they have but i said no like a good girl (:

I'm going to take a stab and say that the people that answer "yes" to this question are either...

A. In high school
OR
B. Remembering high school
OR
C. Single, college-aged (give or take) male

When I was in high school and college, all of my friends were guys even though I'm not. I was never pressured to have sex with anyone by any of my friends... that just really isn't something that makes for a lasting male-female friendship. If the pressure was from the person themself, then they obviously weren't interested in just friendship, and all that does is reck whatever foundations of friendship you did have. But observing other people? That's definitely talked about a lot. Obviously guys at that age want to hear about the sexual rendexvous, experiences, and "what it's like" for girls, and vice versa.


So here are my obsevations from and reflecting on those times:

Pin-pointing why your friends would pressure you into having sex falls into several groups.

On girls...
Jumping back to high school, a lot of it deals with insecurity. Sex is a big question mark to a lot of your peers, especially the reprecussions of being sexually active (and other people knowing that you are), and maybe to you as well. Girls getting pressured by other girl friends usually wind up in this scenario because their friends fall into one of the following groups: has had sex and does not want to be known as the only, or one of the only, sexually active girls in the circle of friends; hasn't had sex and wants to "take the leap" vicariously through someone else; has had sex but feels like she needs some sort of verification for those actions by someone else (namely you) doing the same. They all extend from insecurity, but different types. The first is insecure in their reputation, the second is insecure in their lack of knowledge or curioisity, the third is insecure in their own actions. Girls have the tendency to view sex as something more special or sacred than their male counterparts, even girls that claim that sex/losing their virginity is "no big deal" have put some thought into it being a big deal or not.

On guys...
As for guys in high school, a lot of it is hormones, plain and simple. Being a sexually active male in high school is enitrely different than being a sexually active female of the same age. Girls, even those that view sex casually, aren't going to repeat their triumphs and pat each other on the back in the same way some young guys do (not all).

On growing up...
It's usually not until later in life, think about the time when dating isn't just "going out" with someone for a few months but instead potentially involves looking for the person you are going to marry, that both of the sexes seem to have a similar view about sex. At this age, you've most likely have already experienced or witnessed what can go wrong (or right) with and during sexual relationships, how different views on sex affect people's personalities (and vice versa), how one sexual encounter can change a person, etc. The list goes on. When you reach this age, both males and females have to ask themselves the same questions... things like: "am I really okay with boyfriend/girlfriend's sexual history?", "how am I different from the rest of their partners?", "can I measure up?", "if they've always been casual about sex before, can I really trust them?", "how do they view my sexual history?", "can they respect me regardless of what I have (or haven't) done?"... and a million more.

In short...
Basically, if someone pressures you to have sex, just say no. When, where, and who you have sex with are things that need to be decided on your own terms, not someone else's. There is such a big risk in saying yes when you aren't ready... it can change your entire outlook on relationships, your friends, and, most importantly, yourself. A lot of young people think that the most disastrous thing that could happen is an unwanted pregnancy, but there is more to it than that. You are establishing a chain of events that you CAN'T foget, that WILL ALWAYS affect you, and could potentially cost you your self-respect or the respect of someone you care about or love.


Always keep in mind that some day you are going to have to account for your sexual past and pointing fingers at other people won't cut it, especially when the person on the receiving end of that information will probably be someone that you love.

nah, I have good friends XD

i wish someone would pressure me!! hhah just joking. i was pressured in high school... a guy "friend" drove over my house one night with the intention of hooking up. He drove his dad's suv and had the trunk part all comfy with blankets, pillows and a cd player lol. when i said i couldnt do it....he said "what a waste!" ....i said "what a jerk!" :P

Does pressuring yourself count?

It seems people are getting younger and younger when they get into the sex aspect. Thankfully I was never pressured. I've got good friends.

Anyone who'd pressure you to do such isn't a friend.

I don't care what people say, it's your body and your business.

No.

Yes.

My friend that I call "raging hormones".

lol yes!! Teens today think being a virgin is like having cancer they look at you with a face like "aww how sad she has cancer" or they try to reason you into you by saying stuff like "you look so depressed. I bet if you got laid you'd be the peppiest (?) person in the world" or the Ol' "I love you. So, when you gonna let me tap that?" lol I'm so serious and then you just have your delusional teen like this one guy already has the name of our kids and we're no even dating! It's sad really, I not having sex til college, all those perverts can kiss my ass lol.

Yes. I've been pressured into having sex. Even though it was in a relationship, I gave in, and it was awful to give in and have sex.

I'm like the friend who can make you laugh and you will always have a good time with me, unfortunately even though I'm very friendly, outgoing, and funny this is only around friends I've known. I 'm very shy and I'm not good with flirting and boys cause I start to like people after i get to know them. It is becomes really annoying when my friend's are constantly like Im gonna get you a boyfriend or im gonna set you up with someone. Once my friend said you're never gonna get laid which really pissed me off. My friends do overrate sex sometimes and we mostly joke around about it, though when they take it too far with me I fucking get pissed off at them

Nope. I was always up for having sex.
Friends would always joke about it, not really "pressure" me.

They tried, I said no ... actually I lied, I already had did it

No. Its weird that some of the people who posted here have friends who take such interest in their sex life. I find it strange anyways.

I pressure some sexy girls from my class to.