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19 / F / Houston,Texas,U.S.A
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Posted 7/9/11
I'm more attracted to feminine boys. I'm not good which hairy chest and arms and also really muscular and buzz cuts or something like that.
Or maybe its more like I'm attracted to that bad boy look. Which would be not to muscular. I mean he can't look like a stick but more lean if anything. I believe that men should be able to act how they want.
In today's society, and big masculine man is less likely to be chosen compared to a suave and fresh young man.

To answer your question, yes I am obsessed with the pretty boy K-pop/J-pop look. I'm just talking about the look her. Not the personality. Pretty boys are definitely my mojo. I think there is nothing wrong with being a feminine boy. He was born like that. I think that more people prefer a pretty boy rather than a strong man. I get it that you want a strong man but I want someone who I stand stand on level with. I feel like a masculine man might think he is better than woman (just my opinion since I am a feminist and I despise people who degrade woman)

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34 / F / USA
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I find "manly" men and men more on the femme side equally attractive(if they are attractive), but I find most men who act like men pretty irritating so I tend not to gravitate toward them. That said, I've been married for seven years(hi, I'm old) to a man who started off femme and ended up very traditionally masculine(in most aspects), so the whole thing is kind of irrelevant. I still prefer guys to be sort of low key though, not totally dressed up, because I am a jeans and tee shirt kind of gal.

I don't personally follow asian media aside from anime and manga(and the occasional manhwa), nor do I favor asian men over other races, so I don't think that has anything to do with it. I grew up in a gay town, I was into the rave scene throughout my teens, I went to a highschool for the performing arts, my father is not traditionally macho, so I never really had a ton of close exposure to "manly" type men and never learned how to deal with them. I still cringe when my husband watches football(the really irritating american kind) all of once a year. I'm like ten+ years older than most of CR though, probably not the best data. haha
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Posted 7/10/11
I... can't say I mind the more feminine side of guys. They usually have a softer eye for gazing into. The 'manlier' man has a rough eye that I don't get entranced by looking in to. But that Japan then and now picture... looking into the eyes of both, it's much easier for me to be glad I live in the now. I also find that the ones with nicer eyes also have nicer personalities, and that's the part that matters most to me.
Posted 7/10/11
I'm quite hairy, so I'm not feminine per-se, though I am iffemininate personality wise.
Posted 7/10/11
I'm not much of a fan of girly looking males anymore. I prefer someone like Boris Kodjoe today versus someone who could pass as a female, but this is how I feel.
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Posted 7/10/11 , edited 7/10/11
Masculinity and femininity, what exactly are these? From my take on the words they are the ancient stereotypes and rules, per say, for both sexes of the human species.
Masculinity has to do with the stereotypical male figure. This is best shown as someone who is not only physically manly, but has the values of courage, honor, wisdom, physical prowess and righteous ideas/morals. Take a knight from any fantasy book, the world traveled physically undefeatable person in armor waving a sword against the evil hordes. Cowardice is frowned upon and is usually shown by taking risks that could potentially be fatal/ highly damaging to prove to others that you are superior. It's essentially the natural alpha male syndrome.
Femininity is the counterpart to masculinity. Gentleness, empathy, sensitivity, nurturance, deference, self-abasement, and succorance are behaviors generally considered feminine. The feminine nature is considered by some to be more emotional and less logical than the masculine nature. Women are supposedly weak, by society's standards, and helpless. To use the same example as earlier, in some fantasy books and more generally in children's fantasy the main female character is a weak, generally useless, person that is always in need of rescuing and unable to care for themselves.

Masculinity and femininity are rules and guidelines for people of either sex because of previously seen trends. To borrow an example from my mother, you place a toy truck and a doll in front of a boy and a girl. Usually the boy will go for the truck while the girl grabs the doll. These are the expected actions and normally what is expected happens. (I paraphrased that a bit, but hopefully you all understand what I'm trying to say with it)

These days however the younger generation is attempting to throw away the old rules and further themselves as an individual rather than blindly following the laws of the genders, which should really be more considered as guidelines or suggestions. It's simply a way for society to control people by labeling their natural tendencies. Men acting feminine isn't a problem nor is women acting masculine. The individual has their own personal presets that they follow. To use the doll and truck example again, the girl goes for the truck instead of the doll or the boy goes for the doll instead of the truck.

I'm assuming that you're talking about the emotional/mental side of masculinity and femininity instead of physical appearance.
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i think you fail to realize that andro type behavior has been around for a very long time. your just too young to know about it and obviously to dim to look further into the past to verify your observations. in ancient Greece men chose to live their lives as women and were viewed as normal. in japan there were districts where male geisha worked.... who knows if they were gay.. there wasn't a defined word for gay until very recently. do you think perhaps your over stepping your bounds by asking such a question? why do boys like to act like girls? why is it totally normal to be a girl whos tomboy and plays sports? dont you think its strange that our version of masculine is completely different than Asian countries? its a personal choice not unlike the fact that so many people from different countries and origins are obsessed with Japanese culture and television. think about what your going to say before you type it for everyone to see.
Posted 7/10/11 , edited 7/10/11
This idea that individuals should conform to some set of strict gender rules is ridiculous. It can only put unnecessary pressure on a person to conform and hinder their growth, and thus the growth of society in general. Not only that, but these silly customs change very frequently.

In Western culture, pink used to be associated with males, and blue with females. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pink#In_gender This practice didn't last very long, and today people think the complete opposite.

One cannot be expected to be to hold to completely feminine, or completely masculine ideals. You must remember, Gender =/= Sex =/= Sexual Orientation. It seems to me that Western Cultures have a lot trouble understanding this. Other cultures have completely different sets of gender rules. In some, androgynous people are honored. It is best to let individuals be free. Personalities are much too complicated to be confined into little box. I for one can not wait until we get to the point where an individuals can let their true selves shine without, hate, ridicule or persecution.


Posted 7/10/11
All I can say is it's a double standard,This is a very hot topic too that women like to whine and hiss and boo about too,as a stereotype We men want our women to be womanly and to be thin to have small waists small feet perfect skin perfect teeth nice thighs nice butts and ample breasts full lips supple chins and cheek bones small ears and noses and bright eyes that just pop out at you,but then again women want broad chested musclemen with prefect teeth skin and with a perfect figure with tans and no body hair and they always want there men to be taller then them they want us to drive cars that cost millions of dollars have amazing jobs and homes and they want us to have fourteen inch monster cocks and the knowledge to use them and wallets to match so they can show us off to other women and make them jealous with the shiny rocks we can put on there fingers or around there necks.that's not true will all women of course I'm speaking stereo-typically here.So in other words if you don't match those standards your either ugly,not worth living,gay,lesbian,to manly when your a woman or to girly when your a man,just because the beauty industry has been propagating lies and stereotypical bull shit for decades upon decades that means nothing.choose who or what you think is attractive and stick with it people and stop coloring in the lines and stop drinking the god dammed kool-aid all ready.
Posted 7/20/11
wait are they like flamboyant?
if i like them than i like them. regardless of how they act.
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