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Sex before Marriage?
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69 / M / Kalamzoo, Michiga...
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Posted 6/14/12
Religion doesn't stop most people from sinning, it just prevents you from enjoying it.
Personally I think a lot of unhappy marriages happen because the couple is sexually incompatible.

You need to practice before you commit.

Try before you buy.
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Posted 6/18/12
is a no no cause . if he or she master's the art and joy of sex before marriage . the other will find out or notify it
thus read your social life ,, books or thus its the one game the two player will begain in level 1 to joy land lol
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I think that marriage has several levels of intimacy, with sex being pretty "low" if you were to rank the following:
Spiritual intimacy--if you're religious, believe in something called a "soul." Being intimate at this level involves caring for the others' well-being, putting the other ahead of yourself.
Emotional intimacy--being able to share your deepest reflections and thoughts with the one you love, and not feeling ashamed or afraid of being rejected.
Relational intimacy--finding common ground in day-to-day activities and behavior.
Physical intimacy--reaching the other person through physical contact, includes but is not limited to sexual activity.

I see that some people regard marriage as merely a product of society--"we do it because society expects us to." I have been raised to believe that marriage is something more. Marriage is the union of two becoming one, united in mind and spirit, symbolized in flesh. Thus, I don't believe that sex is the be-all end-all of marriage.
However, I think that sex is something special and more than just the biological means of reproduction. It is a symbol of intimacy between two people--intimacy involves lowering your defenses and allowing yourself to be vulnerable to another person's touch (both physically and emotionally). For this reason, it shouldn't be taken lightly, and should be carefully guarded until both are ready to be vulnerable to each other. It may be very well be possible that sex can be treated as separate and detached from emotions--the term "one night stand" comes to mind. However, in my humble opinion, this reveals a lack of self-respect, or a lacking in self-protection.

Seeing as sexual intercourse generates a pleasurable feeling, it is wise to seek a mate who not only is able to control him/herself from seeking the pleasing desires, but also chooses to value his/her own body highly. By "saving" him/herself for marriage, such a person demonstrates perseverance, commitment, and faith--believing that abstaining from pre-marital sex is worth the wait, even more so than the instant gratification. It is "natural" to feel sexual desires, but it is also the responsibility of men/women to not be ruled by these desires.
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Posted 6/24/12

JymRegal wrote:

Religion doesn't stop most people from sinning, it just prevents you from enjoying it.
Personally I think a lot of unhappy marriages happen because the couple is sexually incompatible.

You need to practice before you commit.

Try before you buy.


This. I have several christian friends who have married young, most likely because they're eager to haves sex with their girlfriend/boyfriend.
One of them was as young as 16 when she married. Can you believe such foolishness?
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69 / M / Kalamzoo, Michiga...
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Posted 6/24/12
Should you have sex before marriage? If your religion forbids it and you follow your religious beliefs then by all means don't do it. But remember, many religions believe sex is a sacred act meant for procreation. Sex for pleasure is naughty and weakens the spirit.

Back before condoms and birth control unmarried women with a child were a social outcast. Then there was good reason for religions to forbid sex outside of marriage. But today, those attitudes have changed.

Marriage is a partnership and should be undertaken for more that just having sin free sex and making babies. It's also about love and sharing your life with a soul mate. If you want kids, fine, but it is not the only reason.

Today 50% of married couples get divorced, whether their religion forbids it or not. So you may as well start a thread about whether people should get divorced.

Many people choose not to get married but still have a loving sex life.

Finally. the simple answer to this simplistic question is: Don't do it if you think it's wrong, or enjoy the beauty of sex with someone you care about outside of marriage, but be careful and responsible.
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Posted 10/8/12
how romantic it is for two virgins to have sex with eachother for the first time once they have married....for 3 minutes

if you love her enough youd hold yourself back and wait for her...dont you love her enough to endure endless heartbreaks in order to
gain the skill to curl her toes and leave her exhausted with a smile the first time you have sex?

first impressions are lasting impressions after all...
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Posted 10/8/12
I'm of the opinion that masturbation and sex are good and healthy for you.
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I don't think you need to wait until you're married. I'm not much of a fan of an institutionalized marriage anyway. If two people truly love each, then sex is just a great way for them to build an even stronger relationship. A piece of paper does not guarantee an enriching, long-lasting relationship (growing divorce rates). I don't see a problem in two people who really care about each other having sex.
Also, if someone wants to copulate like rabbit in spring, they can do that, it's their business. I personally, though, don't agree with that kind of behavior, it's just not my style.
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Posted 10/10/12
Sex is an intimate and vital part of any romantic relationship. So before you decide to spend your entire life with someone I'd like to think it's okay to go for a few test drives before hand.
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Posted 10/16/12
you'll get aids if you have it too much
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23 / M / Ireland
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Posted 10/17/12
It's okey to do it before marriage, its just sex, doing it with someone you love on the other hand is way better!
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Posted 10/17/12
It's perfectly fine and normal.
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Posted 10/19/12
I believe there is a lot of negative stigma regarding sex before marriage, and I feel they can be damaging to a persons self image and life experiences. Sex in itself is not bad. It can be a wonderful thing between two people who love each other, or it can be a one night stand. Either way....it is just sex....it shouldn't be viewed any more negatively than eating or breathing. It is a natural bodily function!

I think it's important for people to realize that sex in itself is not good or bad...it just is.

The question regarding if sex before marriage is bad or not...is purely a religious question and it will depend on the individual and their beliefs. I was raised that sex is a sin before marriage. However, after having several life experiences, I have found that sex is not mystical...it is not love...it is not dirty or shameful or disrespectful...it is just sex. No big deal.

As long as you're mature, responsible, and you have decided that it is okay for you (emotionally/religiously)....then go for it and have some fun!

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Posted 10/19/12
I'm fine with it. You just can't be a complete moron about it. Be safe, kids.
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Posted 10/21/12
I think that everyone in life needs to make their own choice. But they need to be accountable for any and all outcomes. Personally, I am going to wait until marriage. There are simply too many variables, too many things that could go wrong. "Safe not sorry" is my motto.
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