If a girl sleeps with a lot of strange guys all the time, it is not the male's fault, it's her fault for spreading her legs to everyone who asks. Your depiction of all women as helpless victims when it comes to their sexuality, and all men as wild bulls who can't keep their pants on, is one of the reasons why gender discrimination and double standards exist. That is why people see a male who sleeps with tons of women as "cool" because of the stereotype of men being unable to control their need to spread their seed everywhere, so they are looked up to when they spread it as much as possible; and it is why women who sleep around are seen as sluts because of the stereotypical view that women are only supposed to reserve themselves for one person.

HAHA. women these days, they're getting more and more liberated.
first it was gender equality, now this liberation.. WOW. but it's all right.
change is the only constant thing in this world.

nevertheless, sex before marriage is fine. just make sure you know and you can handle the consequences of your actions.

Well I completely disagree with that sex after marriage thing..
You should have sex when you feel ready,when you have found the right person,and when you are mature enough to know how to protect yourself and deal with the consequences...


[Maybe you'll never get married..why miss the pleasure? ;)(just kiddin:P)]

So after I've been married and divorced once, I can have sex with all the people I want?

Sure seems like a waste of time. >_>

Absolutely nothing wrong with sex before marriage if you have no religious grounds against it.

As an agnostic atheist, I have no formalised religion, and therefore have no outside moral objections to sex before marriage.

I find it amusing how some people try to spin their arguments into these big waffling debates about the harm that it can do. There is no difference in 'harm' through sex between married and unmarried couples. I wish people would just leave drama at the door when arguing these things.

One thing that always confuses me is this: What exactly are we talking about when we say 'pre-martital sex'? Does oral count? Because all the religious people I've talked to seem to have different theories on it. I won't list the many other 'almost but not quites' because I think we all get the picture. ;)

- STDs can still be spread. Even if your partner has never had sex with anyone else before, there is nothing stopping them from having an IV drug habit, have it passed on from parents or had a needlestick injury. Oral sex still spreads most STDs as well, so there goes that argument.

- Pregnancy can still occur regardless of marital status. And don't drag the abortion debate into this, thankyouverymuch.

- Relationship damage? What? The use of absolutes in that little blurb really ticks me off. And I seriously doubt the arguments of a document that uses the fictional term 'relational'. I'm sorry, but exactly what is stopping someone from, I dunno... lying about their past sexual history to a fiancee/fiance? The argument itself is ridiculous: Trust is exactly the reason why relationships work regardless of marital status. Either you trust your partner or you don't. And only very insecure people worry about their sexual prowess compared to previous lovers. If you're open and close with your partner there is an easy solution that: ask them and find out what they like!

Ultimately it's a personal choice. Personally, I think it's unwise to not see if you are sexually compatible as well as being emotionally compatible. But that's just me.

well, it is sinful in my religion.
i don't know bout others though but i am against it.
i mean, wouldn't it be good (morally and x physically) if it is 1st time 4 both parties?
wouldn't u feel honoured that u r the 1st to have seen her/his as urs?

it's okay for me if the guy had sex before... as long as i'm his last...
and for me... i would like to reserve my virginity to my husband-to-be...

People practicing certain religions might deem it "wrong", but I think what we have to examine first is the question, WHY do people have sex? In marriage, people have it because it's an emotional experience they want to share with their spouse (or at least, that's what I'd hope it is). Outside of marriage, people in committed relationships probably have sex for the same reasons, although they feel they don't want to wait until they get married. I don't have a problem with either of these situations because to each other own. Besides, if it's something special you want to share with someone you love, what DIFFERENCE does it make if you're married or not? You don't need a little piece of paper saying you're legally bound to one another to love each other.

On the other hand, one-night-stands are a different story. Clearly, these are hormone-driven and possess little if any emotional content. If you're someone who does this regularly and that makes you happy, well, by all means. As long as you're safe about it and are very clear with the person you're doing it with that this is a one-time thing and there is no commitment involved.

Personally, I can't do any kind of sexual activity without emotional attachment, but that's just me. *shrug* Sex is a very natural activity and there's nothing wrong with it, as long as you're not hurting anyone with it.

I love it when people make sense. *hug*

You gotta have sexual compatibility in addition to everything else to have a fulfilling relationship. It is a very important factor for a successful relationship.

I'm against marriage as an institution
It's fine if you love or even like this person enough. Sleeping with any moron/bitch to see "What do people mean when they say "Sex pwnz!" is stupid. With all the illnesses nowadays -- lethal.

I try.

::Bows::