The Male Physical Need for Sex
Posted 5/13/11
I know that sex drive varies from guy to guy, and that a man isn't to be considered "gay" if he isn't a consummate horndog chasing skirts all the time. What a man might be is disciplined and celibate for a reason, whether religious or otherwise. It is known that when a man gets older, his sex drive lessens due to a plummet in testosterone levels. There is also such a thing as male menopause, much to some people's surprise.
Posted 5/14/11

Sonovabitch wrote:

I know that sex drive varies from guy to guy, and that a man isn't to be considered "gay" if he isn't a consummate horndog chasing skirts all the time. What a man might be is disciplined and celibate for a reason, whether religious or otherwise. It is known that when a man gets older, his sex drive lessens due to a plummet in testosterone levels. There is also such a thing as male menopause, much to some people's surprise.
Men's sex drive can also diminish as a result of depression. While a well disciplined man can sustain his testosterone and subsequently his sex drive in check. Whereas a man's sex addiction is often the result of rampant instant gratification. But nothing is more interesting than how the mainstream entertainment medias tend to correlate male sex drive, as a social status symbol of social dominance.
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Posted 5/17/11 , edited 5/17/11

Sonovabitch wrote:

I know that sex drive varies from guy to guy, and that a man isn't to be considered "gay" if he isn't a consummate horndog chasing skirts all the time. What a man might be is disciplined and celibate for a reason, whether religious or otherwise. It is known that when a man gets older, his sex drive lessens due to a plummet in testosterone levels. There is also such a thing as male menopause, much to some people's surprise.


~Testosterone levels can be regained by simply working out in the gym and/or doing cardio.As to the male menopause you are talking about,it is called "Andropause". The male counterpart of Menopause. For most of us men, we lose about 10% of our testosterone levels when we hit the age of 30. Men whose testosterone levels drop more than 10% each decade is considered to be going through Andropause. For men in their 30s,testosterone levels decrease because of the increase in production of Sex Hormone Binding Globulin(SHBG). SHBG does not stop the body from producing testosterone, rather it simply traps and prevents it from being used by the body.Other causes of Andropause are stress, alcohol addiction,injuries,surgery,medication,obesity, and infection.There are a few treatments to andropause, one is a cream, which is applied twice daily to the scrotum; a gel which functions in the same manner; and a tablet, which is inserted under the skin and can be effective for up to four months. The problem is when doctors are not able to match the dosage correctly to the patient. Even the a small imbalance can result in negative effects like acne, growing of breast, baldness and liver abuse.
Posted 5/19/11
Really wish at least one other girl had posted, but oh well. And I did read the first post - this is not about that. It's my overall opinion on the male physical need for sex, or, perhaps the physical need for sex in general.

The idea of it meaning more to the average woman than the average man disgusts me a bit, but in this day and age, it may mean just as little to said woman. I've made the mistake of being with a guy before the relationship got anywhere. I don't believe it had anything to do with our current.."detached" status. The chemistry was there. It was just awkward. I don't know what was running through my head. Maybe it was something a long the lines of: "I shouldn't be doing this. It feels good, but I shouldn't. God, won't this be weird later? Should I stop this? Yes, but I can't. I like it too much. Yammeryammeryammer.." LOL and I'm pretty sure the only thoughts going through his head were: "Duhhh..oh, she likes that. Guess I'll do this." I remember asking him if he thought it was a bad idea after the deed had already been done. He's just like, "Oh, no. That was just us having fun. Relax." Fucking bastard. At that point in time, I'll bet he could have been with anyone and said the exact same thing.


So that guy hadn't been with a girl for 9 months prior to me. He went absolutely insane. Apparently, sex in itself is a big deal to most men..uh, it's a "need," if you will? He stated his belief that there is more to a relationship to sex, and I took that to mean that he would have been fine with or without for who knew how long despite the fact that we'd already gone at it. I guess not as he wanted some pretty much every time we were alone. In order to redirect any blame, just know that so did I. I was just more hesitant with my approach. But what bugs me the most about the whole experience is, here I am wishing we could go back to that while the sex probably hasn't crossed his mind nearly as much.






Posted 5/19/11

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Sonovabitch wrote:

I know that sex drive varies from guy to guy, and that a man isn't to be considered "gay" if he isn't a consummate horndog chasing skirts all the time. What a man might be is disciplined and celibate for a reason, whether religious or otherwise. It is known that when a man gets older, his sex drive lessens due to a plummet in testosterone levels. There is also such a thing as male menopause, much to some people's surprise.
Men's sex drive can also diminish as a result of depression. While a well disciplined man can sustain his testosterone and subsequently his sex drive in check. Whereas a man's sex addiction is often the result of rampant instant gratification. But nothing is more interesting than how the mainstream entertainment medias tend to correlate male sex drive, as a social status symbol of social dominance.


It's kinda horrifying to know that when depression really takes over the man, they actually suck their own dick.
Posted 5/19/11

onibrotonel wrote:


DomFortress wrote:


Sonovabitch wrote:

I know that sex drive varies from guy to guy, and that a man isn't to be considered "gay" if he isn't a consummate horndog chasing skirts all the time. What a man might be is disciplined and celibate for a reason, whether religious or otherwise. It is known that when a man gets older, his sex drive lessens due to a plummet in testosterone levels. There is also such a thing as male menopause, much to some people's surprise.
Men's sex drive can also diminish as a result of depression. While a well disciplined man can sustain his testosterone and subsequently his sex drive in check. Whereas a man's sex addiction is often the result of rampant instant gratification. But nothing is more interesting than how the mainstream entertainment medias tend to correlate male sex drive, as a social status symbol of social dominance.


It's kinda horrifying to know that when depression really takes over the man, they actually suck their own dick.


Almost. The deepest depression would keep a man from even being able to move, and it destroys all sexual drive.
Posted 5/22/11
its natural biology for a young, healthy man to have a powerful sex drive, as they're most likely to rear healthy children
i didn't have tell you guys this of course
Posted 5/22/11

The_Roy_42 wrote:

its natural biology for a young, healthy man to have a powerful sex drive, as they're most likely to rear healthy children
i didn't have tell you guys this of course
It's also problematic that the human male sex drive itself can act as an addiction and substance abuse, within the context of biological psychology:

Sex’s Hidden Hangover

What neurochemical mechanism drives intimate partners apart with such predictability? Astonishingly, it is built right into fertilization-driven sex. Over-stimulation of the limbic system triggers sexual satiation neurochemicals, which radically change our outlook toward each other.

Unlike other mammals, who confine their mating frenzies to periods of estrus, humans can become sexually aroused at any time. Unfortunately, the blasts of dopamine that accompany sexual climax are potentially highly addictive and would interfere with other evolutionary priorities, such as hunting and gathering or feeding infants. Indeed, when researchers wired rats so that they could push a lever in their cages to stimulate the nerves on which dopamine acts, the rats pushed the lever until they dropped, not stopping to eat or mate (Olds, 1954). To protect against this result, humans, too, possess a mechanism for sexual self-regulation. Ours, however, is more akin to starting and stopping in heavy traffic, leaving us vulnerable to intense cravings and relationship friction.

What evidence is there that sex over-stimulates the brain? In 2003, a Dutch scientist reported that brain scans of people having orgasm resemble scans of a heroin rush (Holstege, 2003). Dopamine soars during copulation and orgasm. (Putnam, 2001) These natural highs are only the first part of a neurochemical roller coaster ride - a ride that is essentially the cycle of all addictions. As we will see in a moment, after orgasm, dopamine plummets, prolactin soars, and androgen receptor activity drops off for up to a week. In short, "what goes up must come down," returning us to homeostasis.

Sadly, these subsequent neurochemical shifts lead to radical changes in perception, coloring our perception and altering our behavior. When the neurochemistry of passion pounds between our ears, we see "Mr." or "Ms. Right." When the hangover kicks in, we may see "Mr. Hyde" or "Medusa." Or we "need space," overreact to remarks, feel needy, or find third parties compellingly attractive. During this natural recovery period we may also experience intense cravings, as we unconsciously seek to raise our dopamine levels again.(citation)
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Posted 6/5/11
First off... dustin hoffmann - win.

Second, men are most likely gay if they can't "consummate" so you say. I take that word to be of use in the conjugal sense of the term, so if a man in a marriage can't "consummate" it, he's either sterile or simply gay.

But so as not to take the discussion out the window, I'll be practical and tell you its biology - but you know that already. The male specimen is there to transmit his deteriorating Y chromosome for the sake of continuation of the species. The male praying mantis is consumed by the female after "intercourse". Several male species of different insects die immediately after transmitting their "seed" to the female. Same thing goes for several helminths.

Now some unimaginative sap out there might counter me saying "we aren't bugs, worms, or animals you know." True, we aren't. But deep down inside, every woman knows that's precisely what men are - if you know what I mean.
Posted 6/5/11 , edited 6/5/11

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First off... dustin hoffmann - win.

Second, men are most likely gay if they can't "consummate" so you say. I take that word to be of use in the conjugal sense of the term, so if a man in a marriage can't "consummate" it, he's either sterile or simply gay.

But so as not to take the discussion out the window, I'll be practical and tell you its biology - but you know that already. The male specimen is there to transmit his deteriorating Y chromosome for the sake of continuation of the species. The male praying mantis is consumed by the female after "intercourse". Several male species of different insects die immediately after transmitting their "seed" to the female. Same thing goes for several helminths.

Now some unimaginative sap out there might counter me saying "we aren't bugs, worms, or animals you know." True, we aren't. But deep down inside, every woman knows that's precisely what men are - if you know what I mean.


Fear can be the reason why a man won't consummate. His anxiety born out of fear of poor performance can make him neglect his biological purpose. With that, it seems, he has condemned himself as a failure.

Men are much like bees; we sting, and then, die. Often, men don't see much of anything past gratification, and they abandon the person they irresponsibly fertilized. As humans, we have complex emotions. As basic mammals, we are not much more complicated than a stone on the ground in terms of purpose.

Anymore, we have very much debased the importance of perpetuating our species into novelty. With how homo sapiens are the top link in the food chain, what necessity is there in our existence? That is left up to being defined by our individual views, but factually, we aren't here to define life so much as we are to instinctively live it.

For each man, there is a distinct set of preferences. Whether or not he breeds conventionally, or chooses to satisfy an emotional requirement, is why some people might respect their personal needs, all while bearing in mind how our species will ultimately perpetuate itself regardless of genetics or what is deemed proper.
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Posted 6/5/11
I don't really understand what the topic of discussion is supposed to be about. Most young men are really horny due to various biological phenomena, what is there to discuss? The only potential discussion I see is the implication that males are the only ones who "need" sex. As a college student, I personally witness tons of women who pursue sex just as much as all the guys I know (not with me unfortunately, but I digress). Females have just as much of a "need" for sex as males do, the only difference is our expectation of what we want from the act. In general, males just want to have an orgasm, while females want an emotional bond. However that doesn't mean they "need" it any less than we do.
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