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benihimechan wrote:

I think it depends on the person. I personally feel like my fiancee kinda completes me, and I him. But I know there are people out there who are completely happy being single.


this ^ & happy for the two of you (:

I don't mind being single or in a relationship as long I am happy.
But, I'm still young and been in 'relationships' but I find myself boring. *u*
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I like being single. honeslty i still kind of think of myself of being young. I notice a lot people my age that start dating usually get married and im not ready for that. There things i gotta do first like traveling. Then there are times you wish you can share the experience with someone close to you.
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"Opinions are like butt holes, everyone has one and they all stink"

That being said, here is my opinion.

I honestly believe that it depends on the person.

Unless a person can learn to love being alone they will never be able to make being with another person work.

The reason I have never been in a real couple type relationship is because I know for a fact that I would be unable to cope with
the amount of work it requires to be successful. My life is way too messed up to be considering the needs of another person.

I am in a real dilema because I HATE being alone, but I depise being around people even more.

When I was a lot younger, I used to have this one female friend who would support me unconditionally. She would hold my hand when i needed it, cuddle with me. Sometimes we would just hold on to each other and talk for hours on end. None of it was ever of a sexual nature and neither of us considered ourselves to be a couple. But it was the best 'relationship' I've ever had with a woman.

I miss that feeling terribly. and yes I get more lonely than I could ever possibly put into words, but to get back to my original point, I don't think I will ever be comfortable enough with myself to be able to truly support having a parnter.

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The extent that you can be with yourself on your own fully and peacefully, is the extent that you can be with another person. A relationship can help you find your self if you can find the courage to face all that which is holding you back, like past traumas and a lifetime of conditioning. It takes more than just a good relationship to break through all that conditioning and trauma though. You attract to yourself what you are. The people that come to you will be the ones that you deserve, and they will come to you with a lesson to help you find yourself. Once the lessons learned, you can either move on to the next lesson together, or let it come from another source. Miracles don't happen unless your heart is open to that possibility, and it's very rare for someone to make a ton of progress in opening their heart quickly. You also can't do it alone. You can't solve your problems while your immersed in them. You've got to seek assistance from a place or person that is free from your problems. Ultimately though, you have to make the effort and allow the change you wish to experience to happen. No one can save you but you. The most common mistake in a relationship is that one becomes dependent on the other for happiness and help, when truly lasting happiness can only come within yourself through your own self effort to overcome your limitations.
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I used to be like you when it came to relationships, didn't want to deal with the emotional baggage and didn't want them to get in my way. And watching my friends relationships unfold was like watching a train wreck in slow motion. But the thing is that pain is one of the best teachers. I waited to start dating till college. I don't regret any relationship I've been in because they were fun and after each one I feel like I know myself better and what I want in my partner.
As for worrying about the relationship keeping you from getting where you want to go...I don't think being in a relationship stops you from doing anything anymore. I'm a adventurous person who likes to travel and do extreme things and if the person I'm with has no interest in going with me or doesn't want me to go than I leave them behind. After I'm back from my adventure I start looking for someone who would maybe enjoy going with me on the next one.

I think the reason we see so many of our friends relationships fail in a miserable fashion is because they usually over commit too quickly and they put a bunch of pressure on themselves making the relationship unpleasant. The best thing I think is to just relax and have fun with your relationships and take them as they come because dating is supposed to be fun! And don't get discouraged and stressed out, there's a lot of people out there and there's always something better. You're a beautiful girl and I'm sure your man will find you As for me I'm still on the search for my girl. And I gotta say, you've got to love the journey!
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I haven't really been in a relationship, so I am not worthy to answer this with any experience whatsoever... But, I think if there is this "love" feeling that is all lovey dovey and you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, so I think maybe it's better. But as I am right now, I would just be single. Though I want to some time in the future to get into a relationship, but I'm not sure if I'm up for the job xD
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Being Single Sucks. One can last as a 一匹狼 for so long we need a pack. Still have not found the right one to run with though. わおーーーーーーん.
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Single is better, relationships are merely a major burden, not worth the effort..
However if a girl has some insane desire to be with me, she'll have to accept me for who I am and deal with my rotten personality.
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Posted 2/6/13
It depends.
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I prefer a strong relationship, being single makes me feel lonely and depressed.
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It all depends on what you want. I'm at the point were I've more than enough girlfriends and friends with benefits. Quite frankly I like to do what I want when I want, That may sound selfish, but If I was put here to make anyone's life enjoyable it's mine damn it... When I feel like having another relationship and all the compromise that goes with one I will. Until then I'll play Skyrim for 8 hrs and not do the dishes if that's how I want to spend my night....
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Single by far; I find relationships are little more than burdens and sources of stress, and ultimately you just end up being screwed over anyway.
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Nyuboom wrote:

Still, I haven't had a kiss in forever.


I wouldn't admit to that on CR. You'll be inundated with all kinds of offers... And not the good kind...
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Posted 2/6/13 , edited 2/7/13
Depends on the individual. Some people can't stand the thought of being alone while others prefer it. I'm not inclined to either. Until you can find someone who you can accept wholly and truly commit yourself to, then it's best to remain single and free.
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Posted 2/7/13

Nyuboom wrote:


moneygrip3030 wrote:


Nyuboom wrote:

Still, I haven't had a kiss in forever.


I wouldn't admit to that on CR. You'll be inundated with all kinds of offers... And not the good kind...


That's okay, you can protect me Grip-san.


It will forever be my solemn duty to do so.
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