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How come guys always seem to apologize to girls
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Posted 10/24/11

BlaculaKuchuki wrote:

There's a really good lesson that can be learned just by looking at some of the responses on this thread...

Guys...please notice...psychologically balanced girls do exist. Actually, there are plenty of them all over the place. Some of them just posted in this thread.

IF you find yourself apologizing all the time, when you really didn't do anything wrong, seriously...strongly consider moving to a relationship with someone a little less manipulative and a little more emotionally secure. You are reinforcing a pattern that will only get worse in the future.

You shouldn't be made to feel like you've done something wrong when you are really, honestly certain that you did no such thing. This is true for women, too -- some guys make women feel this general, constant sense of guilt, and they seem to enjoy making their girlfriends feel 'off-balance' mentally. That isn't cool either, and it won't get better.

In any relationship, one person is allowed the occasional moment of being a mental mess once in a while -- it can be diet, hormones, or bad things happening in their lives, so being understanding and even taking a little B.S. for the sake of the other person can be reasonable if that person is really having a hell of a day. But if it's a pattern, if you are always apologizing...get out of that mess.



Agree, i will also add that if that woman once me to apologize for something little i check to see if it important to her if she is just trying to get one up i will tease her about it.

Posted 10/25/11 , edited 10/25/11

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There's a really good lesson that can be learned just by looking at some of the responses on this thread...

Guys...please notice...psychologically balanced girls do exist. Actually, there are plenty of them all over the place. Some of them just posted in this thread.

IF you find yourself apologizing all the time, when you really didn't do anything wrong, seriously...strongly consider moving to a relationship with someone a little less manipulative and a little more emotionally secure. You are reinforcing a pattern that will only get worse in the future.

You shouldn't be made to feel like you've done something wrong when you are really, honestly certain that you did no such thing. This is true for women, too -- some guys make women feel this general, constant sense of guilt, and they seem to enjoy making their girlfriends feel 'off-balance' mentally. That isn't cool either, and it won't get better.

In any relationship, one person is allowed the occasional moment of being a mental mess once in a while -- it can be diet, hormones, or bad things happening in their lives, so being understanding and even taking a little B.S. for the sake of the other person can be reasonable if that person is really having a hell of a day. But if it's a pattern, if you are always apologizing...get out of that mess.


Never actually read this at first, now that I have I learned something new today.

I've done terrible things in the past and I'm lucky that she accepted me for what I am. if this is one of her flaws, I'm willing to accept it. But rather than moving into another relationship I'm just gonna tell her and hope we can work things out and make us stronger.



*waves at her*
Posted 10/25/11

dirtymexican97 wrote:


Vega66 wrote:

Because they are irrational and overly emotional animals.


A bit rude much? And most guys seem to apologise because I think they think it needs to be said. = ='


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Posted 10/25/11
Well, if you've truly done something wrong and regret it, that's normal... if you find yourself apologizing for nothing or some imagined slight, there are some issues at work that need to be addressed. If you find yourself literally being controlled or emotionally held hostage to some overly needy female, either move on or accept it and live with it.
Posted 10/25/11
Because they need some. Most logic answer..
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Posted 10/25/11
Because most of the time guys are wrong.
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Posted 10/25/11
Wait, there are guys who apologize? WHERE ARE THESE MYSTERIOUS CREATURES?
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Posted 10/25/11
Apologize to get laid is only stage 1, grasshopper.

Stage 2 is working out what you did wrong, and apologize for that.

Stage 3 might be not doing things wrong in the first place, but I'm only an old geezer yet ~ I'm neither dead nor a holy man, so I couldn't tell you for sure.
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Posted 10/25/11

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We'll make them feel guilty until they do.



i dunno if that really is the case since im almost always guilting girls into apologizing. i just don't think girls are intentionally fooling guys into apologizing more so than guys apologizing to avoid the glare that has no affect but is just annoying. and i usually apologize to those cuz it looks like your ganna pop a nerve and do it more out of pity. if theres no glare involve i usually do it to be a gent unless they are wrong, then i usually reverse it on em and win victoriously in all expect.
Posted 10/25/11



Uhmmmm okay...

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Posted 10/25/11
Do they? I haven't noticed.
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Posted 10/25/11

Vega66 wrote:

Because they are irrational and overly emotional animals.


wow feel sorry for whoever you may find... thats overly sexist lool
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Posted 10/26/11
Because women generally have the choice of things while guys are desperately looking for what they can. They have to be nice or they'll be dropped as an option.
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Posted 10/26/11
well if ur wrong and u feel u made a mistake then its okay to apologize...

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Posted 10/26/11
Because for some guys, it's easier to say "I'm sorry" than it is to actually understand the reason why the girl got angry at you in the first place. To a guy, "I'm sorry" is the end-all-be-all - but to a girl, it's just delaying an inevitable revisit of the same problem that caused you two to fight in the first place.
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