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It's because we don't have enough confidence or courage to stand up for ourselves.
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Man, I envy some of the people here with there "I punched them hard and they cried/ran away/stopped" bully's. I ended up with four sibling bully's who could not get it through there heads that just because I was a foot shorter they could not do as they pleased. Even after dozens of fights often ending with mutual injury of everything from minor groin kicks, biting and tearing flesh, up to a few dislocations and such, to serious concussion's, broken bones, and one rather nasty infection from said biting over the course of three years finally ending after I had my final growth spurt and ended up half a head taller with year's of fighting experience.

Btw as some have/will say, for every kid blowing off steam or just being a jerk there are just as many violent thug's in the making which should be treated as such with the bully's I dealt with where all four of them started as bully's and ended up in jail for various crimes the last of which I knew of was armed robbery.
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I never got bullied in my life. The middle school I went to didn't have bullies I guess. As for high school... Maybe because I'm tall, mostly serious-looking, quiet and, according to my close friends, have a "fuck off" aura around me. But I don't bully other people either. I actually help people who are bullied. Give them advice and sometimes befriend them (it drove some bullies away).

I'm a nice guy. I'm just really quiet and serious-looking.
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I was jumped by five kids when I was in sixth grade. They couldn't hurt me and actually laughed when they punched me, they stopped shortly after and was never bullied again. I'm too tall/large to be bullied anymore, and I'm certainly smarter than the ones who try. I have more than one way to push back.
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Never been bullied a day in my life. I went to school with most of my family so if I ever had problems, my fam was there to kick their ass. I seen lots of other people get bullied and I feel no remorse for them because I think if you not brave enough to stand up for yourself then you deserve it. Now if it some kind of position where they have something important to you or something similar to that cause then I understand
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Believe it or not, in 6th grade I had a fellow student who kept trying to sexually harass me. At the time I didn't even know what the hell that was, all I knew was that he was bothering me. One day, a teacher made us sit next to each other in class. He was thrilled, I felt like puking. He started to come near me to touch me and that's when I snapped and started throwing punches. I don't know where the hell the teacher's brains were, but right in front of her, in the middle of class, we were engaged in a fistfight. After he gave up, I went to report him to the teacher and she said, "Fight?", "What fight?" Another student chimed in and said, "Teacher, they were fighting in the middle of class and she (me) was trying to get your help." I don't remember what happened afterwards, but I do remember he never came near me again after that. To this day I still hate redheads, which is what he was. I wish I could've killed him.
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If they bully me, they are saying that I am inhuman and do not deserve to live on this planet.

If we, as a society, are going to condone bullying, why shouldn't we allow the victims of bullying to commit suicide?
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I used to during 8th grade, but I solved it. It wasn't bullying like throwing me in a trash can, or shoving me in a locker or anything serious. It was more of my friends just over-abusing my kindness. They would do things like punch me in the arm repeatedly, putting me down, or not moving from the front of the locker. You could say that it's friends just being friends but you can only go so far before it's not just friendly pestering. For instance when my arm started turning purple from the punches (which they laughed at), or when i started flinching every time one of them even moved their arm. The reasoning I cou;dn't stop this before was because I didn't like fighting which they knew, and they're stronger then me.

Eventually I stopped this when I punched my friend in the face because they were messing with my PS3 (you can do a lot of things to me, but when you touch my stuff i get mad). Also one tried to kick me but i grabbed his leg in the air and pushed him back hurting him, not to mention that i worked out and got stronger so I don't have to worry anymore. They still do these things to me but it's settled down a little bit and now it actually feels like just friendly messing around.

Though I find it funny how they try to make what they did to me sound better. Their reasoning was:
"We're trying to make you stronger." Yeah perfect reason.
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There was this kid in HS that was always ostracized and bullied because of his strange walk and his slurring speech. Because of his outward appearance, most kids thought he was (for lack of a nicer word) retarded. It was lunch time, and I didn't really give a f*uck who I sat next to as long as they don't stink. I sat in the first empty seat I could find, which was next to where he was sitting. As i was calmly, quietly enjoying my lunch, I started to hear a group of guys verbally bully him and insult him. I did nothing but I did wait to see if a fight would break out so I could get out of the way.....but nothing happened for a good while, and the abuse kept getting worse....I snuck a glance at the guy to see his face, to see if he was going to do anything, but it looked like he wasn't....he had the classic hunched down body posture. I let it be thinking that soon he would reach his breaking point, but mine broke before his and I let them have it. I suppose my fist slamming the table and shaking everything, and my yelling out of nowhere (plus my pissed off face) scared the crap out of them (they had that look). They tried to get to me by saying, "What, are you his girlfriend?" I answered, "Well what if I am!?!?!" They went silent and went away. I knew with a question like that, they were trying to not only get to any insecurity that I had (which I had none) they were trying to get me to insult him as well by trying to make me vehemently deny that false accusation.

Later, I had found out that that boy's problems came from him being run over by a car when he was little and he was as intelligent as everyone else. .....but there is a downside to all this for me.... later he became enamored with me and kept following me around and trying to give me stuff (which I refused). Then he kept asking me to go out with him and be his girlfriend ....I was like, "Dude, you don't even know me." ....and "I don't want a boyfriend." which was true at the time.....he still kept following me....Then one day after summer break, I started college and was waiting in the hallways and SH*T there he was. He stopped bothering me after I started having my boyfriend (which I got in the summer) walk me to class. I'm glad he finally took the hint and it didn't have to get ugly. Funny enough, then my boyfriend had his own stalker and I had to help him get rid of her too ....she was a shy girl who he had helped (he worked as a tutor at the school while attending as a job).

Anyway, you've just been warned what could happen when you help some people.
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I grew up out in the backwoods on a farm. When I was moved to the big city and went to those schools, needless to say, I was bullied all the time. Because of my accent and my clothes. But it was mainly just calling me a redneck or bumkin. And mocking my accent. I had a heavy twang in my words. A few times however the bullying got physical. But I always fought back. Sometimes I won and sometimes I lost but I was always ready to fight at the drop of a hat.

Because of this I tried the "fittin in" thing. I bought the all the hot styles of clothes. OP shirts, Hobie Shirts, Nikes, and camo BDU pants were the popular clothes. But it didnt hide my accent. So still I was bullied. Even worse because I was trying to fit in.

I ended up with the outcasts of the school. Nerds, geeks, goths, asians (yes they were ostracized back then) dweebs, and losers. I found them to be alot better friends then any jock or prep. And I began defending them along with a few other people in my situation. Again sometimes I won and sometimes I lost. But thanks to joining the outcasts I was introduced to cool music like psychobilly. Tabletop RPGs. And yes even anime came along later. So I dont regret it one bit. I could have grown up a jock or a prep. That would have been awful.

There are many reasons they let the bullying continue. For some it was fear of a physical confrontation. Because, in their mind, they know there is no way they are beating a jock. Another is fear of getting in trouble. This is a big one because the school I went too didnt care if you were defending yourself. They treated everyone in a fight the same. And lastly alot of them were brainiacs and wanted to use their brains to get out of it. But they didnt understand life yet and paying off a bully or getting someone else to beat up the bully doesnt stop the bullying. So there alot of reasons.

I remember the first time I fought back. I was 12. The bully was this big jock guy. I was about as big as him though. He had been pushing me, poking me, calling me names and so on for weeks. I finally couldnt take it anymore so I turned and I hit him. I hit him hard. The hit was heard all the way down the hallway. His head snapped around from it and he turned back to me and said "Yah come on! Thats what I want. Lets go!" I was like "Uh oh this isnt like the movies. He is supposed to drop to the ground and run off. I might be in trouble here." So he returned the hit right in the side of my face. It was a hard hit too. I sent another one at him. And we stood there throwing punches back and forth. Just trading hits. Not tussling on the ground or running around. Toe to toe trading hits. I would punch him in the gut, he would return the punch. I would punch him in the face, he would do the same to me. It was awful. He wasnt going down. But I wasnt about to go down either.

Finally a couple of teachers showed up and took us to the office. We were both suspended for several days. Eventhough he admitted to bullying me. Even told the principal "He's a dumb redneck! Who cares?" I was still punished the same as him. The next day at home the entire side of my face was swelled up. It hurt to breathe because I think some ribs were bruised. But I healed up. When I returned to school he wasnt any better off. He couldnt play football for a couple of weeks because his ribs were hurt too.

Folks I would love to say it was a storybook ending. That he and I became friends or that I earned his respect or something. But life isnt an after school special. His bullying continued. And even more football players joined in the fun.

So even if you fight back you might still have to deal with bullying. It doesnt go away because you tell a teacher. It doesnt go away because you try to fit in and go with the flow. It flat out doesnt go away. Its always there. Even now with schools taking a more proactive approach it doesnt go away. All you can do is...... Well its your decision how you handle it. I say stand up and fight back. It probably wont stop but its alot better then taking it meekly.
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PhyongHwa wrote:

There was this kid in HS that was always ostracized and bullied because of his strange walk and his slurring speech. Because of his outward appearance, most kids thought he was (for lack of a nicer word) retarded. It was lunch time, and I didn't really give a f*uck who I sat next to as long as they don't stink. I sat in the first empty seat I could find, which was next to where he was sitting. As i was calmly, quietly enjoying my lunch, I started to hear a group of guys verbally bully him and insult him. I did nothing but I did wait to see if a fight would break out so I could get out of the way.....but nothing happened for a good while, and the abuse kept getting worse....I snuck a glance at the guy to see his face, to see if he was going to do anything, but it looked like he wasn't....he had the classic hunched down body posture. I let it be thinking that soon he would reach his breaking point, but mine broke before his and I let them have it. I suppose my fist slamming the table and shaking everything, and my yelling out of nowhere (plus my pissed off face) scared the crap out of them (they had that look). They tried to get to me by saying, "What, are you his girlfriend?" I answered, "Well what if I am!?!?!" They went silent and went away. I knew with a question like that, they were trying to not only get to any insecurity that I had (which I had none) they were trying to get me to insult him as well by trying to make me vehemently deny that false accusation.

Later, I had found out that that boy's problems came from him being run over by a car when he was little and he was as intelligent as everyone else. .....but there is a downside to all this for me.... later he became enamored with me and kept following me around and trying to give me stuff (which I refused). Then he kept asking me to go out with him and be his girlfriend ....I was like, "Dude, you don't even know me." ....and "I don't want a boyfriend." which was true at the time.....he still kept following me....Then one day after summer break, I started college and was waiting in the hallways and SH*T there he was. He stopped bothering me after I started having my boyfriend (which I got in the summer) walk me to class. I'm glad he finally took the hint and it didn't have to get ugly. Funny enough, then my boyfriend had his own stalker and I had to help him get rid of her too ....she was a shy girl who he had helped (he worked as a tutor at the school while attending as a job).

Anyway, you've just been warned what could happen when you help some people.


If this happens, you need to calmly explain to them why you do not want to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't try to make them feel more isolated than they already are, because they are capable of understanding you, as this example demonstrates.
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So, how did it get resolved?

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Never been bullied a day in my life. I went to school with most of my family so if I ever had problems, my fam was there to kick their ass. I seen lots of other people get bullied and I feel no remorse for them because I think if you not brave enough to stand up for yourself then you deserve it. Now if it some kind of position where they have something important to you or something similar to that cause then I understand

You may have had your family there, but lots of people who are bullied are completely alone. In most situations where you're outnumbered and outmatched, standing up for yourself and fighting back isn't brave, it's stupid. Especially if you're in a place where bullying isn't properly punished, so there's no real opportunity to get help.
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ive been bullied i think.... i honestly couldn't care less cause their action and words wont reach me and effect me in any way!

ok.. i honestly think they are just being annoying so i ignore them and don't respond to them which would make them bored and not bother with me anymore
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Funny thing is most people thought I was trouble child in first grade. I was so lonely and the kids still talked to me, but they believed I was all generally trouble. The problem was my teacher who was the bully. She taught me horribly, and I always got F's , and I admit I said weird things like " I have to go poop..." while raising my hand to go use the bathroom because it was kinda natural for me to say that. I also became less religious as result as I wanted to fit in and have more friends, and this weird mentality I had that I could fit in if I loosened up on religion. I really regret that. Even worse part, my mother told me outright that the teacher told her that she thought I was retarded and needed to repeat the first grade. My mother, the boss she is, took me away for couple months and tutored me and brought me back and I became on of the tops in class. Not to mention, she give over 20 books to read each week after first grade was over to make sure I knew how to read real good. I also feel like say, I always felt even more alone due to being the only black kid and my mom did say the teacher was probably racist as she picked on me more. Once there was a spelling test, right? She writes the words on the board and class them out and tells us out loud we can write it down and LOOK at the board to write it. So I accidentally miss a word because she goes to fast so I look at the boys paper next to mine, and she catches me and says " Move a step!" and publicly shams me like I cursed or cursed at her. Funny thing, next year I didn't see her at school. She got fired. ^^ One thing to mention, she's also the reason when I was young that my grammar was so messed up. Still is now, and it's hard for me to understand it but I have to get re-taught all over again but I took some lesson after class with my English teacher in 9th grade for 2 or 1 month and I scored on one of the top in my whole grade.

Though it got worse later, little problems. Second grade, one of my friends told my other friends that I was 'stealing' her friends. They all then condemned me and wouldn't let me play with them. They all turned on me, and I was really alone so my mom sent me for overseas not for that particular reason, but I was glad. I admit I was comfortable to with people that were black, to be honest. So I came back to the school and that girl? She failed 3rd grade and had to stay back. Ha. Funny thing, after that when I came back tot the school they always put me in with black students. But then after that, I wasn't really feeling insecure about my skin anymore and learned to embrace it.

Fifth grade to my shame, I did bully people. Let's just call it a 'violent phase' it was more like people who ever made funny of me got knocked around, and my friends did it too sometimes. I did get sent to the principal's office once but not for a really bad reason. The kid kept bothering this girl, so I pushed him ( into a brick wall) though it wasn't a hard push just regular force to push something, so he kicked me directly in the stomach and since I didn't eat a lot I went to teachers to tell them I wanted to go to the nurses office but they asked why and then I said it and from there....well, I did get out of trouble I bawled my eyes out and begged her not to expel me, she said she wouldn't thought I was a good kid and tried to just make me walk during recess but I told her I'd do better and just sit down in class reading a book. From after that grade, I promised to never bully again, but I never picked on anyone for no particular reason except this one kid who was creep though everyone picked on him but never did anything to him as did I.

6th wasn't that bad, but someone tried to pants me in the girls locker room. She tried to do it before but failed, so when she did it in the locker room, I beat the hell out of back and you could actually hear the slamming noises on her. After that, she never tried to do anything on me again though when I bumped into her she actually had the nerve to threaten me as if she could, but I didn't want any trouble I'd learned my lesson from 5th grade and simply just went another way in the locker room which was actually less crowded and better.

8th grade( I went back to the overseas school ), someone guy bullied me, made fun of me, and his friend Max called me a retard then my friends for standing near the doorway when he could simply WALK AROUND. He also said other various things, but i didn't catch them but it was pretty obvious with the pointing and laughing. Though they were dumb, and when I mean dumb they scored D's and F in everything. His friend ganged up with his own friends ( 10th grade? ) and when I wasn't saying anything they constantly tell me to shut up and then his friends would say "Yeah!", like it's funny. Told my mom and she goes pissed as hell. In the overseas school, there was no bullies. Really. So when they heard his friend was harassing me, my mom then told a teacher and then threatened him with suspension. His high school buds caught the news and then found me and were asking around, then asking what he did to me, ( Obviously I wouldn't say ) but he made me promise to go to my mother and quite her rage but my mom said no. She said he was actually going to be suspended for breaking the school's laptops. Not my business or whatever. So I just went, " Oh well!" and was glad he left the next year.

9th grade, BEST YEAR OF GETTING BACK EVER. I kept going to that school, and the Max kid I talked about kept bothering me even though his friend was gone but did it more quietly and did it less since I barely talked to him. But it did it get worse, gradually again. One day, I was in a bad mood, pissed off because I forgot something and my teacher was still making me do it without it, I started ranting out loud about where the boys' desk were all not straight, so he takes this chance to tell everyone how retarded I am, so I snap out loud
" Well, you're not straight!" No pun intended. Everyone laughed so hard and all the girls gave me a high five for standing up the dick of the school. The teacher was right there when I said it, heard it and gave a small smile because she hated him too. Everyone kept on asking me that day what I did to him, because he was all down and silent. I wasn't proud for what I said, but I hell am happy for who I said it too. From that day he left me alone.

From then on, no bullies. I felt like I just got a lot off my chest. ^^
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