The Vice of a Meaningless Social Life in Mainstream Culture
Posted 3/19/11 , edited 3/25/11
Since when is conforming with the social norms a proof of one's own creativity? And since when is having oneself being seen with members of the opposite sex means "safe?" Alternative values and meanings that aren't a part of mainstream doesn't necessarily mean that they're wrong. While in the study of positive psychology, a pleasurable social life without the quality of intimacy in a close relationship is both habitable and heritable, which means that sooner or later this stereotypical and superficial social life will not boost our happiness at all. In fact, they'll become our own vice as some sort of psychosocial addiction. Just like how poverty can be a psychosocial subjective feeling that can have a negative effect on our mental and physical healths.

And if we run to the extreme of detachment, what's there left to be about who we are based on the important events and relations that had changed us? This is why in the Aboriginal cultural context, our individual identity is the relationship we have with each others. Furthermore, there's a trend in the mainstream culture that's emphasizing on the importance of a social life is a pleasurable life. Howbeit it can get superficial and completely devoid of meanings and purposes, due to ideologies like consumerism, materialism, and standardization are constantly making ourselves feeling less than who we are at all time. But such is how we humans are social animals, who tend to take our own culture for granted.

Three things I'm now made known to be true through experiencing life itself: 1)we humans tend to take our own culture for granted, until we individually experienced a culture shock. 2)we humans tend to believe in the illusion of security, until we collectively experienced how our own greed can further destroy our own community, more so than Mother Nature ever could. And 3)we humans tend to dream the impossible dreams of wants and desires, until we interdependently experienced the awesomeness that is simple joy in life through contentment.
Posted 3/19/11
sigh. DomFortress.....sometimes I wish I could be a female Don Quixote, go quite bonkers, joist with windmills,etc...
can it be so?
Detachment right now in this mad mad mad world sounds like the ideal castle in which to build around one's intellect....bury it behind some type of mind rock......so I, for one, can STOP thinking these tiresome deep thoughts...

I am weary of it all.

Hemlock anyone???

No, ? guess I will settle for another cup of tea and contemplate the universe and the beauty of the cala lily..

Again.....

After all. "I will think of it tomorrow, at Tara"......gone with the wind...

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Posted 3/19/11
'I am not the person to ask this question for I have never been content with the system i live within. Nor have I ever needed to be.. I have always strive to better my self and the world around me.. as so I have thrown my ever expanding and evolving ideals about governing and ways of thinking out their hoping to force some form of change. For without a constantly evolving system it will only be doom to failure. (like life it self.)'

In my mind no dream is impossible if your willing to take that bull by its balls.

'If the world listen to my ideals. Japan would not be having power trouble.. do to power plant failure. Nor would it have ever been a issue."

such as my debate about A solar power plant on the moon that could have powered everything on earth.. with plenty of power left over.

what happen to japan was predictable and I did predict it. Same with what is happening in America at this time.. I have given paths we can take to aid all man kind.. But I fear people rather be a mindless cog in a failing system.
Posted 3/19/11
I do not have the strength or the will to grab a bull by the balls..

But I do always buck up and get fighting mad and go on my merry way..

I want to change things, but I don't know how...

So I dally about and write mediocre poetry and stare at cut glass vases of flowers and throw Shakespeare's volumes at my walls..

all in all I'm just another brick in the wall, for today..

tomorrow, I will fight again...

inside, never surrender..

that is
the
ticket..
Posted 3/19/11 , edited 3/19/11

Blackbirdxx wrote:

sigh. DomFortress.....sometimes I wish I could be a female Don Quixote, go quite bonkers, joist with windmills,etc...
can it be so?
Detachment right now in this mad mad mad world sounds like the ideal castle in which to build around one's intellect....bury it behind some type of mind rock......so I, for one, can STOP thinking these tiresome deep thoughts...

I am weary of it all.


Hemlock anyone???

No, ? guess I will settle for another cup of tea and contemplate the universe and the beauty of the cala lily..

Again.....

After all. "I will think of it tomorrow, at Tara"......gone with the wind...



Blackbirdxx wrote:

I do not have the strength or the will to grab a bull by the balls..

But I do always buck up and get fighting mad and go on my merry way..

I want to change things, but I don't know how...


So I dally about and write mediocre poetry and stare at cut glass vases of flowers and throw Shakespeare's volumes at my walls..

all in all I'm just another brick in the wall, for today..

tomorrow, I will fight again...

inside, never surrender..

that is
the
ticket..
Your expression and attitude reminded me so much of my ex, someone who I still want to come to accept her of who she was, but she can't stand me for the fact that she doesn't understand me. Even though I tried so hard at understanding where she's coming from for the past 5 years.

I don't know if this is how you felt like when you're at your own home, but my ex's personal motto about how she feels in her room at all time is "the walls have ears."(an infamous Canadian WWII propaganda) This made her psychosocial self extremely paranoid, to the point that she couldn't relax nor to be content even in her own home, unless there's nobody else around.


Darkphoenix3450 wrote:

'I am not the person to ask this question for I have never been content with the system i live within. Nor have I ever needed to be.. I have always strive to better my self and the world around me.. as so I have thrown my ever expanding and evolving ideals about governing and ways of thinking out their hoping to force some form of change. For without a constantly evolving system it will only be doom to failure. (like life it self.)'

In my mind no dream is impossible if your willing to take that bull by its balls.

'If the world listen to my ideals. Japan would not be having power trouble.. do to power plant failure. Nor would it have ever been a issue."

such as my debate about A solar power plant on the moon that could have powered everything on earth.. with plenty of power left over.

what happen to japan was predictable and I did predict it. Same with what is happening in America at this time.. I have given paths we can take to aid all man kind.. But I fear people rather be a mindless cog in a failing system.
That's because the real locus of power are made to be broken and stupid to begin with, while they're the ones get to choose whatever that's being said on mainstream medias, including our failed economics.

And Zeitgeist is real.
Posted 3/20/11
Ah Dom....I must tell you this for a female heart beats in me.....your beloved has found what I call 'the box'....it is inside her, and there
she can retreat...

so sad it is...

for once you enter..it takes force to break the box and return...

someone came along ..a soulmate, soulfriend for me....

Go! go one more time...

go....

it might help...
Posted 3/20/11
I am not a very social person for my own reasons. In my case, I do not rely on socialization just to feel anything positive, nor do I feel that socialization is more right than no socialization. In many situations, I feel irritated by the lackluster topics discussed by the majority of socialites, but I take heed in knowing that some people recognize that fact that conversing with other people about anything is a sort of comfort, so the topics discussed and/or feelings expressed don't matter quite so much unless they aren't very pleasurable.

The reliance the human creature has upon interaction with those of its own kinda is entirely natural, but it can become a vice when relied upon just to obtain a state of normalcy. In a situation where you'd have to be isolated just to survive, having been so reliant upon socialization would only cause you harm. It's like how people start a fire in the wilderness as a part of survival; it's not just a heat source, but a surrogate for a human companion you don't currently have.
Posted 3/20/11
@NE1469 It's like how people start a fire in the wilderness as a part of survival; it's not just a heat source, but a surrogate for a human companion you don't currently have.

That struck a deep cord of truth in me....that was eloquent way to express a certain type of longing or aloneness, whether chosen or nay..

but I
am of the moon...

and search for Polaris

with a

shadow stick...

and sometimes, find myself speaking with a angel unawares...

god bless the beasts and the children..
Posted 3/21/11

Blackbirdxx wrote:

Ah Dom....I must tell you this for a female heart beats in me.....your beloved has found what I call 'the box'....it is inside her, and there
she can retreat...

so sad it is...


for once you enter..it takes force to break the box and return...

someone came along ..a soulmate, soulfriend for me....

Go! go one more time...

go....

it might help...
Her box was there long before, and it was set by the oversimplified moral dichotomy known as Catholicism. And it made her weak, too weak to even understand the modern laws of restrain order. She's no longer my concern when she can't even protect her own self properly, while she physically assaulted me in open street with no witness. She's beyond my help.


NE1469 wrote:

I am not a very social person for my own reasons. In my case, I do not rely on socialization just to feel anything positive, nor do I feel that socialization is more right than no socialization. In many situations, I feel irritated by the lackluster topics discussed by the majority of socialites, but I take heed in knowing that some people recognize that fact that conversing with other people about anything is a sort of comfort, so the topics discussed and/or feelings expressed don't matter quite so much unless they aren't very pleasurable.

The reliance the human creature has upon interaction with those of its own kinda is entirely natural, but it can become a vice when relied upon just to obtain a state of normalcy. In a situation where you'd have to be isolated just to survive, having been so reliant upon socialization would only cause you harm. It's like how people start a fire in the wilderness as a part of survival; it's not just a heat source, but a surrogate for a human companion you don't currently have.
Hence the birth of a subculture.


Blackbirdxx wrote:

@NE1469 It's like how people start a fire in the wilderness as a part of survival; it's not just a heat source, but a surrogate for a human companion you don't currently have.

That struck a deep cord of truth in me....that was eloquent way to express a certain type of longing or aloneness, whether chosen or nay..

but I
am of the moon...

and search for Polaris

with a

shadow stick...

and sometimes, find myself speaking with a angel unawares...

god bless the beasts and the children..
Animals in the wild have more dignity and resilience, than humans with arrogance and recklessness due to the culture of ethnocentrism.
Posted 3/21/11
@DomFortress...Her box was there long before, and it was set by the oversimplified moral dichotomy known as Catholicism. And it made her weak, too weak to even understand the modern laws of restrain order. She's no longer my concern when she can't even protect her own self properly, while she physically assaulted me in open street with no witness. She's beyond my help.

I see.....blinded by the light she is....

all I can say, my heart goes with you...
B.B.
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