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why cant parents discipline there kids nowadays?
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I was spoiled with love. I'm not trying to be funny but that was how I was brought up.
I practically grew up just with my mom and even though she worked and I had 3 older children who were teenagers (bless my mom for handling my brothers and sister) she always made time to be with me. She walked me to school, took baths with me and slept in the same room as me until I was like 12 (you can say I grew up "without" a dad but that's a different story). Not a lot of parents have that kind of dedication to their child and it's so sad to see young kids nowadays that are like 11 and dress like adults and are rude to people who are older than them and think that if they scream they will get what they want. Some teenagers even try to hurt themselves and start trouble just to get some attention.
I would never try to appease my child with toys and games and more importantly I would never ignore my child.
So yes, I agree that children should be disciplined but more importantly, loved.
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I was spoiled with love. I'm not trying to be funny but that was how I was brought up.
I practically grew up just with my mom and even though she worked and I had 3 older children who were teenagers (bless my mom for handling my brothers and sister) she always made time to be with me. She walked me to school, took baths with me and slept in the same room as me until I was like 12 (you can say I grew up "without" a dad but that's a different story). Not a lot of parents have that kind of dedication to their child and it's so sad to see young kids nowadays that are like 11 and dress like adults and are rude to people who are older than them and think that if they scream they will get what they want. Some teenagers even try to hurt themselves and start trouble just to get some attention.
I would never try to appease my child with toys and games and more importantly I would never ignore my child.
So yes, I agree that children should be disciplined but more importantly, loved.


Fantastique! This gave me chills (the good kind). I think you're one of the first voices to speak for love. Regardless of whether physical punishment is used or not, parents do need to love their children. Looks like it worked for you. Dedication is a good word, they need to dedicate more of what they have to give, to their children.
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I agree with that. I'm not intending to start a debate on the rights or wrongs of abortion/adoption. But if they don't want the child then they should use one of those two options. The problem is that people don't think about how hard it is to raise children I suspect. They just want kids to show that they are responsible and adults. And then once the initial rush of having kids runs out they fall in with the old toys/video games/fads to use an analogy.


I agree, completely. People who cannot give of themselves properly to their child, for the entirety of at least their minor years, should consider other options. (Assuming that something doesn't happen after the child is born that limits their ability to take care of and responsibility for their child, but even then - hopefully a relative or the other parent can help make up for that.) For those who are anti-abortion, there's adoption (and vica-versa), and hopefully if you are strongly against adoption, abortion, or both, then you'd be smart enough to use two methods of contraception (IUD and condoms being the easiest to use and combine) so that you don't have any accidental children.
Posted 1/25/11
My discipline growing up was martial arts. If I misbehaved my Dad would make me kick the bag until I couldn't stand up anymore or he'd take away my games. It vented my anger and gave me something productive to do, definitely will ask my kids if they want to do combat sports. I was thrown into it but I'll just encourage my kids, not gonna force them.
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My discipline growing up was martial arts. If I misbehaved my Dad would make me kick the bag until I couldn't stand up anymore or he'd take away my games. It vented my anger and gave me something productive to do, definitely will ask my kids if they want to do combat sports. I was thrown into it but I'll just encourage my kids, not gonna force them.



kicking the bag till you cant kick no more doesn't sound fun but I'd rather have that as a punishment when I was growing up 8/ too bad my parents never thought of it,
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Rina-San wrote:

My discipline growing up was martial arts. If I misbehaved my Dad would make me kick the bag until I couldn't stand up anymore or he'd take away my games. It vented my anger and gave me something productive to do, definitely will ask my kids if they want to do combat sports. I was thrown into it but I'll just encourage my kids, not gonna force them.



kicking the bag till you cant kick no more doesn't sound fun but I'd rather have that as a punishment when I was growing up 8/ too bad my parents never thought of it,


It hurt a lot but theres nothing wrong with sore muscle pain. I'm quite powerful in the leg department because of that Works out great for me in competitions.
Posted 1/25/11

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Juji_chan wrote:


Rina-San wrote:

My discipline growing up was martial arts. If I misbehaved my Dad would make me kick the bag until I couldn't stand up anymore or he'd take away my games. It vented my anger and gave me something productive to do, definitely will ask my kids if they want to do combat sports. I was thrown into it but I'll just encourage my kids, not gonna force them.



kicking the bag till you cant kick no more doesn't sound fun but I'd rather have that as a punishment when I was growing up 8/ too bad my parents never thought of it,


It hurt a lot but theres nothing wrong with sore muscle pain. I'm quite powerful in the leg department because of that Works out great for me in competitions.


pretty much another reason why XD LOL it would of paid off in my case 8/ sure the spanking and being sent too my room did work on me(especially because my step dad was scary as hell) but still >.> I would of much rather had your method as a punishment
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Rina-San wrote:


Juji_chan wrote:


Rina-San wrote:

My discipline growing up was martial arts. If I misbehaved my Dad would make me kick the bag until I couldn't stand up anymore or he'd take away my games. It vented my anger and gave me something productive to do, definitely will ask my kids if they want to do combat sports. I was thrown into it but I'll just encourage my kids, not gonna force them.



kicking the bag till you cant kick no more doesn't sound fun but I'd rather have that as a punishment when I was growing up 8/ too bad my parents never thought of it,


It hurt a lot but theres nothing wrong with sore muscle pain. I'm quite powerful in the leg department because of that Works out great for me in competitions.


pretty much another reason why XD LOL it would of paid off in my case 8/ sure the spanking and being sent too my room did work on me(especially because my step dad was scary as hell) but still >.> I would of much rather had your method as a punishment


Aww I had that too though, bed with no supper was the worst My Dad's just quite laidback but still strict, he's quite clever like that. Like he knew how to control me still does! Lol doesn't let me go out in a miniskirt so I have to sneak out of the house, still at this age! -__-
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=C awwww, *hugs* it was like that sorta kinda for me along time ago, I never got along with my step dad at all, and also because he showed favoritism >.> he treated my sisters better then he treated me and my brother because my brother and I werent his kids since we came from a different dad, he was nothing too me more then just the man who lived with us 8/, my mom had good reasons when she disciplined me and she always did it with out taking it over board but my step dad was like...scary scary >_< I remember having too hide behind my bed when I was 14,...now personally I think 14 is way too old for spankings, my mom stopped spanking me when I was 12 and because I started acting better
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=C awwww, *hugs* it was like that sorta kinda for me along time ago, I never got along with my step dad at all, and also because he showed favoritism >.> he treated my sisters better then he treated me and my brother because my brother and I werent his kids since we came from a different dad, he was nothing too me more then just the man who lived with us 8/, my mom had good reasons when she disciplined me and she always did it with out taking it over board but my step dad was like...scary scary >_< I remember having too hide behind my bed when I was 14,...now personally I think 14 is way too old for spankings, my mom stopped spanking me when I was 12 and because I started acting better


That must've been really scary especially when its not technically a relative T^T *hugs* well don't dwell on the past
Posted 1/25/11

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Juji_chan wrote:



=C awwww, *hugs* it was like that sorta kinda for me along time ago, I never got along with my step dad at all, and also because he showed favoritism >.> he treated my sisters better then he treated me and my brother because my brother and I werent his kids since we came from a different dad, he was nothing too me more then just the man who lived with us 8/, my mom had good reasons when she disciplined me and she always did it with out taking it over board but my step dad was like...scary scary >_< I remember having too hide behind my bed when I was 14,...now personally I think 14 is way too old for spankings, my mom stopped spanking me when I was 12 and because I started acting better


That must've been really scary especially when its not technically a relative T^T *hugs* well don't dwell on the past


it was scary 8'D but its all over now X3 and so far Im doing pretty well now lol got alittle stronger from it

Posted 1/25/11
1.) Because they're failures
2.) The child is an idiot and keeps rebelling
3.) They're afraid of their child (I heard many stories of that)
4.) They try to be their child's best friend
5.) They're morons

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Well, my parents disciplined me and my siblings when we were young(and yeah, up until now they still do that).

They used to spank us whenever we did something wrong and scold us(Our dad is scary so scolding still works). We don't learn our lessons easily but we try to be more nicer when our dad is home...

I don't get how that's bad. Child abuse is when children are beaten up and is treated badly for different reasons and none are good. If it's just for discipline and won't kill a kid then I think it's gotta be okay.
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A perfect example of a child going too far with the whole "I'm calling the cops" thing or the child abuse being a little to strict is this:
My mom's best friend has a daughter. Her daughter is14. When we were little, our parents would let us play together, although I never liked her much. She was bossy and mean.
Her mom told her a few weeks ago that they would be going on a nice trip to Olympia over the weekend, so she had better get ready before she got home. When her mother came home, her daughter wasn't there. She was next door at their landlords. The landlord (who has issues I may say) says: "Your daughter does not want to leave town for the weekend. She will stay with me" Her mom got really mad, telling the landlord it wasn't her buisness. The daughter came over and starting mouthing off to her mom. Really badly. She wouldnt stop so her mom grabbed her mouth, like a light hold you know to make her stop speaking and listen, and the landord saw and reported it to child services. When they came, her own daughter lied about being abused and got her mother sent off to Jail for 2 days. The daughter then moved out with her dad. I CANNOT believe she did this. Her mom is very very nice and was alwyas a perfect parent to her daughter. I dont get how a kid can be so ungrateful. I could just slap her thinking about it.
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Well, i agree with most the posts here that the government and whatnot have stepped in way too much and preventing parents from being parents.

Sometimes yelling doesn't cut it, "GO TO YOUR ROOM!".."ok dad *under breath* it's okay, i have a tv, a computer, an iphone, and a total bunch of other stuff." Kids are spoiled and parents can't really do anything about it, and its a shame. Sometimes, a good ole fashioned spanking to show the kid who's boss is needed, but you can't do that anymore.

From actual experience, i am 24 now, and was never really disciplined as a child, so when i got older, i liked to think i was mature, and for the most part i was. But i still sometimes didn't know right from wrong, I slacked off in school, didn't go to college, and now im working in a crap job. I made a lot of mistakes growing up and i am forever plagued by them.

You get so used to your parents covering for your mistakes, and then, when your old enough where they are YOUR problems, they aren't there anymore.

Long story short, i WISH my parents were more strict when i was growing up, my life may have been a little better off sooner. I do plan on going to college now and getting my life back on track, just wish i would have done so sooner.

Blah blah blah, anyway, imo, government and nosy people need to back the @#@# off and let parents be parents so we don't have a world full of delinquents. Ohhh wait, it's already too late for that.
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