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Is it really that bad to like Anime ?
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Posted 8/1/11
I have the same problem. I'm going to be 22 in september and I'm the biggest geek ever. I look normal but once someone mentions something slightly nerdy I add something way more nerdy to the conversation. I don't mean to, I just get so excited. Oh and your tattoo sounds like it would be awesome. I really want to get the millenium falcon tattooed on my hip, and people make fun of me. I'm just a geek in more ways then just anime. Guys don't like geeky girls :/
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chao_sweetie wrote:

I am the first to admit I like anime. Sure I am over the age of 25, but I have my own house, car and good paying job. I am not the stereotyped comic book guy that is 100 lbs over weight, a proud stay at home son and who gets upset if his online GF dumps him.

So why is it such a problem to people ? I am having trouble finding a steady guy, because they do not like the anime thing. I mean it's okay for them to like UFC or even I Carly (yes a grown 26 year old man Tivo's I Carly but I am weird for liking Anime O_o)

I feel like Anime is hindering my dating life. Does anyone else have this problem ?

I am getting ostracized by family, because I wanted a tattoo of Kenshin's Sagara Sanosuke on my back. I have wanted it ever since I was 14 years old. Is that so bad ?

Am I doomed to be a cat lady because I watch the big 3 religiously every week ?

Heck, I feel I will have to will One Piece down to my great great grandkids to complete.. because it will never be finished.

Please give me your take.

P.S. I just hung up on the Icarly guy because he was like... I spent an hour listen to you blab about anime crap.. I dont talk about Icarly like this.. Yea I admit I love Icarly and I watch cartoons every day.. but I refuse to watch something as boring as anime.

P.S.S. Anime boring..? Ignorance is bliss huh ?


I'm pretty much in the same boat at you, good job, independent. I'm a little overweight but I try to go to the gym and work out on a regular basis. But I'm me and I'm an otaku. I hit dirty 30 this year but I'm going to keep at it until I'm dead. It the end, just like me, it's who you are. You're not doing anything bad or even immoral, so who cares. I think that in my case it's a little bit easier since I have several family members that range from casual to hardcore anime fans also. Either way, stick with it if you enjoy it. You just need to find someone who either is open to that stuff or better yet, a fellow otaku.

Just like any hobby, there's nothing wrong with anime. Whether is gaming, extreme sports, being a movie buff, or whatever. The only issue that I see is cross-cultural adoption. Regular people just don't really get it, just like we may not understand their obsession with celeb gossip. The only issue I can really see is just like anything, if it controls your life, then you'll have issues. Westerners too now are more accepting of stuff like anime and manga. Anime is a part of geekdom and geekdom is more mainstream nowadays. There's just some people who will never get it and we leave them be. There are much worse things to be involved with in life and anime isn't bad at all.

I even got my little cousin, who is as mainstream/normal as can be who is in general popular when he was in high school and even got scouted to do some modeling just recently and the like, into anime. He and his best friends all are totally into Naruto right now and they like asking me a lot about it. One if his friend's girlfriend even was saying how dumb it was and they were laughing at her for it.
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Posted 8/1/11

BadTiming wrote:

look at this way, you can argue that anime is an art form and a cultural gateway, you are therefore simply broadening your horizon.


i think that is a good way to counter, and i'd say dont worry about others, lots of people can be very tolerant, you just need to look. dont give up on what you like. people should respect that you atleast had the courage to even tell them.
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I completely understand where you're coming from. I went out with this girl one time and we were walking around Tokyo Toys in Trocadero. I had to refer Totoro as a "Big Teddy Bear" because she would completely switch off when I would mentioned real anime names like "Doflamingo" or "Ichigo". It hurt a little because My Neighbour Totoro is one of my favourite movies. I like to express my love for it because I know no one else who has watched it. I just wanna talk to someone about it damn it! is that so hard?! well, maybe so =(

I even seemed to have categorised my friends now, and my closer friends are the ones I like to talk about anime with. My other friends like completely different stuff, and nearly subtly convinced me to give up anime AND I NEARLY DID! (the horror!) I'm only 18, it's not too late to give anime is it? NO I say! I keep up the hope that there will be that one, that one who I can completely open up to until then I talk about it with my friends and without a doubt I know you will find someone even if they don't become a love interest to talk about anime with and you'll enjoy that aspect about them.
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Posted 8/1/11
Okay, so here we go:
I live in Florida too so I understand it a little better than most people here. Guys in your general age group right now here in Florida are mimics of the Jersey Shore douche bags, for starters. They want to go clubbing and get drunk and have a one nighter. Anime isn't weird: most series are more emotional and have more concepts brought forth through them than most guys here have. My boyfriend and I watch anime together and he helps me by buying some series to add to my collection. I'm happier than I ever would have been hiding the fact that I like anime and dating someone too shallow to watch it or even see what it's about before judging it, and hey, if they do it to an anime series, who's to say they don't do it to people 24/7? My point is, unfortunately, in our state we have one of the party cities everyone comes to in the USA (Miami) and guys that are here are thinking exactly that. Don't change for someone who refuses to even try to see eye to eye. Anime is not childish. As I said, it has more emotions and concepts in it than a guy's head from here does nowadays. Be proud of who you are and make sure it's the first thing you tell the guy you have an interest in. When you find a guy who appreciates it, your happiness will be tenfold. ^^
Posted 8/1/11
Honestly, I do not think there is anything wrong with you. People, as a whole, are vast, varied, and sometimes fickle about what they look for in someone else.

If they don't appreciate you for who and what you are, they are not worth your time. Trust me, there is a world of people out there who do and will accept you for how/what you are.
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Posted 8/1/11
I know the feeling. I'm 19 and a pretty big dude. I'm not really the athletic type but i play football every weekend with friends and i like to hang out in the woods going camping and canoeing and other outdoor activities. I feel like people look down upon me when i mention anything to do with anime. I haven't always been a fan of anime, it was just a year or two ago that I really got into it. I feel like I have to hide the fact that i'm an anime fan from my friends and family. I know I shouldn't care what they think, and i really don't, I just don't want to get into it with them over something so unneeded as one of my hobbies that shouldn't even bother them.
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Don't change who you are. I'm a 25 year old chick (this is my fiance's account) and when I met my fiance I hadn't even watched anime before. He was the one that introduced me to anime and turned me into the fan I am today (he also turned me into a gamer.. lol). When you meet the right person and fall in love.. you'll love them for who they are and you'll want them to love you for who you are as well. You don't need to go to clubs (I never liked to either).. not everyone does that. Oh and there are definitely guys who like geeky girls... and the good news is they tend to be the nicest guys ^^ I actually met my fiance on Deviantart.com ... don't lose hope And hey... you can always come to websites like this to chat with like minded people..
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Posted 8/1/11
A lot of people just don't culturally get anime or have been overly exposed to the poorer examples. To a certain extent, it's been lumped together with certain cerebral, "geek-drive" pastimes but if someone isn't willing to see beyond that and examine an individual in a more substantive fashion then they are probably not really worth your time.

Be yourself and don't let the opinions of others overly affect you especially when the definitive judgement encapsulated in that opinion so obviously betrays the ignorance in which it is founded.
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Posted 8/2/11
I found my answer after a loooooooong string (5-6 straight years) of nothing but rejection...

I stopped hiding my geek/otaku side.

I now have a girlfriend who is, much like me, a huge fan of anime and video games (among other "nerdy" hobbies). Both she and I are on the intellectual side, as well...her with history and geography, while I'm more a science and math person. We've been dating for well over a year now.

It's also helped me make some amazing friends, including a married couple that own an anime shop up in Wisconsin (about 90 minutes away from where I live).
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Posted 8/2/11
It is good to learn about other cultures. Too often Americans have a hard time thinking that there are other cultures out there because America's so good at entertainment. Going to anime conventions and starting meetup groups in the area is a nice way to get to know more people who have a similar interest. When I get asked what my interests are, I usually say that besides photography I like to learn about other cultures, then mention that I have a focus on Japan at the moment. Usually if a person likes anime/video games, they will respond warmly and start to talk about their interests and before you know it, the nerd conversation has begun. This can be used with people of any age group.
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Posted 8/2/11
There's absolutely nothing wrong with liking anime. Unless you are obsessing over it to the point where it could hurt you or others.
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Posted 8/2/11 , edited 8/2/11

chao_sweetie wrote:

I am the first to admit I like anime. Sure I am over the age of 25, but I have my own house, car and good paying job. I am not the stereotyped comic book guy that is 100 lbs over weight, a proud stay at home son and who gets upset if his online GF dumps him.

So why is it such a problem to people ? I am having trouble finding a steady guy, because they do not like the anime thing. I mean it's okay for them to like UFC or even I Carly (yes a grown 26 year old man Tivo's I Carly but I am weird for liking Anime O_o)

I feel like Anime is hindering my dating life. Does anyone else have this problem ?

I am getting ostracized by family, because I wanted a tattoo of Kenshin's Sagara Sanosuke on my back. I have wanted it ever since I was 14 years old. Is that so bad ?

Am I doomed to be a cat lady because I watch the big 3 religiously every week ?

Heck, I feel I will have to will One Piece down to my great great grandkids to complete.. because it will never be finished.

Please give me your take.

P.S. I just hung up on the Icarly guy because he was like... I spent an hour listen to you blab about anime crap.. I dont talk about Icarly like this.. Yea I admit I love Icarly and I watch cartoons every day.. but I refuse to watch something as boring as anime.

P.S.S. Anime boring..? Ignorance is bliss huh ?


First of all, there is no "P.S.S." It's "P.P.S." then after that its "P.P.PS" no dot after the third P. Anyway lol, sorry I just freak out at things like that >_< P.S. = Post-Script, so naturally saying "Post-Post Script" sounds more fluid than saying "Post-Script-Script"

Erherm:
1) I don't find anything wrong with a grown woman watching anime,
2) I'm 18 and I love anime, can't go a week without watching SOMETHING, even if it's a rerun. I drive around, trying to get a job after recently graduating high school, hoping to soon get out of my parents house and own my own, but I still watch anime and find nothing wrong with it.
3) The guy who loves iCarly that you tried going out with, bravo for you on hanging up on him. Anybody who doesn't appreciate anime doesn't deserve one who does.
4) Ignorance IS bliss, because I bet you anything that iCarly guy also watches My Little Pony, some grown men just don't want to grow up, but can't seem to find out how to cope with it, so they act like little girls and watch weird things.
5) Getting ostracized by family is ok, my parents are like "what the hell are you watching" but all in Armenian, and I just reply "A grown-ups cartoon"
6) Anime does NOT hinder and is NOT hindering your dating life. If I was around your age, I'd be attracted to you just for watching anime, Being an anime fan is a slight plus for me, now being an anime fan who watches good anime is indeed a really high plus for me, and since you wanted Sonosuke's tattoo on your back, that's an extremely high plus since I love Rurouni Kenshin.
7) I proudly own a Hellsing backpack I bought at Anime Expo '10 and used it every day of my senior year at high school, occasionally getting 2 random girls complimenting me and telling me I should cosplay as Alucard in the upcoming Anime Expo.

Sorry for making you read a short story, but I hope this cheers you up =)
Posted 8/2/11
I heard anime consumes your souls and turn your blood into skittles candies. I don't know what to believe in anymore
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Posted 8/2/11
Not everyone is going to share your interests that's just life. Perhaps a love of anime is less socially acceptable than some other interests, but seriously everyone has embarrassing interests. When it comes to life and relationships you have to take the good with the bad. If someone has a genuine interest in you they will deal with it. If you are a functioning productive member of society it's clearly not an issue. Enjoy anime and enjoy life don't be discouraged by those who can't accept you for who you are. I would suggest you avoid dating epileptics shounen anime may cause them some discomfort.
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