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Friends talking behind your back
Posted 5/29/11
Honestly, why do friends talk behind each other's back?
and sometimes they make it so obvious.


Should I just let go of that sort of person? or what.. how do you handle it and why do they even do it!


I mean come on, it seems to be that every girl does it.
I don't know about guys but I really can't hold a girlfriend relationship because of this for some reason.


Its hurtful.
Posted 5/29/11 , edited 5/29/11
They aren't friends. Sabatage their fun times, and do discrete things like ruining food. When you've had enough fun, stop associating with them. If they ask why you aren't hanging around them, tell them you are busy and that you have to meet people.

Just think of a couple random names on the fly, or tell them half truths to make so seem like you're an awesome person with a busy life. Even if you don't have a busy life, you're an awesome person to direct your life and cut loose the slack.

On the subject of girls being terrible humans, yeah. Glad I'm a guy. But still if you dislike not being respect, then there are others like you who feel the same way. Those are the kinds of people who would genuinly like to make friends with decent people like you.
Posted 5/29/11

varnlestoff wrote:

They aren't friends. Sabatage their fun times, and do discrete things like ruining food. When you've had enough fun, stop associating with them. If they ask why you aren't hanging around them, tell them you are busy and that you have to meet people.

Just think of a couple random names on the fly, or tell them half truths to make so seem like you're an awesome person with a busy life. Even if you don't have a busy life, you're an awesome person to direct your life and cut loose the slack.


I see your point. I am too trusting and forgiving. So it gets the best of me. I dont know if I could sabotage anyone, if i did i'd probably be really bad at it.
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Posted 5/29/11
I know which ones gossip, so I like to feed them false information. It's more fun that way.
Posted 5/29/11

NyuBoom wrote:


varnlestoff wrote:

They aren't friends. Sabatage their fun times, and do discrete things like ruining food. When you've had enough fun, stop associating with them. If they ask why you aren't hanging around them, tell them you are busy and that you have to meet people.

Just think of a couple random names on the fly, or tell them half truths to make so seem like you're an awesome person with a busy life. Even if you don't have a busy life, you're an awesome person to direct your life and cut loose the slack.


I see your point. I am too trusting and forgiving. So it gets the best of me. I dont know if I could sabotage anyone, if i did i'd probably be really bad at it.


That... wasn't exactly...

No, I don't know anything about your character. I am just saying from experience as a human. There are lots of people out there, and so some people you get stuck with, like people you work with. However, you can choose your friends.

When I was in highschool, I was all over the place. I never fit into any one group terribly well, but I was well liked by just about everybody because I never put too much effort into being accepted. If you being yourself gets certain people to talk behind your back, just drop them. If you think you can gain their respect, you can attempt to. However, if you need to change to be respected by people, then these aren't friends of yours.

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Posted 5/29/11
this is a tuff one when you think about it, I know a lot of girls who prefer to have lad mates instead of girl mates, because of the back-stabbing, if the comments are aimed at you maybe you should confront the person who arr saying these things.

But make an example to not back stab anyone in anyway. but this is coming from a guy I had a lot of back stabbing done to me but i just let it go over my head unless it's really really bad.
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Posted 5/29/11
I have a few friends who talk about me behind my back and i probably should cut them out but i find it amusing having them follow me around. I dont know why i feel that way but i guess it makes our friendship more entertaining, sad but true.
Usually what i do is i hit them up about it in front of all my friends and make them look like dicks and when i do that they dont deny anything cause the people they usually talk 2 about me is to our other friends without realizing that of course they going to tell me when people talk shit bout me ahahaha.

Obviously if you have friends who talk about you behind your back they are clearly jealous of something about you. I always give the few girl mates i do have the "what's up" i mean no one deserves to be treated that way at all.
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Posted 5/29/11 , edited 5/29/11
I Agree with you, it is Hurtful !!!! I'm sorry but most Girls don't know what it means to be a "true FRIEND" Most get jealous of you, Compete with you wanting what you have.... instead of being supportive.

Second: Guy friends are better to have in my opinion ...they aren't Catty!

Third: Yes, I think you should leave her where you found her! I think you find that you have to defend yourself around this person other than having a kinship!!! Friends love they don't hate nor keep you around only if you can give them something!
Posted 5/29/11
they have nothing better to do, their jealous, it could be for a lot of reason but mostly i think it has somthing to do with fitting in.
I've had 'friends' talk behind my back and i know how it hurt, expecially because i trusted that person.
I think it's best to confront the person.
I personally did and broke off the friendship, we still talk but that's just in general, i dont tell her everything.
It's always painful to lose a friend
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I wish I was in Canada, where they say shit right to your face :[ I think people who talk behind your back are no life gossipers who are too scared to be upfront.
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Posted 5/29/11
It's because they have nothing better to do than try and put you down when instead they should be trying to find a way for themselves to enjoy their own lives without looking at others with jealousy.
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Posted 5/29/11
It's out of jealousy, I just ignore them
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Posted 5/29/11
Gahhh, those are the WORST. but in my case, i used to have a guy friend who did dad! he made a lot of gossips and talked trashed about us. later he just got tagged as a "insert really rude word here" so he got what he deserved.
if you really considerer you FRIEND you shoudl try and talk to her, but this kind of people.... they hardly ever change.
Posted 5/29/11
Real friends wouldn't talk behind your back. If I found out one of them were, I'd stopped hanging around them.
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Posted 5/29/11
one reason they talk behind your back is that they're probably jealous about you for something ;x
& if theyre gona keep on doing that, then just confront them or w/e.
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