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Arrange Marriage....
Posted 5/8/11
So I don't know If there's already a topic on this but I would like to know what people think about arrange marriage...

I know some culture (mostly South Asia) believe that marriage is suppose to be pick and choose by ur parents, but come on now its 2011 let it go...

My mother right now is basically handing me photos of guys that she thinks will be compatible for me..... on top of that it's only our own kind (Cambodian/mix Chinese) which bugs me, well the whole thing bugs me. I'm totally against it, but my mother is still in that world thinking it's a parents job to find their daughter/Son a wife/husband and that you don't need to date or any type of courtship wut so eva...blah

Just to be an obedient daughter, i told my mother I would go see ONE, which eva guy she chooses... but I kno nothing is going to happen so.....ya

It just gets me mad...eh

So what's ur opinion on Arrange Marriage...?

Posted 5/8/11 , edited 5/8/11

ChiChi06 wrote:

So I don't know If there's already a topic on this but I would like to know what people think about arrange marriage...

I know some culture (mostly South Asia) believe that marriage is suppose to be pick and choose by ur parents, but come on now its 2011 let it go...

My mother right now is basically handing me photos of guys that she thinks will be compatible for me..... on top of that it's only our own kind (Cambodian/mix Chinese) which bugs me, well the whole thing bugs me. I'm totally against it, but my mother is still in that world thinking it's a parents job to find their daughter/Son a wife/husband and that you don't need to date or any type of courtship wut so eva...blah

Just to be an obedient daughter, i told my mother I would go see ONE, which eva guy she chooses... but I kno nothing is going to happen so.....ya

It just gets me mad...eh

So what's ur opinion on Arrange Marriage...?



Don't give in to your mothers wishes. I'd never advocate anyone to do such a thing but in this instance arrange marriage is a horrible concept.

You got two people forced into a marriage. what if they became abusive? or just a prick in general. Imagine if he was a closet gay or something.
Posted 5/8/11
I disagree wholeheartedly with arranged marriages. Love itself doesn't operate on any reason, and some marriages have no love. It seems wrong to force two people together when it is better to support their independent decisions regardless of where they lead.
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Arranged marriages are sad....marriage should be for love and nothing else ^_^ wow that sounds corny xD
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I don't support arranged marriages. Just throwing a complete stranger into another's arms, saying "here, spend the rest of your life with this person you don't know and enjoy it" is wrong. It's almost like a prison sentence. Now you're stuck with this person who you have no connections with, may not even like, and you can't do anything about it. A big commitment like marriage should be carefully and seriously thought over, and it should be a result of love, not because your parents think that this person would be good for you.
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Trust meee I will not give in...It's not even considered in my book. So unacceptable...
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Posted 5/8/11
it's like prison food.. bad at first, then after a while you get used to it. but still a prison's a prison.
Posted 5/8/11
That is SO last century I'd efing hate it to put it lightly LOL. "Here's a man now love him!!" aaaah I caaaan't!

No way I'd let myself go through that or let anyone else control me like that.
Posted 5/8/11
I would consider arrange marriage if you had a daughter/son who is having trouble dating...

So skip dating and let the parents arrange you a nice marriage but...

Real talk... Arranged Marriage shouldn't even be brought up. It's like handing your baby girl to a Lion...

Since you have no idea who the motha fucka is...Crazy bitches out there
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Posted 5/8/11 , edited 5/8/11
Meh. If you have someone you like then don't agree but if you don't have errr... don't agree still, find someone who is worth loving.
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Posted 5/8/11
Idk I guess I'm against it... I don't want to have some unhappy robot wife on my hands, I'd have to beat her to fill that void in my heart...



haha jk! Hope you get over your wacky situation.
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Posted 5/8/11
lol my parents made me go to one of these arranged marriage meetings once.
I went and I acted completely uninterested... so... nothing happened.
I guess the guy was uninterested too. whew

Just go and see for experience sake, but don't feel like you're obligated to date the guy just because
your parents think he's a nice guy. ^_^" But go to satisfy their wishes...
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Its okay with me as long as the girl is nice
Posted 5/8/11
Aside from my dad, everyone one from his side of the family has had an arranged marriage which is the norm since they are Indians. It really is a cultural thing, basically all of my paternal cousins are happy to have an arranged marriage which I do find seriously depressing but it really does work for them.
I know that in Indian a marriage isn't just about the two people, it signifies joining of two families plus there is that deep rooted notion that mummy and daddy dearest know best.

Saying all that I just can't imagine how someone could go through with it.
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Posted 5/8/11 , edited 5/8/11
depends. if you are forced to marry a person that you don't know. that's a bad Idea. if you parents just ask you to meet the guy and let you decide what to do, then i think that's ok. It's no different than my friends introduce girls to me.
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