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Posted 12/8/13
just depends on what your into. I am happily married and I don't think id give that up to be single again. but my wife is cool shes my anime/ manga/ vidoe game buddy so our interests are similar
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Single, no pressure to impress anybody but yourself
Posted 12/8/13
My mind has developed in a way that is not suited for relationships. I either do not grow attached, and grow bored, or, I grow too attached, and a nervous breakdown in the process. By nervous breakdown, I mean that I become paranoid and eventually have to leave them because it hurts too much. I'm very self-conscious, and in relationships where I become attached, my self-consciousness goes overboard out of fear of loss. Human behavior and patterns are all too ambiguous for me to properly read. So I stay away from relationships all together. I wish I could be in one and function normally, you know, remain detached and pretend to love them like normal people do, while still believing that I'm attached and that I truly love them like normal people do, but it's all too obvious for me, I can't escape it, and can't live a lie like that. I eventually have to leave them because I feel like shit. So yeah, forever alone is in everyone's best interest. No one but me gets hurt that way.
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dankuuwut wrote:

My mind has developed in a way that is not suited for relationships. I either do not grow attached, and grow bored, or, I grow too attached, and a nervous breakdown in the process. By nervous breakdown, I mean that I become paranoid and eventually have to leave them because it hurts too much. I'm very self-conscious, and in relationships where I become attached, my self-consciousness goes overboard out of fear of loss. Human behavior and patterns are all too ambiguous for me to properly read. So I stay away from relationships all together. I wish I could be in one and function normally, you know, remain detached and pretend to love them like normal people do, while still believing that I'm attached and that I truly love them like normal people do, but it's all too obvious for me, I can't escape it, and can't live a lie like that. I eventually have to leave them because I feel like shit. So yeah, forever alone is in everyone's best interest. No one but me gets hurt that way.


Yeah I completely agree with that, but I generally distance myself from anyone I am interested in when it comes to love, because I work better at judging peoples emotions when i'm not attached, it's sad but it's more convenient and at the moment I couldn't handle the pain of being rejected, since I've liked someone for 3 years now, and always been relatively distant. The most painful part is when she accepts peoples confessions and dates them, because I get paranoid in a similar fashion. It really hurts sometimes.
Posted 12/8/13
Single, I would never spend money on another living human being besides myself
Posted 12/8/13
Being single is freedom, but there is no support.

Being in a relationship is often dependency. Being so if you feel deprived without your love. You may have to deal with head games. Little in the way of expected sexual encounters. Suspicious of cheating all the time. Three years (if that) of exhausting psychological change. All of this for the possibility of conception. Or worse, if you are subject to the average outcome - marriage. Worse still, divorce. Then the aftermath of the separation leading to being the hollow shell you always dreamed about.

So what I'm saying is; you're gonna carry that weight either way.

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Posted 12/8/13
I like being single.
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Posted 12/8/13 , edited 12/8/13
Personally, I prefer to be alone (and I'm not just saying that because I'm single at the moment).

Being around people, for me, is too much of a hassle. I even enjoy hanging out with friends on skype over actually going to somebody's place or to a party. Most of the time, when I've dated, they've always tried to make some huge change in who I am. Which, I don't really understand to begin with.

Admittedly, I do get a bit lonely from time to time. Having someone laying in bed with you watching Miyazaki movies or waking up to somebody trying to snuggle next to you in their sleep is something that I miss. It's something I don't necessarily need but again, I miss it occasionally.

The main thing for me is that I realize I have a few emotional issues. I've been to a few hospitals in my time and have been through therapy, but I still feel like it wouldn't be right to place that burden on another person. So, if I'm being honest, it doesn't matter if I actually want to be with someone. The answer will always be "I prefer to be alone." because I'm a little bit broken and that wouldn't be fair.

So yeah. Single is better (for me). ( ´ ▽ ` )ノ
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Posted 12/8/13
Single, and if your lonely that's why you get some cuddle buddies
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Also too much drama in relationships... ive seen it happen a lot to my friends
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Posted 12/8/13 , edited 12/8/13
honestly i used to think being single was better, since most girls i have been with i just didnt really like them in the end, we just werent compatible, anyways a relationship shouldnt be about telling others what to do or being told what to do,i mean yes we may make some sacrifices but nothing.. that would make you lose who you are. anyways with my current relationship i am actually really happy, my gf isnt demanding or anything and treats me right you know and i do the same for her. But ya i believe in love since i have seen it makes people do things they wouldnt normally do for anyone else.
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Honestly I don't care either way, Ima get my way
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Posted 12/8/13

mountaingamingz wrote:

Single, no pressure to impress anybody but yourself :D
nice way to put it =D

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Posted 12/8/13 , edited 12/8/13
There's up sides and down sides to both.

I'm single at the moment, which is nice because I get to do all the things that I want to do without having to consider another person's preferences, if that makes sense. Not saying I don't like being around people - it is just easier to do what I want to do.
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Posted 12/8/13 , edited 12/8/13
I prefer being single, though I wouldn't mind a FWB. In my fantasy land having someone that I can travel with, talk to, sleep with, and occasionally cuddle up to would be nice. But, I don't want all of the weight that comes with a relationship. I don't want to live with them, nor do I want to meet their parents. I don't want kids and I don't want to get married.

If something like that actually existed in the real world then that would be ideal for me. But, otherwise, I'm better off single with the occasional fling. So, for me, I would say that single is probably better in the long run.
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