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The Last Gentlemen
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26 / F / I live in england...
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Posted 6/8/07
ummmmm i think id be embarassed if a guy was like giving me loads of attention and being a gentlemen because im simply not used to it! lol! but i think its good that there are still some men out there who are like that........why would you not want that?
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Posted 12/30/07
well, for me, who ever asked to go out on a date should pay unless they agreed to split the bill. for example, if i'm going to ask my boyfriend out on a date, i'll insist on paying even if he's not happy about that coz i was the one who asked. but most likely i'll lose in the end if he really insists and end up paying the bill instead. it really depends on the guy you're going out with.
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Posted 12/30/07
They are a dying race. I dont know perhaps its the generation and those are practices that are slowly dying out. But I for one grew up with the mentality that those little things are a must. Even if some would say they are actually pretty pointless in this new "equality" age, I refuse to not do such things such as pay for first dates, open up doors, etc.. when the opportunities arise. It's like it's against my ego and i feel hurt.
Posted 1/29/08
i do and i dont complain. its expected.
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Posted 1/29/08
my sister's boyfriend insist to pay everything for her but she choose not to most of the time, she says it feels weird... i guess it depends (?)
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77 / M / Florida, US
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Posted 1/29/08
I think this is a typical way of thinking of a date. If the guy asks, he should make sure that he pays. The girl SHOULD bring money unless she doesn't have money. The girl should offer to pay for her meal or her share of whatever they are doing. The guy should insist and pay for it since he was the one who asked.

If the girl invited the guy, she SHOULD DEFINITELY bring enough money for both of them and try to pay. The guy should offer to pay for them or at least his share as an act of chivalry. If I were the girl, I would pay for both of them although the guy insists on paying. If she is somewhat interested in meeting him again (even as a friend), she should say that she is going to pay but tell him that he can treat her to something else next time.

If it's a blind date or a situation where neither initiated the date, both should bring their money and offer to pay. But the guy should probably pay.

If it is friends going somewhere with no romantic attraction between them, I have no idea how this is even an issue. Either can offer to pay for this time or they can split it. When you're friends and still living with your parents, you should probably split it. Since you're not paying for them. Your parents are. If you invited them, you should end up paying in most cases while the guest offers to pay for themselves at least.
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Posted 1/29/08

ahojcookie wrote:

Okay, the last 3-4 times I went out I didn't ( get to ) spend a penny, because each time I was in some male company who insisted on paying. Of course I don't really mind, as much as I don't mind someone holding the door open for me, but we discussed this lately, as a friend of mine started taking multiple girls out.

He isn't very experienced in dating, so we all adviced him. After telling him where to take her out to and where not, it turned out most of us suggested he should pay the bill, but some said something along the lines of "This is the 21st century, let her pay her bill, you pay yours. She won't expect you to pay anyway."

I'm not too sure about that. Though most women wouldn't really rely on someone else paying, I know they actually expect it. I even heard of cases, in which the girl didn't even bother to bring money. Emancipation is one thing, but on the first date, most people agree that the guy should pay.

What do you guys think? Not just about paying, I'm talking about the whole catalogue of gentlemen etiquette. Like being protective, seeing you home, holding the doors open, opening beer bottles for you, letting you choose the movie etc., etc.

I don't think it's a big issue, but some feminists are condemning it, like females didn't succeed in emancipation as long as everyone's expecting men to be gentlemen. Oh and is it annoying to men to always have to meet those expectations?


Not really, men are after one thing and one thing only, we dont much care about other things.
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Posted 1/29/08
lol my GF was 5 times richer than me, but still when we go out on an date i insist that il be the one paying.
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Posted 1/29/08
well, i agree that whoever asks should probobly pay the bill.And usually people would half the bill when they eat.But i think it would be nice for guys not to pay the bill but just hold doors etc. because i'm a girl and i do that when me nad my friends are walking together- it's normal etiquette
Posted 1/31/08
hm. Whenever I went out on dates, I ended up paying the bill. Sadly this ate through a lot of my funds and the guys I dated didn't even bother to offer to pay, in fact one would get up at the end of dinner and just pretend to go to the bathroom for 20 minutes so I'd get stuck with the bill. It'd be nice to be treated well on a date for once and have someone sort of spoil me instead of constantly getting stuck with the check. Although to be honest I'm not fussed either way, it would just feel nicer to not have to worry the entire date through of how it's going to affect my rent/light/water bill later on if I pay for a date.
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