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Men who pause
Posted 4/23/11
Sometimes, If they pause. for like 3 sec.
I rolled my eyes,and high five their face and run away. fast.

Posted 4/23/11

Aero-Mach wrote:


Lauriet wrote:

I do this all the time. I pause for about 1-3 seconds, and continue. People find it irritating, apparently.


I would, I'd make you eat plenty of chocolate to get you hyper to speak faster! >.<!


No, thank you. I'm dieting right now so I want to avoid stuff like chocolate.

I also see people take pauses (either short or long) very negatively. My main question is why? As far as I can deduce it is a matter of instant-gratification, whereas people want things now. I pause to be considerate, as well as process the appropriate words. That doesn't make me retarded in any sense of the word, I'm just weary of how I approach people. Now if someone asked me an opinion, I won't pause.

I come off as a detached sort of polite, I don't do it for the sake of courtesy, I do it because it's beneficial. Besides I don't like talking that much anyways, I'm much more of a listener.

People don't like pause, because.....? Because? I was actually expecting pausing to be an actual social cue, but I suppose not.

Posted 4/23/11 , edited 4/23/11

Lauriet wrote:


Aero-Mach wrote:


Lauriet wrote:

I do this all the time. I pause for about 1-3 seconds, and continue. People find it irritating, apparently.


I would, I'd make you eat plenty of chocolate to get you hyper to speak faster! >.<!


No, thank you. I'm dieting right now so I want to avoid stuff like chocolate.

I also see people take pauses (either short or long) very negatively. My main question is why? As far as I can deduce it is a matter of instant-gratification, whereas people want things now. I pause to be considerate, as well as process the appropriate words. That doesn't make me retarded in any sense of the word, I'm just weary of how I approach people. Now if someone asked me an opinion, I won't pause.

I come off as a detached sort of polite, I don't do it for the sake of courtesy, I do it because it's beneficial. Besides I don't like talking that much anyways, I'm much more of a listener.

People don't like pause, because.....? Because? I was actually expecting pausing to be an actual social cue, but I suppose not.



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Posted 4/23/11
I do that quite often. Usually to take time to consider what I'm about to say or to fully process what the other person was saying because I wasn't paying attention. I don't care if it irritates people or not. I'm not forcing them to talk to me.
Posted 4/23/11

Kuhle wrote:

I do that quite often. Usually to take time to consider what I'm about to say or to fully process what the other person was saying because I wasn't paying attention. I don't care if it irritates people or not. I'm not forcing them to talk to me.


They will wait, its not like someone's rude enough to just walk away from you when you just open your mouth.
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Posted 4/23/11
So i know this one pretty hot chick it's a girl you'd look at and say damn i wanna bang her...As I got to know her she's a person who talks non stop and that just turned me off...so yeah it's never good to talk to much lol
Posted 4/29/11
-Oops, I slipped.
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Posted 4/29/11 , edited 4/29/11
I'm trying to come up with a response when I do that, and to make sure it doesn't sound stupid. Especially if the person I've just spoke to has said something dumb, which I find difficult to respond too. I find people who talk constantly quite annoying.

I'm more of a listener anyway.
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Posted 4/29/11
some times i do that because i feel irritated pissed annoyed bored or something is bothering me
or im just thinking really really hard and i mean really hard
Posted 4/29/11
I read the thread title as "menopause".
Posted 4/29/11
I thought this was a topic about the Menopause too and I was about to write "Well I've got 30 years to go yet, why worry about it now?"

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Posted 4/29/11 , edited 4/29/11
Um OP are you just impatient?


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Ih don normally do that unless ihm n deep thought or try nd think on what ihmma say or if ih don lyk dah convo


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Posted 4/29/11
That's everyone for me, no one can beat me in a battle of wits.
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Posted 4/29/11
Pausing is perfectly normal. Be patient. Wait, listen, show that you're listening, and respond. I think it's polite to pause. I think good speakers pause. Speaking too quickly and/or using superfluous words to fill the space isn't helping anyone. Pauses are not for "retards". *facepalm*
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Posted 4/29/11 , edited 4/29/11
Generally, people that talk fast have lower self worth and feel that they need to 'get it all in' quickly. Maybe because they were raised in an environment with narcissistic or immature parents/people that didn't have the respect or maturity to demonstrate the patience to let their kids get complete thoughts out , they would cut them off or talk over them, ignoring the other person's thoughts, having grown up in an environment made to feel constantly that their words and thoughts were of no value, they feel the need to quickly spit them out before they will be 'cut off' or dismissed as they were when young.

When someone is confident in themselves and has strong self worth they usually do not feel the urge to be nervous and speak fast as they are used to others paying attention and respecting their ideas, thoughts and words. I can't think of people I know over 25 that talk in this manner except for actors on television like Ari Gold (Entourage).
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