Is it wrong to ask a girl out after meeting her once?
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Posted 4/3/11
Actually we were classmates but we weren't close, but I only talked to her once.

I got her number, I texted her and talked to her about stuff and it wasn't an awkward conversation at all, but it wasn't too long either

So I asked a friend what should I do and he said to ask her out for lunch or dinner or just to get something to eat/drink so I texted her that in a polite manner. She never replied back

It took me everything to send that text and I REALLY HAVE NO IDEA HOW THIS WORKS! I have no idea how dating works, but all I know is I did what I did and it took all my courage to ask a girl out. I have no confidence about myself yet I try to be confident because that's how men should be.

Was I being too fast? Too soon? should have I texted her more before asking her out? what should have I done? Did I probably freaked her out?
Posted 4/3/11
Who cares? Just forget about her and go to the next girl.
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Posted 4/3/11
-_- I wish I could do that, I'm not a player.
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johnkx wrote:

-_- I wish I could do that, I'm not a player.


You'll eventually find the next girl. Most people do.

Posted 4/3/11
Just relax. She will answer, and if she don't, talk to her in school.

But don't text multiple times, rather call her and ask her out than text her again.

You can do it, just don't think it too much or you will just make it harder than it actually is.
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Posted 4/3/11
I met her on her workplace, were not classmates anymore.

So it was ok for me to text her like that? I don't usually do this but a friend told me to just simply text her the message without even saying Hi or What's up because he said girls like surprises -_- I think I surprised her too much.
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Honestly I'd say you achieved a lot in doing what you did do. Like you said, it took you everything to do that much. It is a difficult step, and you were able to achieve that. Is it wrong to ask after meeting only once? No, it's not. How does it work? You're on the right path, it's a battle of courage and confidence.

Likewise in the area of nervousness, it is possible the girl lacked the confidence to reply. Though there's many unknown possibilities. You don't have to drop your chances immeadiately. You can attempt to repair via the powerful tool of honesty. Say something like "I'm sorry, did asking that make you uncomfortable, I don't understand what I should be saying..." although don't copy this, this isn't sufficient mostly since I'm writing it on the spot. I personally would try the word "casual" in perhaps "casually hang out". Though that may not be ideal if it's not honest.

Still, I must emphasize you seem to be on the right path.
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Posted 4/3/11 , edited 4/3/11
There's nothing wrong with asking her to have lunch together. She might have a whole list of reasons for not texting back. Maybe talk to her in person again when you see her and just see how it goes.
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Posted 4/3/11 , edited 4/3/11
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My response though:
There's nothing more attractive than a guy who's willing to go for what he wants. Absolutely nothing wrong with you txting her for a date to go out to dinner or lunch. Just wait for a reply back, and don't freak out. Be patient. And if she doesn't reply back, then forget her. She's not worth your time if she's willing to be stuck up about it and not respond in general. But I highly doubt that. I'm sure she'll reply back eventually
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