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The Last Gentlemen
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In my opinions chivalry is something that should never die; a man should always strive to be a gentleman. Gentlemen take care of every possible aspect of a date to make the woman/girl that they are on the date with feel like she is worth something to you. She should be treated with respect. Dinner should be paid for by the guy. She is allowed to choose the movie or activity (unless she chooses to defer it). Doors should be held open. Chairs should be pulled out and slid in. When she rises from or returns to the table, her date should rise as well. Proper language and manners should be used at all times...The list continues...That is what a guy should do and desire to do from the bottom of his heart, if he doesn't, girls he isn't worth hanging around.
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sheighton wrote:

In my opinions chivalry is something that should never die; a man should always strive to be a gentleman. Gentlemen take care of every possible aspect of a date to make the woman/girl that they are on the date with feel like she is worth something to you. She should be treated with respect. Dinner should be paid for by the guy. She is allowed to choose the movie or activity (unless she chooses to defer it). Doors should be held open. Chairs should be pulled out and slid in. When she rises from or returns to the table, her date should rise as well. Proper language and manners should be used at all times...The list continues...That is what a guy should do and desire to do from the bottom of his heart, if he doesn't, girls he isn't worth hanging around.


Although I agree with you for the most part.... it's been 75 years since that as a whole has been common.

Ya know... I think I was born a century too late...
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I agree with both of you
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^lol,yes of course girls love to have the old positive privileges,
and gain more and more because of emancipation.
but girls ,get real!you cant have all!
you want to get treated like men ,but when it comes to
pay for dinner it is so nice if the guys do it,you have
lost your minds girls.choose!
do you want emancipation or not,you just cant have both!
i mean you already got your own parking spaces,are you retarded
or what.you wanted it,now deal with it,men who give you
both are stupid anyway,and you dont want that,right?
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Posted 6/7/07
women want what they want... thats why its easier to space out...

not that we should what they say does have wieght... its just a question of...do you really care about going to the extra effort.. ehh
Posted 6/7/07
Man, I totally missed Skygod's post! Anyways, I'm not a feminist but I still don't think a guy should have to pay. I just think he should offer to pay. It's the thought that counts.

As for taking care of women, I don't think we really want to be "taken care of" with money. I'd rather my BF spend some quality time canoodling w/ me on the couch or going for a walk etc...
Posted 6/7/07

arano wrote:

^lol,yes of course girls love to have the old positive privileges,
and gain more and more because of emancipation.
but girls ,get real!you cant have all!
you want to get treated like men ,but when it comes to
pay for dinner it is so nice if the guys do it,you have
lost your minds girls.choose!
do you want emancipation or not,you just cant have both!
i mean you already got your own parking spaces,are you retarded
or what.you wanted it,now deal with it,men who give you
both are stupid anyway,and you dont want that,right?


Thank You! I have been saying this forever. You are the smartest person in this thread.
If you want to be treated like us expect to not have the old privliges. If you want the old privliges we can just go back to being superior and you wouldnt want that.

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i totally enjoy the fact that guys should pay...it saves money for me. but to be pratical...and *modern* i always have cash at hand...in case the guy is not feeling up to it. at the same time...i think it's a matter of courtesy. at least say you're going dutch first...instead of waiting till the bill comes. it's kind of mental preperation for girls to pay. and the whole holding door issue was huge in my school. there's been many many times when the girls ending up holding doors for the guys. i know there's been many occasions when i expect the dorr to be open...and almost walk into the door slamming into my face. ouch. so ya, i think it's general courtesy to hold the door for the next person.
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I believe that chivalry is something that should be acknowledged and followed for the most part. Although times are changing traditional beliefs and etiquettes are still viable and when you think about it they are still essentially the right things to adhere to. There are very few cases in which some people decide not to follow the code of chivalry and are not at fault. This includes, however is not limited to, when the girl asks not to be treated specially, when the girl is not exactly acting ladylike, and or when the girl asks the wrong question, "What kind of car do you drive?" (which is a polite way of asking how much money you have as Nick Stokes from CSI Las Vegas once said). Of course someone who is truly chivalrous would stick to the code of chivalry regardless of the girl’s actions and or words.
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well, in my case .. when me and my bf go out .. we share expenses. i dont want him to pay all the bills, besides we dont yet earn money for ourselves, we are students .. i dont want him to spend money especially when he doesnt earn it (from parents)... when there is a coming ocassion (anniversary) we both save money for that day to spend. Its right we girls want to feel special .. but not it terms of money (well maybe some) ... but not all ... love and affection is the most important thing ... i dont believe that men should pay all the bills ..
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What a fascinating topic...I love it!...i just came off the thread about how serious CR is getting, and how the threads are lame...and now I come to this...yay! Real conversation...

I'm just an old fashioned kind of person. Being a gentleman is about respecting women...it's not just picking up the tab...I agree with what has been said...If she asks, she pays. If he asks, then he pays...and if money is an issue, then use your imagination and come up with something that is free, or inexpensive. But to ask someone on a date, then expect them to pay may put them in a situation that they can't afford. But money has nothing to do with holding the door, or pulling out her chair, or curbing your language around her. That is about respect. And it is okay for a woman to expect these things from a guy she is dating. I am teaching my daughters that they are worth being treated well, and they don't have to tolerate mistreatment.
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I donno - maybe it's different?
My first dates with others came 50/50
I offered to pay for both me and my partner's but it couldn't be helped
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Posted 6/8/07
First date the guy or more dominant one should pay (for our same sex couples lol)

after that maybe take turns...but a guy should atleast have some pride about him and not ask the girl to pay...thats just sad...and if a girl just assumes the guy will pay thats just sad...

And as for a guy seeing a girl home is a must if she doesn't drive, or have a way home, lets face it the world is a lot more dangerous for women, I don't care how strong you are as a woman criminals see us as easier targets there fore we have a greater chance of being attacked...(remember saftety in numbers!)

gentleman seem to be in the minority these days, men dont even get up on the bus for ladies anymore...its pathetic...

and for those saying woman want their cake and eat it to HA...there are things men in our society are to do, just like woman have their roles...men have to pay give a seat to a lady, hold a door open, woman cant burp/fart dare to think to poop around a guy until they are married or comfy enough...woman cant spit, etc...we all have our fair share of duties...
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sigh, i've tried being a gentleman.. but one girl in particular always want to pay for my share >__<

we even got physical a few times! not enough to get hurt
but yeah, we did when i wanted to pay for the food at a local restaurant. but you know what she did?? she pulled out her credit card! she cheated! =(

all she had to do was get it out of her bag T__T
and i had to get my wallet which was harder to get -__-;;

you go try pulling out your wallet while trying to hold her down without looking like a thug! > <

plus. i think the cashier was on her side! the cashier was giggling and stuff. ugh. women > <

make up your minds!! gentlemen or indepent??! lol

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Posted 6/8/07
i would like the guy to pay on the first date.
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