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I understand where your coming from but when I went to college I was alone, when I was in jail for 6months(Country jail not prison, never been to prison a day in my life) I was alone. Yet I still was never bullied because I stood up for myself. Bullies pick on weak people because they allow it to happen, never try to fight back or do anything about it. Think about it like this if you play for a sports team, and you get to pick who you want to play against who would you pick the strong team or the easy team? Most likely you pick the easy team for the easy win. just stand up for yourself .

People who don't stand up for themself grow up with anger management problems not at other people but angry with themselves because they let the world bully them so much they can't take it any more.
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Tairuke wrote:
i personally will smack someone if they try to bully me around..i always have this attitude..if u are surrounded by people who want to bully you, and they all want to beat you up.. you take down one person who is from that group and you really beat that person good no matter what happening around you

i never experience bulling..but i know some people who did



Bashment wrote:

never had a bully and i've never seen one throughout my life ive only seen in videos and on news and it pisses me off Sometimes I blame the one who's getting bullied for not fighting back


...Seriously? One, you're title is irritating... Why would someone allow themselves to get bullied? Surely you're not that naive.

Two, how can you seriously say what you would do when you have never been bullied? and to place blame on the victims!? Sheer arrogance and ignorance. I have been the victim of bullying so I can say from experience that fighting back doesn't always fix the situation, it only makes it worse in most cases. I ended up with stitches inside my mouth and drinking soup for 2 weeks for beating up some kid who was bullying me because the next day him and his friends jumped me.

Do you think bullies pick on the biggest, strongest kids? No. They purposely hunt down the weaker, smaller kids. They pick on people who they believe they can beat.
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Because I was depressed, and completely bought into the thoughts of "I'm worthless, unwanted, lesser than everyone else, and I do not deserve to live or have happiness." I just didn't think that I mattered. But before that, I was just too easy, trusting, sensitive, and gullible, which made picking on me quite fun for just about everyone else.

It still is, I think.
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When I was about 12 I moved to a small town in Ohio and no shit I got beat up for wearing checkerboard vans, I guess I was just to cool for school. Never let anyone determine your self worth. If they don't get you you then fuck em. They don't determine who you are, you do...
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So, how did it get resolved?




I joined the military when I turned 17. That is how I resolved all of it.
Posted 1/20/13
what are bullies do they even still exist?????? i thought they quit when kids started bringing guns to school
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Listen I've never let stupid kids bully me or anyone else for that matter around, when I was in 10th grade this guy was making fun of this girl in our class and when I took up for her he started on me, I told to say something one more time and he did..so I broke his nose with my history book, and I was proud of myself
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No.
I'm no coward. I do say things sarcastically back, however. Because I know what they want. I response from me.
To please their idiotic, shit filled small brain.
I ignore it a lot because I really don't care what people say.
I've been bullied throughout Elementary and Jr. High.
It got better in 6th grade, because I've actually made friends.
In Jr. High, well, at least I had friends, but there was this one really mean girl who just really got on my nerves.

Trust me. If I've responded to her, I would have been suspended from school. or expelled.
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Damn...
Vans are cool.
Those kids were probably hating, they didn't have Vans.
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Infantpooch wrote:

I understand where your coming from but when I went to college I was alone, when I was in jail for 6months(Country jail not prison, never been to prison a day in my life) I was alone. Yet I still was never bullied because I stood up for myself. Bullies pick on weak people because they allow it to happen, never try to fight back or do anything about it. Think about it like this if you play for a sports team, and you get to pick who you want to play against who would you pick the strong team or the easy team? Most likely you pick the easy team for the easy win. just stand up for yourself .

People who don't stand up for themself grow up with anger management problems not at other people but angry with themselves because they let the world bully them so much they can't take it any more.


When I was in school, there was a tradition of sorts among the older male students. What they'd do, is they'd pick unpopular female students, do their best to corner them when they were alone, and then ask them out. This went one of four ways: the girl would say 'yes' for whatever reason, and be mocked for it; the girl would say 'no' and be mocked for it; the girl would run away without saying anything, and be mocked for it (but at least she would be far enough away to not hear it); or, the girl would stand up for herself, be mocked for it, and then gain a reputation for it, which would usually lead to rumors and drawing more attention and bullying because it seemed to give the boys the most satisfaction knowing they'd ruffled someone's feathers. The staff would do barely anything about it. Anytime someone complained, it would be passed off as 'boys being boys', they'd be told there wasn't any evidence, or the boys would get a tiny punishment like a 30 minute detention. I can say from experience that standing up for myself in that situation did nothing to help. I feel bad for everyone who went through it, whichever choice they made. I also know plenty of other people, in various situations, for whom standing up for themselves just made bullies worse.


I don't like victim blaming. People deserve sympathy if they're bullied, regardless of how they handled it. It shouldn't be up to victims to risk putting themselves in more danger in an attempt to make things better, it should be up to the authorities to ensure these situations don't happen in the first place.
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I've been bullied by a midget in High School, 10th grade...
I know right? A midget bullying me.

I just ignored him, I know he wanted attention. Moi talked mad trash to everybody, and mostly everyone I knew wanted to punch his face in.
I don't know why but I felt bad for the kid and I'm guessing everyone around me did to, so no one did anything.
Till he threw a water bottle at the back of the head of a big Samoan dude. That guy could care less, he just broke the kids nose, upfront.
He then (Moi) started missing school and started to grow shy and timid and stopped going to school.

Totally deserved it.
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Posted 1/20/13

Hachikobubble wrote:

No.
I'm no coward. I do say things sarcastically back, however. Because I know what they want. I response from me.
To please their idiotic, shit filled small brain.
I ignore it a lot because I really don't care what people say.
I've been bullied throughout Elementary and Jr. High.
It got better in 6th grade, because I've actually made friends.
In Jr. High, well, at least I had friends, but there was this one really mean girl who just really got on my nerves.

Trust me. If I've responded to her, I would have been suspended from school. or expelled.


I like the way you think.
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Meh, was never bullied. I'm the type who avoids conflict so if i was bullied, I'd most likely ignore him.
Posted 1/20/13
No one bullies me anymore.
I straight up defend myself now.
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Well it was a small town in Ohio called Miamisburg. I also got jumped a couple of times for being the kid from Florida and break dancing and listening to hip hop and not being a bigot. After awhile I figured if they're going to kick my ass anyway I might as well antagonize them which I did quite well. I had several years of karate and kung fu training but 6 on one and you're gonna get your ass beat so... I do feel it made me a better person because I don't take any shit from anyone, but I don't resort to violence. I just rip into someones character.... I have little or no desire to actually fight or harm someone... Be strong and remember bullies are actually trying to compensate for something...
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