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how do you comfort a friend?
Posted 5/29/11
Listen with all my heart. do what I can to help......

Just being there.
Posted 5/29/11
Best way is to be someone they can talk to about their troubles. Makes them feel better.
Posted 5/29/11

Sonovabitch wrote:

Best way is to be someone they can talk to about their troubles. Makes them feel better.


Truth.
Posted 5/29/11
Like what the previous posters stated, just sit down and listen to what she says, let her pour out her feelings onto you, at least a bit, it will ease her mind a bit. You could also,if you are very close to her, make her laugh, joke about the situation if it isn't that bad..? uh just don't diss the situation, but joke about it..? Sorry if this doesn't make much sense. Get them to laugh, it will easer her nerves too and the stress will lessen. Just be the friend she sees you as and stay by her side at these times.
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Posted 5/29/11
I don't know the Issue so it's hard to give advice ( an opinion)...if you are a Good friend Just be there for them that's all you can do ...Ppl are going to make their own choices especially and extrovert!
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Posted 5/29/11
I listen to everyone's problems and offer my brand of advice. That's what I do.
Posted 5/29/11
"Here, ice cream tub. Knock yourself out."
Nah I usually let them tell me what happened, best to let it out. I'm like the Agony Aunt in my school, for some reason my advice is apparently useful. After they feel a little better, I tend to do something fun with them based on the person - like play some video games or troll on CR or whatever.
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Posted 5/30/11
I'll let her do anything she wants. After she's had enough she can go to me & consult me with her problems. After that, we'll go partying.
Posted 5/30/11
I listen to whatever they'd have to say. Then I'd give them my advice. FINALLY, TOOO THE ICE CREAM SHOP!
Posted 5/30/11
tell the friend to hit the gym and let the stress come out.
Posted 6/11/11
Simulate them by touching them AND NOT IN THE WAY YOUR THINKING!!!!
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Posted 6/11/11

garcon wrote:

im having trouble comforting a friend..Im an introvert and naturally, i suggested counseling, psychotherapy and loads of reflections and meditations. Another friend of her, offered free counseling. But my friend felt weird about all these things.She said she wants to go partying, night outs and extro stuffs. I do not know if these things are right for her, as she is an extrovert and maybe these things works for them. But I am afraid also, they may not really be the best (as these may not really help her deal with the problems). I dont also want to force her into those introverted exercises, as she may not really even a carry a moment of silence.

So my question, how do you comfort a friend, especially an extroverted friend?


Alot of Extroverted people are kind of weird in the way that they want help. Solving the problem isn't for you to do, it is something that must be overcome by the individual. All an introvert could really do is become the whisper in her ear. Just tell her your thoughts, she may not take them to heart but many decisions are made in a split second and whatever you say could help in culminating her a better choice. I have given advice to alot of my friends in the past and most of them said this when I asked "Why do you keep asking me for advice?" "It's because you give me a different answer then everybody else. Most of everyone else says the same thing and you give multiple perspectives on it." Ultimately when you go on your schpeel make sure to remind her at the end of the conversation that the only one that can change her situation is her.
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Posted 6/15/11
i used to be a extrovert but for the last few years been a introvert. when my best mate got dumped i sat with him and listened to him and we talked over how it aint the end of the world and all the usual stuff. as he wanted to go party i decided to go with him and let him do his thing but i also kept a close eye on him to make sure he was ok and stay safe and got him home afterwards. next day he was his old self again
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Posted 6/19/11
Im usually not very good with words but I usually listen and give lots of hugs which I think helps people a lot when they are sad ^^^
Posted 6/19/11
Depends why she's sad...

The best is to be there for her as much as you can.
Listen to her, talk about problems, let her cry on your shoulder.
Give advices to her
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