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question to girls: Do you ever wish guys would approach you more often?
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Posted 1/5/11
2 shy to make the first move lolol
Posted 1/5/11

MeBeingMe wrote:

Even though I'm a dude i just like to post my 2 cr points.

Sometimes guys can be very dense and don't pick the "signals" u are sending to him. If there is a boy u really like u may have to approach him instead , said by my teacher. So if a girl likes a guy that isnt interested/doesn't know her, he in most cases won't approach her.
Anywho u cant always leave fate/destiny/chance/whatever to decide ur relationships , u have to take matters in ur own hands if u want to be happy. If u only want to be approached, then u may meet a quite a few jerks ~ although u may get lucky and have a decent man step up.

As for the people who is shy. I read a story about a boy thats friended and in love with a girl. He is always there for her like going with her to a prom as friends , watching her get married to another man , and sadly to her funeral , but is too shy to tell his feelings. He later found her diary after she died, which said she loved him , but she too.. was shy.


That's a really sad story. It made me think of me and the possibility of finding someone eventually.
I thought about it and... i do not want to be that guy.
He must have cried after reading that diary, i probably would have, but that sounds like a good movie...
Posted 1/5/11
Careful ladies,
some guys that approach you might not be the right guys...( they could be perverts )
that's why I recommend taking things into your own hands.
Some guys like assertive women.
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Posted 1/5/11 , edited 1/5/11
cant imagine asking out a guy
he should make the first move,and we'll see if i'll be tolerant
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Posted 1/5/11
Yea, i would prefer guys approaching me more often. Well, it's usually because i'm quite shy...especially in front of guys.
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23 / F / Califonia
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Posted 1/5/11
Shy....
so thats why I liked it when guys approach
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I'm a dude, but figured I'd give my opinion. I've been approached by around 3-4 girls, & approached a lot more myself. I admit, it's both easy & hard doing either. For example - a guy approaches a girl & of course he's trembling. It feels good to muster the hidden reserves of courage, but it's very fragile. One simple indication leaning towards a 'No' & your world comes crashing down. But if she says 'Yes', you feel awesome & your self-confidence strengthens. Now other scenario is a girl approaches a guy. It feels awkward being approached as guys tend to boast this 'I'm a guy, I'm the superior" type of crap of attitude. Now what if the girl asking you out is somebody you don't want any affiliations with? It sure is hard to say 'No' without crushing her, unless you're some kind of sicko who gets a kick from it. This has been my opinion from my own personal experience. If you truly want my over-arching theme, I prefer to approach the girls. I've developed a resiliency of beating myself up if she rejects me.
Posted 1/5/11
uhh im not to shy about it ill tell them first
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76 / M / Florida, US
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Posted 1/5/11
A girl wants a confident guy, competent guy, alpha male, etc. No sexual desire or masculinity from a shy guy too afraid to ask. Unless the girl is 15 and has some anime fetish for nerdy guys. But chances are the girl is nerdy and shy too. So neither do a thing.. lul.
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19 / F / Earth
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Posted 1/5/11
sometimes could be.. maybe...
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33 / M / utah
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Posted 1/6/11
no you know what fuck that shit its 2011 women need to start tasting how it feels to get shot down over and over and over again when they approach a guy they like you want equality there it is.
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24 / F / in the TARDIS wit...
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Posted 1/6/11
The only reasons I approached a guy or a guy approached me was either he was family, a friend, a close friend, or for professional reasons.

As for romantic reasons, I have yet to have any guy approach me. Almost all of them after mistake my age and think I'm a much younger kid with my height, stature, face, bob cut hair and all.

I'd rather the guy approach me and see me as a girl, not a kid, or kid sister than I approach him. Hahahaha
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i think its more sweet if the guy takes the first step. a girl going up to a guy is just...weird. i know maybe the guy wont have enough courage but we might not have enough courage either. and if a guy rejects to a girl it would be more akward and heartbreaking than if a girl rejected. im not being sexist or anything, its just, the way it works......
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25 / F / England
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Posted 1/6/11
when im out guys always aproach me but the confidence to do so has come from the alcohol they have had, so i dont take them too seriously

so if a sober guy out of the blue wanted to ask me out that would make a lovely change but not done too strongly

if i was the 1 to do the chasing id get to know them first in a friends way b4 i went head on into asking them out (hey a girls gotta protect her
heart) coz you dont know if there already in a relationship or not

outgoing or shy im not realy either, what i appear to be would be determined by the circumstance i think im just myself i act in a way i see fit
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Posted 1/6/11 , edited 1/6/11
Sorry.. but this topic is dumb.. We all know women will say they want the guy to approach first.

then a bunch of them will claim its cause they want a guy to be aggressive or have courage.

Blah Blah. this is the year 2011. and it will prolly never change, but there is just no winning. aggressive guy may get girl. but chances are will be a total dick wad.

Shy guy will never get girl but has to sit there listening to how much a girl wants a guy who.. hey waddaya know turns out to be exactly like him.

sorry, but topics like this annoy me. Im quite shy. Not so shy as i'd never tell a girl i like them. But if a girl doesn't respond properly or push the limits to how far your supposed to go to get a girls attention.. sorry but i will just write them off as a bitch ~.~ and chances are any relationship they are seeking from the kinda guy they want will end in disaster over and over till they realize the error of their ways at 40 -_-...


.. prolly shouldn't have said anything.. @.@
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