do you judge them harder or think about them differently because they are shy or quiet?

I honestly don't think much of people in general

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Posted 8/1/10 , edited 8/2/10
I'm also pretty shy and quiet.

If people think I'm stuck up because I'm not talking to them, I don't really mean to since I don't know what to say without making things super awkward. It's hard sometimes.

I think if you want to be friends with someone shy, you should just hang around them until you feel they've gotten used to seeing you, go up to him/her and say, "Hey, do you want to be my friend?" Someone said that to me before and it made me really happy.
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FUUU stupid thing posted before i was done

What do you think of shy and quiet people?
no opinion? i don't make big, blanket statements in the first place. i form an opinion on the person themselves, not their behaviors. and anyway, it's not like you can help how you react in social situations. if it's your instinct to kind of behave timorously, then you can't exactly control that. (unless you really, really want to. but generally, not gonna happen.)

How do act act toward them? Do you think they are stuck up, because they don't talk to you?
i'm a little more careful of what i say to them than i am with really outgoing people. i know that shy =/= sensitive, but their typical mannerisms make my slightly handicapped brain assume they're really fragile. of course i get a little more friendly with them as i kinda start to crack the armor, but like you said, you have to get to know them. stuck up? um, maybe a little in some cases. it's just human nature. i can't tell what people are thinking when they're not talking to me, so it's justified i guess. it just comes off that way when people don't even seem to be making an effort. :x i know it's wrong in retrospect, but when you're *in* the moment and you're trying to talk to someone and they're just giving you one word answers or not really responding at all, unless they're fidgeting around or giving some kind of body language, it's just normal to assume they're being rude. sorry to say.

Do you think they are smart or smarter because they are quiet in class, unlike almost everyone else? Do you think they are depressing or weird or even crazy?
nope. my best friend can't shut her big mouth for 10 seconds and she's easily the smartest person i've ever met. i don't think how shy or outgoing you are affects your intelligence either way. well, depressing, sometimes. i dunno, passive people sometimes give off the illusion of sadness i think. but of course, that doesn't necessarily mean they are sad people. matter of fact, they're most likely not.

Do you feel like you have to act differently around them because they're different?
i tend to be a little more gentle, but that's all. i just don't want to make them uncomfortable or anything fjkksf. i just feel more at ease being more playful with extroverted people. it's because of the mannerisms, i swear it!

Do you feel bad for them? Do you try to talk to them because you feel bad for them?
not really. not unless i'm aware that they're really unhappy with the way they are. i dunno, some people are alright with being shy and don't need a gigantic pity party. but i've ran into others who feel bad about how they are in social situations and i always feel bad for them, haha. i'd feel bad for anyone who wasn't happy with something that they can't really control. no, it's not because i feel bad. i try to talk to them because i'm the type of person who goes out of their way to make friends in the first place. so no one is safe, haha.

Do you judge them harder or think about them differently because they are shy or quiet?
i don't judge them harder, but i do think about them differently. just little mental notes that they are in fact shy or quiet and i should respect that.
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Actually I was a person like that... Though most my friends are shy people.
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I think their normal people?
Posted 8/1/10
I'm like that... I just not a talking person.... But people just randomly talk to me like I was a new toy they can play with.... and when they get bored they stopped. It's wierd I never talk but they start talk to me like they know me of ages... It's awkward... But maybe they pity me? But then again the kids in my school gossip like it's ritual everyday so I think not talking helps me not get into peoples drama and stuff...
Posted 8/1/10
you shy people should start talking. especially the hot quiet ones. how am i suppose to make my move if you're not responding?
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i'm a quiet person myself. and people always think that i'm bitchy (yes, some people have hard time approaching me) or has something to hide, because i don't talk much.
and when it comes to starting a conversation i'm not really good at initiating them or even keep a conversation going. and i'm also choosy about friends ,i only choose who i want to be friends with based on their personality and i just don't make friends with anyone.
when i'm at a social gatherings i only choose who i want to talk to (the ones who are easy to talk to). some people are having problem with this.
Posted 8/1/10

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What do you think of shy and quiet people?

I think shy and quiet ppl have a lot of things bottled up in their minds =/

How do act act toward them? Do you think they are stuck up, because they don't talk to you?


I act like i normally do 2 ppl... if they talk 2 me i talk 2 them, if they don't then i rly don't mind

Do you think they are smart or smarter because they are quiet in class, unlike almost everyone else?

Hmm sometimes... becuz when i have a friends in one of my classes i kinda do bad, but when they transferred 2 another class 4 sum reason i do very good (less distractions)... other then tht no becuz they might be a average type of person and they're unsure whether the ppl in the class are mean or nice or they might feel tht they're different (foreigner)

Do you think they are depressing or weird or even crazy?

Sometimes again... becuz of all the quiet and shy ppl i talk 2, i got 2 admit they're pretty depressed, weird, or crazy (but tht's wat i like about them)... but again it could be tht unsure average person or he/she is an anti-social person

Do you feel like you have to act differently around them because they're different?

Not rly.. I treat every1 the same.. if they're respectful and nice 2 me, then i return the favor... if they bother me then i be mean 2 them

Do you feel bad for them? Do you try to talk to them because you feel bad for them?

Not rly... if they want 2 talk, they talk.. if they want 2 stay quiet it's there choice

Do you judge them harder or think about them differently because they are shy or quiet?

I honestly don't think much of people in general

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I'm a shy and quiet guy but there are sum ppl i just prefer 2 associate with


Same here.
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Since I'm one of those people ( in certain situations) I understand them. Usually in my experience the stuck up ones are the ones blabbering away without thinking. People treat just fine I seem to have a lot of friends and so I treat quiet people pretty nice unless they are kinda weird because they choose to be. For me I'm just quiet and shy because I can't really think of anything to add in certain conversations or I have no interest in what people are saying lol.
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