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I've met many different kinds of people who get bullied, and I myself was bullied for 3 years. It all started from the stupid reason that I started to grow up before others, and I had a pretty distinctive personality. The reason why I never fought back was because I was afraid to get into trouble, and was physically weak. Add to that a negative way of thinking and I quickly became depressed and afraid of everyone around me.

Now I've gone trough various psychiatrists and meds, but since the doctors had no intention what-so-ever to help me through anything and the meds just made it worse, I gradually started to give up on myself. Now I'm still in therapy and I find it hard to gather up energy to do anything, and I basically have only 1 friend left, who I get to meet about only 4 times a year. I've developed a pretty nasty habit of hiding myself behind a mask in front of others, and see absolutely no point in thinking about the future.

One thing I want to make clear; It's never the bullied one's fault that they get bullied, it's not like they run around asking for it. Sometimes the bullies don't even know they're doing it, but all people have weak points that they don't like others to know about.

I actually know how to fix my own problem, but I have no moral support, so it's easy for me to give up and that makes me hate myself all the more. And I live in a pretty rural place, so I probably go outside my house max. 2 times a week, plus I don't have any neighbors. Makes me think that I'm pretty much a lost cause.
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I was bullied all through elementary school, there was nothing I could do to stop it because it was such a large group of people, boys and girls, and they were very violent, all I could do was run and try to make it safely home, they would come at me with bats, rocks, sticks, bricks, and just try to hurt me. It's not a matter of "letting yourself be bullied." What are you supposed to do when you have 16 people chasing you with the intent of severely injuring you? When I told my teacher what was going on, she told me to tell the other kids "you are a pill" (what does that even mean?!) and when I went to the principal he just sneered at me and told me to "toughen up." Who is tough enough to take on that many people when they are all armed? When the disciplinary officer at my school found all those people around me beating me up, I was also given a suspension... for getting beaten up! Bullying is the result of people in power refusing to do anything to help and the herd mentality of all the people who watch it happen or act along with the bully. Those people standing around doing nothing to help the person being bullied is just as responsible as the one leading the bullying, if the whole class would get together and tell the main bully "what you're doing is wrong" then the power trip is gone.
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Posted 2/28/13 , edited 2/28/13
In Wisconsin the closest thing we have to bullies are people who don't say "excuse me".
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Bullying comes in many forms other than just physical abuse, sometimes it is much more subtle.
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I was bullied a lot then one day I kinda snapped and i slammed the kids head into a pole multiple times until he was bleeding and got taken away in a wheelchair lol people kinda stopped picking on me after that...
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I got bullied a bit in high school(British Highschool that is, which is about equal to american middle school). I think what stopped it was my voice change after I hit puberty.
I am always told now by people that I don't sound like I care whenever I'm talking. Judging from the fact Bullies do what they do for a reaction I can only asume my uninterested voice made them lose interest. My rule I formed afte getting bullied for a while was always that they weren't worth my time so I would generally just either ignore them or respond to them with vague "uhuh"'s and "sounds cool"'s.

If that didn't work I would start being ultra nice to them and acting as if we were best friends which generally annoyed them into leaving me alone.
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Bullying doesnt stop in High School or College, or even in the work place, Its a disgusting habit people do to 1 make them selves feel better or 2. they are just a horrible person.

I was picked when I was younger and i am now to some extent but i dont let it get to me. i know its easier said then done when you are younger and your life revolves around friends and school but things will pass and your skin will go thicker and things wont get to you as much. Sure you could go out and beat them up or bully them later in life but that doesnt make things better all it does it knock you down to their level and then who is the better person?
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Too be honest, i'm not sure.. i did for the longest time but i took a stand and really chewed them out and told them the honest truth about being sick of it. i finally got through to them and they stopped messing with me even if it was just "jokingly". god i hate that. anyways a friend of mine had changed a lot over summer break and finally grew to understand me. now he's a great friend of mine and he definitely made my life a little more positive despite the past. He sticks up for me a lot.
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Aside from knowing I'm weak, I hate fights so I just let them do whatever they do.
I pity them.
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I was bullied in grade 7 by one person so I punched him in the eye. Really hard. He stopped and was scared to come around me. Grade 8 was another person who started bullying me. I punched him in the jaw. Really hard. He stopped. We became friends. Weird.
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Posted 4/13/13 , edited 4/13/13
I do not like fights.
I do enjoy sarcastic remarks that poke fun at their intelligence level.
This is what inevitably leads to the fight, but it was worth it.

I would consider my boss to be a bully, but there is not a lot I can do about that.
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Posted 4/13/13
err what if the bullies are women :O.... i mean i could hit a girl but.... like i dont wanna ruin my school life
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So sad to see a culture that blames the victims. Whether it is bullying or rape or anything of that nature, we live in a culture that blames the victims. People, the ones who are at wrong here are the aggressors, they are the ones that need punishing/changing, or whatever you would like to call it. Best way to stop bullying is to report it to an adult, no matter who sees it. Do not wait for someone else to act. YOU have to do it.
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jofecu wrote:

So sad to see a culture that blames the victims. Whether it is bullying or rape or anything of that nature, we live in a culture that blames the victims. People, the ones who are at wrong here are the aggressors, they are the ones that need punishing/changing, or whatever you would like to call it. Best way to stop bullying is to report it to an adult, no matter who sees it. Do not wait for someone else to act. YOU have to do it.


To be honest adults dont give a crap if you say that. the other student always has a perfect way to get out of it and teachers only believe what they see talking to adults doesnt help anythng thats why we just have to deal with it
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Then there is no point in having conversations like the one we are having on this forum. Either find an adult who does care, even if it has to be the principal of the school, or your parents (hopefully your parents care). Or a sibling or whoever it is. Do not give into the status quo. Just because things are a way does not mean it has to stay being like that.
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