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Posted 5/23/11

Dream_Polizzi wrote:


This is true. I had a few in junior high, and they hardly ever mess with you when they're alone unless they really think that low of you.

In high school, when there would be a fight, it was ALL ABOUT how many people you had with you. I would hear people saying that their 30 was fighting against their 14. Actual numbers. I always stayed away, but I saw one once or twice and it was as crazy as it sounds.


lol It was sort of the same at my schools. Some though didn't care how many people were around them when I was being harassed.
Posted 5/23/11
I know this one guy who got bullied at school for months about 6 years back, they came into the classroom when only he was there and started pushing him around one day, so he just grabbed a chair and smashed the ring-leader in the face It was amazing and we all congratulated him on standing up for himself, he didn't get suspended because he finally gave the bullies a taste of their own medicine and said that the ringleader fell on his face when he tried attacking him because he had been beating him for months and telling lies about him . So happy for him that day on top of that, he got all his self confidence back and lost a lot of weight since, he looks amazing!

and THAT is how you turn your life around and suck it to them. Play the game and wait for the right time to strike. The bullies never went near him again, I hope that fucker who was mean to him still has that squint in his nose from the chair.

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Why do I allow people to bully me sometimes? My answer is simple. Whoever they are they have their insecurities just like I do. When they bully and make fun of me it's because of their insecurities. School yard bullies are the precursor to internet trolls, all they want is for you to react. If you ignore them long enough they'll move on.

Another reason is that it's not worth fighting over. Why should I allow someone else to ruin my day with idiotic sayings? Fighting these people in any way, either verbal or physical, means that they've already won the moment you respond. But if they attack me physically... Well I'm an almost black belt in martial arts and I love fighting dirty. Knives are my specialty right now. So far I haven't gotten into a fight for several years now, and I hope to keep it that way.

A lot of times bullies only say what they say and bully others in front of their friends or people they want to impress. This normally happens more in middle school/junior high when the hormones start working. But it can happen anytime in life.
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I think, even if it gets you beat up, you should stand up for yourself...
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well.
no one really bullies me.
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23 / F / in the blllluuuee...
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I'm a skinny pale kid with glasses, people tried to bully me all the time at school. I'd always follow the same pattern when it hapened.

Start out following my mums advice, ignore them, tell a teacher, etc, which always did... nothing. If anything it made it worse half the time. Then I'd follow my dads advice.

My dads advice tended to stop bullying but get me into crap. Mostly because my dads advice was to kick the living crap out of them, even if i was a skinny pale kid with glasses I knew how to fight, and they never really expected it. I was a dab hand with choke holds too.

Bullying stopped with me in secondary school though. The people dumb enough to carry on trying to bully me went to a different school, and I quickly built up a reputation of not feeling pain somehow. I think one of my classmates was pissing about, turned and I caught a full fist in the face, but where i'd been so used to getting whacked I just laughed it off.

One thing I learnt from school was that teachers are useless, and to take things into my own hands. I know people disagree and say "oh you shouldn't" my response to them is "were you ever bullied? no? Then shut the hell up" or something more polite than that.

I know for a fact if i ever have kids I WILL be teaching them some basic self defense, and I probably will go with the "tell your teacher" approach first, who knows they may actually have decent teachers. But i'll also be telling them if the teacher does nothing to smack them in the nose and take them down, then not let them back up. Far as i'm concerned the only way bullies will learn is with a solid beating.

I'm not saying kick them while they're down either though, if they aren't getting back up then back the hell off. I just mean if they started it make sure its finished before you walk away from it. I've had too many whacks to the back of the head because I let them get back up while I was walking away.



Hmm... This seems to have raised a rant. nvm.


oh i understand what u say, yeh i've never been bullied but i understand that there are some annoying people who tries to take advantage of u sometime some people use to try to annoy me....lol some people disliked me because i was the type you never know what i might do...so i guess thats y i have never been bullied lol..but its great to hear that u defended your self...
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because once upon a time, I tried to fit in those people's standards...
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never got bullied.
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I got bullied once when I was 12, I don't know why.. but I did nothing, I dreaded coming to school and into class (worst part I had that class twice). She would always shake my chair, act innocent, and made fun of me. Till one day, when I was about to sit in my desk.. she push it and I almost fell out of it, the class and teacher saw everything since it was so loud. The teacher made her write a letter to me saying she was sorry... weird enough we became friends after that
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I had certain people pick on me for little things. I used to dress bad, wear glasses, carry a big fiction book with me, I was on the swim team and wore a speedo. But it didnt bother me much, I looked way better in it then they could, I got a full ride to a decent college, and married a beautiful woman. All in all im way more confident and better looking then when I was in highschool, and the people that talked shit really havent gone anywhere in life.

I also tried to defend people who were picked on because some people wont/cant defend themselves in a way that would cause the bully to stop or even care. It got me into a few fights, I didnt win them all but the other guy didnt look so well either and normally left the kid alone so all was good afterwards...
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Oh well, I was bullied in middle school but that's just because I appeared unsociable and weak in front of everybody. I'd push my friends away because I want to know how it feels like to live alone. trololol. Pretty weird huh. Basically, I was the class's number one weirdo. And I thought I could put up with that. But its harder than i thought
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It isn't a case of "allowing" it is a case of not having a choice. People who think that people have to "allow" themselves to be bullied are part of the problem.

I should mention the only people who ever "bullied" me did so on the bus, because I was smarter than them by a large margin, and they didn't like it.
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Got bullied 4th and part of 5th grade due to not being able to defend myself and being a crybaby. (or in general, be rude plus I was a new kid)
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I was bullied everyday till 12 getting beat up about 4 times a week. my life was hell until one day i just snapped during the middle of one of our usual fights ( there not supposed to be usual ) andd well the other guys around us just looked like they'd seen death after that fight, since i kinda went on a rampage broke the guy's nose, 3 ribs, and his arm which i snaped on my knee... well all in all they never fucked with me after that, but then again for yall who havnt been bullied and just say that u would beat them up its not that simple. when ppl are bullied like i was its usauly mutiple ppl ( for me around 30, 17 i can recal by name, ) not saying that many just 3 or more ppl can really mess someones life up. you dont even think about all the social discrimination about it like in my case they were the only ones in my nieghborhood, but i digres. for ppl who are bullied to the extent i was and even less for those who cant stand it can mean real dangers for everyone around them. If i didnt have a diffrent mind set when i was younger i could have ruined my life because hell i was a pyro in the actual terms i built bombs, dynomite, flash powder, ect... and i had enough supplies to well level some homes. And if i could find out that information years ago without so much new technology just imagine what a kid in that situation with the wrong mind set would find and do. So really ppl dont take bullying lightly its serious, i know i sound like some bullying panflet but it is important. In the end im now 6ft 7in 255lb muslce and no one messes with me lol.
Posted 5/24/11
Well, I always try to avoid getting in trouble as much as possible now.
I remember beating up those two bullies. I got my revenge .. as well as detention and when I get back in class, I was the "bad guy". NICE.
I don't want to get detained again so if it's something small then I'd probably just let it pass.

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