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question to girls: Do you ever wish guys would approach you more often?
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Posted 1/6/11
Guys opinion again,

I never go to bars to pick up girls, alcohol plays too much of a role. Actually I don't "pick up" too many girls in the first place, if I happen to be at Starbucks and sit down next to a nice girl or vice versa I might feel it out and at least talk to her. I think there are two parts to the equation, so girls if you are going to be too shy to say the first words please at least give a clear sign as to if you are interested or not. I just usually clear my mind and just talk, i don't look at her as the next possible ex, but as another person. Although for me looks alone doesn't necessarily make me want to talk to someone, or the other way around... I can't just say "omg it's a cute girl I'm going to go ask her out and pick up on her".

All the girls I've gone out with have approached me... I just wonder how many other girls I could have dated or at least talked to had I not been so focused on my laptop or what else I was going to be doing that day and noticed my surroundings. Also every girl it took them at least 2 weeks of flirting to get me to notice they weren't just being super nice to me. My brain is always somewhere else and switches gears 100,000 times a minute, so I kinda need to knocked on the head to notice flirting, never mind actually actively trying to do it myself.

Lastly I think we should all wear those livestrong type bracelets, with different colors for single, married, attached, and single and leave me the f alone.
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Posted 1/6/11
No I get hit on once a week and its freaking annoying. I don't know how to handle guys and sometimes I wish they would just leave me alone
Posted 1/6/11
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Yeah I'd be easier if they came up to me, instead of vice versa. But then again, I bet they think the same thing about us. But i'd be nice if they took the initiative.
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Posted 1/8/11
I have always found that most women like guys with guts to ask first. Guys be prepared to get shot down a lot though. We seem to get the signals mixed up that girls send.
Posted 1/8/11
I like to do the talking sometimes. Its good fro your confidence. Guys will respect that, if they don't you've got yourself a dick
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Posted 1/8/11
I don't care either way. I think I've only ever had guys approach me, maybe like once or twice when I was younger I approached a guy. I have, however, approached a girl (she mentioned her sexuality casually) as an adult. It was kindof scary and even though I don't know if she was interested, it gave me the confidence to be willing to approach a girl, or maybe a guy, again someday if I'm single.

I think leaving it up to fate is a bad idea. People are often not as good at communication as they think they are, and so it won't be so obvious to their crush as you think it should be. If people can't pick up your cues, they might not know you have feelings for them unless you say so.
The type of people I've attracted through random chance have been assholes in general, so I'd rather not wait for someone to come up to me and ask me out.

I did tend to think that way when I was younger - that it was traditional and only appropriate for a male to approach a female, and not the other way around.
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Posted 1/8/11
I think the major problem for both sexes is not knowing whether they like each other without sending signals. It is too easy to miscommunicate via body language and other forms of non-verbal communication.
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24 / M / Where Else?
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Posted 1/8/11
I bet most want it that way
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19 / F / Canada
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Posted 1/8/11
Yeah...
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23 / F
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Posted 1/8/11
well, maybee..
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I get approached by guys pretty often and honestly I get pissed because it's mainly the ones that I'm not attracted too. I like a guy who is confident, funny and assertive... of course good looking would be a factor, sure it sounds shallow but honestly looks do count.
I would approach a guy first if I really wanted him. I consider myself cheerful, blunt, a bit of a tease and artistic... when I say a tease that's what my friends say I am. they tell me all the time that I flirt with guys but I Don't do it intentionally! I don't even know when I'm flirting. :S
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26 / F / Inside My Room
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Posted 1/9/11
depends if i like the guy. but if not. its so annoying. for me.
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Posted 1/11/11
if I like him, yup.
But if I don't, that'll just be annoying
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Posted 1/11/11

jhewhelle wrote:

depends if i like the guy. but if not. its so annoying. for me. :D

haha you took the words right out of my mouth

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