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Teenage Relationships.
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Posted 10/29/10
If it's love it'll last forever. Hopefully that's quite a while yet, so don't rush things. If you can't slow down and take your time, you need to step back and consider your self "not dating" for your own sake.

If you can't be friends, I don't see how you can love one another. Start with that, and when you have a job or an education, you can think about things beyond. Being friends while not actively looking for other potential spouses, I think, is a much better term to use than dating.
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Posted 10/29/10
I've never been in a serious relationship but I give advice to a lot of my friends at school. I always tell them that don't expect it to be flourishing as the movies, anime or media (in general) perceive it to be. The nearest I've been to get a relationship was about 3 years ago with a girl i thought would be "the one". Turns out my Atruistic Love towards her didn't cut out because as I've expected, she didn't love me back. I was pretty mature for my age ( if I say so myself) when I handled it. I didn't complain, blame, hated anyone, not even myself for liking her and the response she had when i said i liked her.


Sadly, a lot of people have a wrong perception of what love truly is nowadays imo, being self-centered love rather than Atruistic which for me is the strongest love in the whole god damned universe. <3

God loved the birds and invented trees.
Man loved the birds and invented cages.

~Jacques Deval


So in my opinion yes, it is fine to have teenage relationships, but please be mature about it.

Don't cling to her/him after a break up
Don't kill yourself (physically/emotionally/spiritually)
Don't blame others or yourself because you thought she was the one.
Don't feel it's the end of the world because (as cliche at it may sound), it's just the beginning.

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Posted 11/3/10
hmm i really don't know because i haven't experience to have a boy friend..im focusing on my studies..

but i think it;s normal to have teenage relationship it's are parts of teenage life..
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22 / F / look behind you. (:
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Posted 11/4/10
to learn, not to last.
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Posted 11/4/10

Aqune13Machika wrote:

I am completely a loner, so I have never been in a relationship.
But by seeing my 18 year old brother, I know it is a distraction from school or family issues.
Whether they are good or bad, I cannot say, but I believe that to some people they are benificial.
Although to many they are serious, I also know some people that date for the sake of status, which I find ridiculous.
Until I meet someone who accepts me as I am, I will not participate in a relationship, and I suggest others do the same.


I'm in the same situation... It's not as bad as people say, no being in a relationship that is..!!
Posted 11/30/10
I look at little 14 year old couples and think "HA! Funny stuff"

Posted 11/30/10
Most times, they're based on a false reality.
Posted 12/19/10
i hate teenagers
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Posted 12/19/10

vietboy101593 wrote:
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Now according to my parents who are very much traditionally Asian (Vietnamese) they say that teenage relationships are very bad. It leads to a drop in grades according to them as one will spend more time on said significant other than school. They say it will also lead to bad behavior, and unwanted pregnancies but what makes me very frustrated is that they say that LOVE does not exist at an age younger than 25.


I on the other hand thinks love wouldn't exists after 25 years old. People tend to grow very cynical not able to completely 'fall in love" like idiots anymore. And reality hits in and its really hard to just be with your significant other. You gotta start considering lots of other things.
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Posted 12/19/10
I think dating should be a means to an end~meaning marriage. The book I Kissed Dating Goodbye was a really good read on this. (((((HUGS))))) sandi
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Posted 12/19/10
It's a good way to learn to cope with relationships and their endings before adulthood, and before things get more serious.

Though the radiohead song "creep" comes to mind.
I don't care if it hurts
I want to have control
I want a perfect body
I want a perfect soul
I want you to notice
When I'm not around
You're so fucking special
I wish I was special

There's a lot of unrequited love flying about in high school.
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Posted 2/19/11
Sometimes relationships go up and go down. You have to work your problems out witht the person you love so much.
Like me, I fell in love with person name Mylinh. I love her so much, she makes me happy when i'm with her. I always make her laugh which it makes me more happy that she's laughing at my jokes and happy too. Now we broke up for 2 weeks already and I still love her. I think she still loves me back but I'm gonna get her back. I won't losse her. I hope someday I'll marry her. I know I'm 17 years old but I'm telling the truth.

I lover her to death, I swear the god.
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17 / M / boys locker room
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It's not easy to say "yes" or "no" to such a general question, because different individuals can get different results. Just because you've benefited doesn't mean everyone will. And of course, they should only be for fun, I really don't think you should fall in love so fast.

Pros
If he's hot, your in luck
You can release some natural sexual tension most teenagers feel
If you're lame, you can enjoy all that romance shit girls like
If you're a bitch, you can make him pay for your shit

Cons
It takes up your time
You most likely don't know what you really want when you're so young, so you 2 might fight a lot anyways. Many relationships are just emotional roller coasters .
If you aren't ready, having sex too young can kind of mess someone up
If you're immature, you might not handle the situation right and some kids get really obsessive and confused, and think they fall in love when they really haven't (this is hard to explain, I hope you know what I mean)
There are risks of date rape or pregnancy
If you break up, you might get really depressed, especially when your a teenager.
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Posted 2/19/11
I don't know how I feel about teenage relationships. I have been in two. The first was at 14, we had sex after one year, and then we broke up within a year after that. We've dated since on and off. The other was a really really bad influence relationship that was really bad for me. I ended up doing a lot of things that weren't me, weren't logical, rational, ethical... *sigh* but I have most certainly learned from it and the only thing I would change would be to break up with him the instant I found _____ instead of dragging the relationship on hoping for change. People only change if THEY want to, not if you want them to. There is no reason to waste your life waiting, wishing, and hoping.


Sunnyxx wrote:

It's a good way to learn to cope with relationships and their endings before adulthood, and before things get more serious.

Though the radiohead song "creep" comes to mind.
I don't care if it hurts
I want to have control
I want a perfect body
I want a perfect soul
I want you to notice
When I'm not around
You're so fucking special
I wish I was special

There's a lot of unrequited love flying about in high school.

I love that song. But I'm a creep... I'm a weirdo. What the hell am I doing here? I don't belong here... I don't belong here.


Hedbrant wrote:

wtf where's the rebel in you? I don't even want to think about other rules your parents set.
Who are you studying for? Your parents or yourself?
You're supposed to break the rules in your age.


When I was 17 I was already tired of girls and my liver must've looked like shit .... still, my grades were just fine.

Even if teenage relationships never last it will get you experience in life. Thats not something you can learn from a book.


I don't know why but this made me smile.
Posted 2/19/11
Im vietnamese tooo! and my parents are exactly the same way with the same excuse.
They said i can only get one when i finish college, not high school but college and i think they dont plan for me to marry until im at least 35 lol
but little do they know i break all their rules.

I agree with you, love do help people grow of course there are going to heart break but that just shows you werent meant to be with that person and eventually you will find someone right.

I think teenage years are where you get to be carefree and gain new experience, thats why my parents and i dont get along, like your said they are traditional and very very old fashioned.

Teenagers with strict parents should lead a revolution!! lol
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