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Posted 6/30/11 , edited 6/30/11
Feminine Boys/Men

I've noticed that quite lately, a lot of boys and sometimes men as well are not looking as fully masculine as they used to. Many are looking very feminine in the way they dress, act, and get their hair cut. It's been a topic that has been picked up and talked about quite a lot lately, and I'm wondering why they look so girly all of a sudden?

Personally, I don't like feminine boys and I know many people don't. I think guys should be masculine because if they're feminine, then the line between male and female is blurred. Unless you're gay (and not every.single.gay.guy is feminine!) or transgendered or something, then you should be masculine.

Why would any straight girl want to go out with a pretty-boy or girly looker?

Call me old-fashioned if you will, but I think guys should be guys. I'm not talking about what hobbies interest them (like, if they like dance for instance - the actor Patrick Swayze for example did, but he was totally a man despite that); but rather, just how feminine they look, especially in today's generation.

Does anyone else feel this way?

- I've heard as well, that another reason they're tending to look girly is that the government or something puts hormones in the food, and this has a reaction against the natural human body, and is also the reason girls today look so overgrown for their age. I don't know if this is true, but I do know that putting artificial stuff in food has become accepted to make food grow in more copious amounts.

EDIT - I think some of you mistook me - I should of said I personally prefer guys as guys and not looking nor acting girly. If you want to, of course feel free to. I'm just surprised at the amount of which look girly today, that's all.

I don't see any problem being old fashioned in some respects - look what the world's become with modernization! This generation, our generation is being called one of the worst - kids today suck for the most part; they're too overgrown for their age, talk to much, and are filled with all the wrong ideas. They're getting into sex earlier, teen pregnancy is on the rise, they've no respect for morals; they're slackers, obsessed with their cell phone and hubby - they start to young and veer off into the wrong direction - but yet, think they should be free to do whatever and that it should be "accepted by society." (I'm not talking about being gay or anything for people who think I am - that is fine if you feel that way.)

My point was that I noticed in today's generation especially a huge increase of more feminine looking boys. If you take a look at the older days, They looked totally masculine, even the younger ones looked like guys only. But in today's world, they looks a bit soft, even the straight ones for the most part. When I was younger in the 90's, the guys back then didn't look as girly as today's. I've noticed that, and I wonder if it has anything to do with media?

EDIT 2
- Another thing I have noticed - I posted the exact same topic on another non-anime website and the overwhelming majority of the comments was totally different, and rather heatedly against feminine/girly looking boys/men. Out of curiosity, for the third time, I posted this topic on yet another anime website and I got for the most part, the same sort of response I'm getting on Crunchyroll - the support of feminine/girly looking boys/men.This sparks a question - do you like these sort of men, because they're the type who are featured so often in anime/manga/J-pop or K-pop?



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Posted 6/30/11
May be boys should look the way they want? It's just a fad, most likely. It's not like boys are seriously going to become girls, damn. And adjectives like "feminine" or "masculine" are things humans just create for ourselves, nobody has to meet these expectations as long as they like themselves.

As for the growth hormones in food, well, that's part of the food incorporation's money hunger scheme, but that's a totally different topic.
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Makes threesome easier.
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I agree men shouldn't be girly at all, but I believe it's the equality thing that screws with everyone. You need to be equal in society, yeah that's cool. But You don't need to be them to be equal. Men have grown too soft and some women too hard. I don't mean soft as in kind, I mean soft as in when the shit hits the fan most people will run, but real men stand their ground and stare death in the face. An unwavering "will" or "resolve". That's just my opinion, and I am really old fashioned.
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Posted 6/30/11
I blame the mass media.
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Posted 6/30/11 , edited 6/30/11

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Personally, I don't like feminine boys and I know many people don't. I think guys should be masculine because if they're feminine, then the line between male and female is blurred.



I think your whole opinion, which is what this is, comes down to this. Which, I'm confused, why is that a problem? People should be able to be who they want to be without people like you judging them. Generally, men who are not as "masculine" as others probably just don't care to be. Personally, I could really care less about what people think. I'm a normal guy but if for example someone were to punch me, I wouldn't jump back and punch them in the face right away; I'd first ask why would they do that. I think really it just comes down to what kind of person whoever is being examined is, and regardless of the answer, they should be able to be that person without any negative connotations attached.

To me it feels like "old fashioned" is a cover up for you saying, not you in specific, but the general mass, don't like a certain type of traits attributed to someone because it's different and people don't like change, or things they are unfamiliar with. Maybe people should be more accepting of who some people are? ㅅ_ㅅ
Posted 6/30/11 , edited 6/30/11
Im into girly boys....but only for the reason that i like when they challenge their cliches comfort zones,since the whole feminist era hasent fully unleashed across the world ....now... tryin to compete with girls in every way would turn things a little scary i guess....
Thou i believe that as a progressive specie that we wanna be, we must go trough several phases inside out before we can materialize somethin worth imposing....now being repetitive of history is plain pathetic and there is a reason why we go though the stuff we face every time,,,,,,.if not we'd be more unconformable and become in need of revolutionary stuff or the like....idk maybe we just need to balance out an update of yin and yang THATS ALL...
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Posted 6/30/11 , edited 6/30/11
WHAT'S WRONG WITH IT?
Alot of people actually like pretty boys that look pretty as girls.Especially asians((teens).But asians do like masculine men
Just leave it alone,but if they turn super gay,then that's gonna be a problem.
Not saying that being a feminine guy is being gay.
I think that's just based on ur opinion and maybe the people around u?
Men like that exists in anime and manga
Posted 6/30/11
Guys can be feminine and not gay. I have a feminine guy-friend and he's adorable and really funny! His dress sense is just plain awesome, he loves breaking fashion rules and coming shopping with us, we kind of dress him up like a doll. He really ought be gay but he's completely straight lol. Best of all, he's an agony aunt for us all when we have bitch fights. He'll sort it out.

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kyo7763 wrote:

To me it feels like "old fashioned" is a cover up for you saying, not you in specific, but the general mass, don't like a certain type of traits attributed to someone because it's different and people don't like change, or things they are unfamiliar with. Maybe people should be more accepting of who some people are? ㅅ_ㅅ



Everyone is different, and all cultures are different, so I guess 'old fashioned' isn't the right term. I like the textbook family where the father supports his family with a good income and the wife supports the family through love and raising the children. With the economy today it's hard to be an old fashioned(USA 1950's) household, but it's still possible for those willing to try and those who can live within their means. It's hard for both women and men to accomplish this, and neither has a harder job to do, but it's up to the parents to protect their children, but up to the father to protect his wife. That's what I mean by girly men. You could be weak or look like a chick, but if u stand between a gun and your wife/lover, then you are a man. It's more of a personality perspective. But since now everyone is equal people think, "I am equal to you, why should I give my life for you?" and that is the point I was trying to get across.
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And that's why I quoted the other person not you. I think the idea of giving your life for someone loved is definitely "manly" but, not only that, I think it equals the true definition of "courageous" so I wouldn't just confine it to men only. But your example pretty much explains what you were talking about :)~
Posted 6/30/11

magicuser360 wrote:

Feminine Boys/Men

I've noticed that quite lately, a lot of boys and sometimes men as well are not looking as fully masculine as they used to. Many are looking very feminine in the way they dress, act, and get their hair cut. It's been a topic that has been picked up and talked about quite a lot lately, and I'm wondering why they look so girly all of a sudden?

Personally, I don't like feminine boys and I know many people don't. I think guys should be masculine because if they're feminine, then the line between male and female is blurred. Unless you're gay (and not every.single.gay.guy is feminine!) or transgendered or something, then you should be masculine.

Why would any straight girl want to go out with a pretty-boy or girly looker?

Call me old-fashioned if you will, but I think guys should be guys. I'm not talking about what hobbies interest them (like, if they like dance for instance - the actor Patrick Swayze for example did, but he was totally a man despite that); but rather, just how feminine they look, especially in today's generation.

Does anyone else feel this way?



There is no set criteria for how any male should act.

Everyone should be free, within reason, to do behave in anyway they like. If a male wants to look/behave feminine then let them. Statements like this is the reason why people end up conforming and not being themselves or not being able to express themeselves, resulting in being upset or looking like an idiot trying too hard to fit in.

I may not be the most masculine person (but I wouldnt call myself a girly boy), but I'm not going to change and conform because of a majority of girl's personal tastes.

For the record, I see no men complain about tomboys or girls who cut their hair short and wear trousers all the time.

Oh btw, if it's your personal taste that's cool. But I couldn't help but pick up this vibe of telling how men should act, sorry if I got the wrong message.

I think it may be the media, or could be the lack of a male role model. In the end of the day what does it matter?. As long as they aren't hurting anyone or being assholes.

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Word. The truth doesn't only come from the mouth of the Judge, we are all who we are.
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Posted 6/30/11
Well, once the testosterone levels are high enough the masculine features should come in. Though most of the causes is probably genetic or the social perception of what is masculine or not. See my idea of masculine:

Epic mustache=extremely manly
somewhat epic mustache=meh still more manly than usual
A dirty stash=too manly
no stash=normal guy
rough shaven=tough guy
clean shaven=suave and well kept
Posted 6/30/11

zerokill wrote:

Well, once the testosterone levels are high enough the masculine features should come in. Though most of the causes is probably genetic or the social perception of what is masculine or not. See my idea of masculine:

Epic mustache=extremely manly
somewhat epic mustache=meh still more manly than usual
A dirty stash=too manly
no stash=normal guy
rough shaven=tough guy
clean shaven=suave and well kept


Your list made me crack up XD
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