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How come guys always seem to apologize to girls
Posted 10/24/11
Just because, there's no real reason.... Unless the girl have DEEEEEEEEEEEEEP issues...
Posted 10/24/11
There's a really good lesson that can be learned just by looking at some of the responses on this thread...

Guys...please notice...psychologically balanced girls do exist. Actually, there are plenty of them all over the place. Some of them just posted in this thread.

IF you find yourself apologizing all the time, when you really didn't do anything wrong, seriously...strongly consider moving to a relationship with someone a little less manipulative and a little more emotionally secure. You are reinforcing a pattern that will only get worse in the future.

You shouldn't be made to feel like you've done something wrong when you are really, honestly certain that you did no such thing. This is true for women, too -- some guys make women feel this general, constant sense of guilt, and they seem to enjoy making their girlfriends feel 'off-balance' mentally. That isn't cool either, and it won't get better.

In any relationship, one person is allowed the occasional moment of being a mental mess once in a while -- it can be diet, hormones, or bad things happening in their lives, so being understanding and even taking a little B.S. for the sake of the other person can be reasonable if that person is really having a hell of a day. But if it's a pattern, if you are always apologizing...get out of that mess.
Posted 10/24/11

BlaculaKuchuki wrote:

There's a really good lesson that can be learned just by looking at some of the responses on this thread...

Guys...please notice...psychologically balanced girls do exist. Actually, there are plenty of them all over the place. Some of them just posted in this thread.

IF you find yourself apologizing all the time, when you really didn't do anything wrong, seriously...strongly consider moving to a relationship with someone a little less manipulative and a little more emotionally secure. You are reinforcing a pattern that will only get worse in the future.

You shouldn't be made to feel like you've done something wrong when you are really, honestly certain that you did no such thing. This is true for women, too -- some guys make women feel this general, constant sense of guilt, and they seem to enjoy making their girlfriends feel 'off-balance' mentally. That isn't cool either, and it won't get better.

In any relationship, one person is allowed the occasional moment of being a mental mess once in a while -- it can be diet, hormones, or bad things happening in their lives, so being understanding and even taking a little B.S. for the sake of the other person can be reasonable if that person is really having a hell of a day. But if it's a pattern, if you are always apologizing...get out of that mess.


You've been making long posts with lots of insight and intelligence.....

Did you just turn muslim? Lol, JK.
Posted 10/24/11
Because it makes us gentlemen, or it shows that we have a nice side. Yep.......that's it.
Posted 10/24/11 , edited 10/24/11

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Just because, there's no real reason.... Unless the girl have DEEEEEEEEEEEEEP issues...


Hmm, do you mean a lack of filling the void all the way up in their vagina's?

I'm sensitive. And I'm dogmatic. I forgot to say I'll wipe you off the face of the Earth for disagreeing with me. Though I realize that isn't normal and leave people alone with a silence.

I think women share something in common with me. They're vicious and mean. They too realize that wiping annoyances off the face of the earth is abnormal and instead settle for an apology because they didn't kill you even though they wanted to.

If you value your life, kindly apologize.
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Posted 10/24/11
From around here, I guess to avoid further problems.
There are girl types with people using killing or harming themselves for answers.
Or, gossiping and sometimes adding more details that turns out to be a complete lie.
I'm not really like that, but I know waay to people guys having problems with it.
And friends doing that. o3o Oh, or sometimes they are scared for the penis.
Posted 10/24/11
I apologize to girls only when I am actually sorry. If I am not sorry at all I will still ask if they want a fake apology to feel better though. Oddly enough none of them really take me up on that offer.
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Posted 10/24/11

BlaculaKuchuki wrote:

There's a really good lesson that can be learned just by looking at some of the responses on this thread...

Guys...please notice...psychologically balanced girls do exist. Actually, there are plenty of them all over the place. Some of them just posted in this thread.

IF you find yourself apologizing all the time, when you really didn't do anything wrong, seriously...strongly consider moving to a relationship with someone a little less manipulative and a little more emotionally secure. You are reinforcing a pattern that will only get worse in the future.

You shouldn't be made to feel like you've done something wrong when you are really, honestly certain that you did no such thing. This is true for women, too -- some guys make women feel this general, constant sense of guilt, and they seem to enjoy making their girlfriends feel 'off-balance' mentally. That isn't cool either, and it won't get better.

In any relationship, one person is allowed the occasional moment of being a mental mess once in a while -- it can be diet, hormones, or bad things happening in their lives, so being understanding and even taking a little B.S. for the sake of the other person can be reasonable if that person is really having a hell of a day. But if it's a pattern, if you are always apologizing...get out of that mess.


I love your post. I couldn't agree with you more. There's no need to stay in a relationship if one party is constantly there to receive an apology whether they are right or wrong, well the other is there just to suck it up for the sake of their relationship. Who over is wrong, should just "man-up" and apologize. Seems stupid to have the women constantly receiving the apology. That is beyond stupid. I've had my share of apologizing, and I don't see what the big deal is? I think some people feel like if they apologize constantly they're losing some type of "first place" they have within their relationship. Which is not healthy relationship in my opinion.
Posted 10/24/11 , edited 10/24/11
Think that really just depends on the person, really. Not only the person, but the situation. If it's not your fault and you are apologizing, you are either naive like me or you are just too nice, or you are the two. Possibly, you could -in the slightest way- be too scared to get rejected or you are too scared that they are going to stay mad at you.
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Posted 10/24/11
Not really true for me....

I'd apologized for when I did or said something stupid,

I'd rather apologize then not say anything at all, or else things get weird
Posted 10/24/11 , edited 10/24/11
Where are all these apologetic men? Really? Please, all of you come visit me. I've never ever encountered any, not even my own husband.

Using him as one example: He never admits he's wrong on any issue, even when I suggest he's verbally invalidating or dismissing my feelings and views, even when something comes up that proves he was in error (he'll just be suddenly quiet). I'm always the first to let it go. Make peace. Try to be the pillar of objectivity and empathy. Imagine the world entirely from his perspective.

From my life experience, it seems to me like a typical guy believes if he mustered up enough humility to say he's sorry to me, then somehow his balls would deflate in the process.

A note to such men (but certainly not the gracious gentleman of Crunchyroll): Accountability and humility do not lead to impotence.
Posted 10/24/11

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Where are all these apologetic men? Really? Please, all of you come visit me. I've never ever encountered any, not even my own husband.

Using him as one example: He never admits he's wrong on any issue, even when I suggest he's verbally invalidating or dismissing my feelings and views, even when something comes up that proves he was in error (he'll just be suddenly quiet). I'm always the first to let it go. Make peace. Try to be the pillar of objectivity and empathy. Imagine the world entirely from his perspective.

From my life experience, it seems to me like a typical guy believes if he mustered up enough humility to say he's sorry to me, then somehow his balls would deflate in the process.

A note to such men (but certainly not the gracious gentleman of Crunchyroll): Accountability and humility do not lead to impotence.


If an apology is actually necessary and warranted I have no problem admitting my mistakes and saying sorry. But I don't say sorry just to mend fences and help people feel better. I will apologize that they feel hurt but if it is from something I said or did that I feel needed to be said or done I won't apologize for that part unless it is shown that I was wrong about it needing to be done.
Posted 10/24/11 , edited 10/24/11

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If an apology is actually necessary and warranted I have no problem admitting my mistakes and saying sorry. But I don't say sorry just to mend fences and help people feel better. I will apologize that they feel hurt but if it is from something I said or did that I feel needed to be said or done I won't apologize for that part unless it is shown that I was wrong about it needing to be done.


Don't misundertand; I'm not the type who needs my hand held, to hear how much I mean to someone, or that someone feels any genuine remorse for hurting my feelings. I'm an INTP, anyway, so that blubbering is just awkward.

No, I mean when he'll say I have no reason to feel or believe the way that I do, like it was some irrational manifestation, because he obviously doesn't understand where it came from, therefore, it must be irrelevant and pointless to argue. That, and insisting that something "cannot be done" or " there is no other possible explanation." Then, I go and do it myself, no problem, and he's like "how did you do that?" or I bring compelling evidence to his attention, because I can see correlations and solutions he usually misses.
Posted 10/24/11

WackyFiasco wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


If an apology is actually necessary and warranted I have no problem admitting my mistakes and saying sorry. But I don't say sorry just to mend fences and help people feel better. I will apologize that they feel hurt but if it is from something I said or did that I feel needed to be said or done I won't apologize for that part unless it is shown that I was wrong about it needing to be done.


Don't misundertand; I'm not the type who needs my hand held, to hear how much I mean to someone, or that someone feels any genuine remorse for hurting my feelings. I'm an INTP, anyway, so that blubbering is just awkward.

No, I mean when he'll say I have no reason to feel or believe the way that I do, like it was some irrational manifestation, because he obviously doesn't understand where it came from, therefore, it must be irrelevant and pointless to argue. That, and insisting that something "cannot be done" or " there is no other possible explanation." Then, I go and do it myself, no problem, and he's like "how did you do that?" or I bring compelling evidence to his attention, because I can see correlations and solutions he usually misses.


I see. I don't think I would ever tell anyone they have no reason to feel or believe any way. Doing that seems wrong to me. Also I didn't intend for most of my post to be aimed at you. Only the part that I am one of the ones who can apologize when needed. I started thinking of instances in my own life and started typing about it Sadly though I do have a tendency to insist that some things can't be done even when I know there are ways it can be. If things are pointed out to me though I do come around and stop being stubborn about things.
Posted 10/24/11
Bit of a stereotypical post so I'm gonna go with a stereotypical answer and say that cause we women are always right.



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