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A Real Boyfriend
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Posted 11/20/11
too perfect to be true ... agree to it except : "When you see her at her worst, tell her she's beautiful." when i'm at my worst just don't mention it XD lol
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That list of things is retarded any woman who needs a guy for all this stuff is insane and has way too many emotional problems.The reason why girls can't find a guy to do all these things is because that guy would have to be clinically insane. For the guys who say they do all this stuff they are full of shit. If a guy was remotely close to being able to do this he wouldn't have to waste his time with someone who has as many emotional issues as are in the full list. Women who are single because they are looking for the perfect man are self delusioned that they are worthy of having a guy who is perfect.

All the following are things on the list that have harsh legal consequences which can include jail time for the offending person.

- When she pushes you or hits you like a dummie because she thinks she's stonger then you, grab her and don't let go.
The correct response to this is call the cops and file assault charges. If your partner regardless of sex hits you it is assault. If you let it happen once then it will happen again with more ferocity.

- When she starts cursing at you trying to act all tough, kiss her and tell her you love her.
No arguement should involve swearing on either persons part. Verbal abuse is still abuse and the relationship should end the first time an obcenity is uttered by either person.

- When she pulls away, pull her back.
This could get you an assault charge as well. The act of holding someone against their will is called kidnapping.

- When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers.
No doesn't mean yes. If it's over then it's over. To play a game like that is indicative to real intentions and causes more restraining orders to be filed.

• When she runs up to you crying, first thing you say is "Whose ass am I kicking baby?"
Thinking that solving a problem by hurting someone is wrong no matter what the circumstances are. if a guy just arbitrarily goes and attacks someone because his girlfriend is upset at that person the boyfriend goes to jail.
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Posted 11/20/11
I like them all. I'ma try to be like that. I'm not perfect but I want to be a good boyfriend.
Posted 11/20/11
I am that guy. Ha ha ha ha! Hell, no.
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Posted 11/20/11
@Darament, you trolling right?
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Posted 11/20/11
The one about 'pulling her close when she's mad and kissing her' made me smile. It reminded me of the only time a woman ever cut me with a knife. Sure they are always sorry afterward and go on and on about getting back together later ... but seriously, amorous lover or creepy stalker is the fine line all men walk.

If you want to know if a list like this is good or not, do one of the following:

1. If your in a relationship, print out the list and show it to your BF or GF and get their opinion on each item. Girls can speak in more general terms if they feel embarrassed. Go item by item. People tend to talk at each other and not to each other. Being specific helps you understand each other better.

2. If your not presently in a relationship and you do these things anyway, seek immediate professional help before its too late.
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Posted 11/20/11

Synqro wrote:

@Darament, you trolling right?


Trolling no, bringing my opinion on this subject yes.


The whole point of the list is for women to basically think it's ok to be moody, self centered, and play mind games. The whole thing is unrealistic. There are things in it that most people will do without question because they are things that decent people do but in the real world some of the things are construable as illegal.

Just because someone posts something doesn't always make it right. As far as the things in my ealier post they are true. That kind of stuff does happen and police do get called.
When my last girlfriend started punching the wall of my apartment because she was angry I told her if she did it again that I would call the cops on her. Unless a life is in danger I will not resort to violence and will not tolerate any sort of physical or verbal threats to my own person.

You don't go to work and start swearing at your coworkers or try to demean them in any way so why would you do it to your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/life partner?

When you talk with your friends and they like the jets and you like the pats you don't start punching eachother.

When 2 people are in an intimate relationship with eachother it needs to be built on a foundation of trust and understanding. If you are willing to play a mind game like break up but really want them to chase after you then you are breaking the foundation of trust. If you grab her and she trys to yank away from you then it means she doesn't trust you. If there is no trust there is no relationship.

If a person resorts to violence and verbal obsenities then it is hard to create understanding. Lashing out in anger is a clear sign of a lack of self dicipline/control. Is it alright for a man to start hitting a woman like she was a dummy? just because a woman is smaller doesn't mean that she can't inflict damage to a man.

If you get into a fight because someone made your girlfriend cry then you are showing that you are no better than the person who couldn't control their emotion and made the girl cry.

There are 35 points on the list and there are 10 things I strongly disagree with because they are not indicative to a good relationship.

- When she pushes you or hits you like a dummie because she thinks she's stonger then you, grab her and don't let go.
- When she starts cursing at you trying to act all tough, kiss her and tell her you love her.
- When she pulls away, pull her back.
- When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up.
- When she looks at you in your eyes, don't look away until she does.
- When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers.
- When she repost this bulletin, she wants you to read it.
- Stay on the phone with her, even if she's not saying anything.
- Stay up with her all night when she's sick.
- When she runs up to you crying, first thing you say is "Whose ass am I kicking baby?"

I was contemplating going over the whole list and giving my opinion on all the things that I agree or disagree with but it's just easier to say which ones on it that I think are too unrealistic/excessive or what is in the gray zone

If you believe that everything on the list has to be done for a person to be a good boyfriend then you are setting yourself up for failure. The fact of the matter is that not every man is prince charming and not every woman is a princess. All women will find something wrong with their boyfriend and all men will find something wrong with their girlfriend. The difference between a failing relationship and a successful one is knowing that everyone is human and they will do things wrong and sometimes you will have to give up on one thing to get another.
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Posted 11/20/11
Men and women think differently....



I'm still looking for the perfect female, she must be female and umm, that's about it, I know, I'm very picky! Nice list though just don't expect a man like that, well, maybe I do know a man like that but he's already in a civil partnership to another man so you're outta luck girls
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I like this, I just wish I could find the right girl that I could be like this with... but it seems like girls want this IN a bad-boy package. Not a normal, stable, reliable guy like me.

I understand the reasoning. I grew up around girls, all my best friends have been girls, so its not completely lost on me; but it doesnt make it any better to deal with.

Darament you are WAY over thinking those points you brought out. When a girl says its over and she really wants you it doesnt mean shes playing head-games with you. It means that in her heart, she still wants you and loves you, but she thinks its for the best to break up. Even when she is pissed and found you cheating or something she will for a long time (most likely) still want you and still love you, especially if you were dating for a long time.

I just recently had this happen. I could tell she didnt want to let me go, it really hurt her because she REALLY liked being with me, but she has issues about being with guys, and couldnt deal with the intimacy... so we broke up. Of course it CAN mean shes playing head-games, but that doesnt mean that she is automatically.

Your other points are silly and ridiculous. Yes, that CAN happen, but seriously... seriously? lol


And finally, I am not going to argue with you. I was simply posting my opinion, just like you were, so dont try and drag me into one. Thanks.
Posted 11/20/11
A perfect boyfriend in a perfect world. . . that doesn't exist.

You can only find someone who listens to what you have to say and care about you, the real you that they love and trust. There's always going to be flaws no matter what, but that's perfection in itself just as well.
Posted 11/20/11
D'awww, and here I thought the world was so corrupted.
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Posted 11/20/11
Perfect is relative. This shit works in relationships with girls that are almost guaranteed to fail, but not in ones with women who you intend to spend a lifetime with. Just be yourself and accept each other for their greats and faults, otherwise it just doesn't work. If you're a man and you think that by following this list, or any kind of list for that matter, by jumping through hoops and playing yourself out to be the fool makes you a good boyfriend, then be my guest. Treat your woman like an equal, not as if she's your master, and never make the mistake of trying to be someone's source of happiness, or trying to make them yours.
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Posted 12/9/11
Awwww !
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Posted 12/9/11

Lexxuk wrote:

Men and women think differently....



I'm still looking for the perfect female, she must be female and umm, that's about it, I know, I'm very picky! Nice list though just don't expect a man like that, well, maybe I do know a man like that but he's already in a civil partnership to another man so you're outta luck girls ;)


ROFL,
awesome find.
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Posted 12/9/11
"When she comes to you crying, say 'Whose ass do I need to kick?'" haha for me it's more like "How many shotgun shells do I need to take with me?" or "Where should I start digging?"

Seriously, when I love somebody I protect them with all my heart, soul, and weapons arsenal. If you make my GF cry, you've got a death wish.
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