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If everyone deserves a 2nd chance, does it mean that we also have the freedom to waste the 1st one?
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Posted 9/13/11

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shiine_3000 wrote:

if ev'ryone deserves a 2nd chance,does it mean that we also have the freedom to waste 1st one?
just wanna know what you guys think of it... because i think a bastard does not deserve any 2nd chances,.. once an asshole will always be an asshole.. hehehe no offense meant but i was just wondering... im a bitch and too proud of myself but why do i feel sorry for hurting someone who hurt me first? does he deserve 2nd chance? my friend keep telling me that everyone deserves 2nd chance, does it apply in relationships too?


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Well whoever this guy is, sounds like your average typical AAA+ Asshole and as such better off finding someone else rather than giving them a second chance. Anyway if you do give them a second chance, what's to say it'll end up like it was before and before you know it, you enter in to something that is commonly called a "vicious circle."

Do yourself a favour and forget them, put it down to a bad experience, learn from it and find someone else. Also why feel sorry when as you put it "they hurt you first"?

Anyway as something that I've learned a very long time a go "giving someone a second chance is a total waste of time, not like they would ever learn from there mistakes first time around and would just repeat that mistake all over again."


i was about to say " now, thats a girl power!" but when i look at your gender.. whoa!! either your gay or just simply damn nice guy. ---> thanks! that boost my self confidence!
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Well...it depends on what type of second chance that you are talking bout......Specially when it comes to relationships.....It depends on how that person have hurt you....And if that person meant it when they hurt you.If you really love someone then it's always hard to give a 2nd chance as the amount you get hurt is even worst.But then again it's easy to forgive also cos you Love that person.But if they have cheated on you it's the worst thing to forgive.....I Love that saying "ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER" So then don't care & just forget & never look at that person back again....
But if it's a friend who has lied to you for a small reason or if they hurt you for something then it's ok to forgive & to give a second chance....But everyone does not deserve a 2nd chance.......


very well said… but i believe that forgiveness is different from second chance.
Posted 9/13/11
I never give people second chances. you fucked up once, how am i supposed to be so sure that you won't do it again?

but if a person was gonna waste the first one than it just depends on how bad you messed up.
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Posted 9/13/11
It's your choice. To give that person another chance or forget it about them.
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Posted 9/13/11

shiine_3000 wrote:

i was about to say " now, thats a girl power!" but when i look at your gender.. whoa!! either your gay or just simply damn nice guy. ---> thanks! that boost my self confidence!


Well I'm not gay as I like woman much like the next guy, difference is however I wouldn't hurt a woman nor do I think of woman as just a sex object (many guys do though, which is just lame).

Anyway it's just something that I've learned through studying Psychology, observations in regards to human behaviour, relationships that go bad, end in failure and many other things.

It's just one thing of many that I have seen happening all too often, also sometimes it's not necessary the guy that has caused it, but rather the woman or some other factor i.e. incompatibility (personality clash) or something else. Basically in question it's best to keep moving on until you find someone that's just right or someone that has the same interests/hobbies.

Anyway don't hear the nice guy thing too often any more, but anyway thanks.
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Posted 9/13/11

shiine_3000 wrote:

if ev'ryone deserves a 2nd chance,does it mean that we also have the freedom to waste 1st one?
just wanna know what you guys think of it... because i think a bastard does not deserve any 2nd chances,.. once an asshole will always be an asshole.. hehehe no offense meant but i was just wondering... im a bitch and too proud of myself but why do i feel sorry for hurting someone who hurt me first? does he deserve 2nd chance? my friend keep telling me that everyone deserves 2nd chance, does it apply in relationships too?


If this is a duplicate.. feel free to delete.


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So can I kill someone and have my second chance pretty please?


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No. That doesn't give them the right to waste the first one.

Punishment must be dealt.
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That doesn't give someone to mess up the first chance. When you break someone's trust, it can take a very long time to get it back. Again, it depends on what the person did to you. Not everyone deserves a second chance but you also have to remember that we're all human and make mistakes. Depending on the degree of that mistake, you may want to consider giving them that second chance unless its too bad to overlook.
Posted 9/13/11
Second chances are mostly given because most people take the first opportunity for granted more often than not. It all depends on reasons which differ from each other but it is most likely that one would only appreciate what was given for the first time after only being able to truly realize that they lost it. For me, in some/most situations in my life, I tend to not be even aware I'm given a chance so I tend to ignore and waste those unknown opportunities that I already have had in the first place, although I do make up for it and really work hard when given the 2nd chance because by then I feel really blessed and appreciative more than I was from the beginning. It's an experience that I'd describe as throwing cold water to wake me up and be enlightened

It is right to say that one shouldn't waste a chance, whatever the circumstances are, moreover if it is deemed important beyond its worth. Why wait for the 2nd chance, right? 'Cause there might not be.
Now after reading everyone's posts, I'm sort of thinking that chances are given to determine and label capabilities of people but well, it is kinda like that Ex: Two people are given the same chance (same rules and conditions). One is successful and the other failed. In terms of handling the situation, the other would be recognized more capable than the other although the other one will most likely be given another opportunity 'cause of seen potential but may or may not live up to the expectation. This is very vital for that one person for it can determine his/her opinion about him/herself. It would be great if they are able to do the unexpected and even surpass what was set for standard or otherwise it would be terrible 'cause it may affect them for a lifetime.
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Posted 9/13/11

shiine_3000 wrote:


thundercats666 wrote:

Well...it depends on what type of second chance that you are talking bout......Specially when it comes to relationships.....It depends on how that person have hurt you....And if that person meant it when they hurt you.If you really love someone then it's always hard to give a 2nd chance as the amount you get hurt is even worst.But then again it's easy to forgive also cos you Love that person.But if they have cheated on you it's the worst thing to forgive.....I Love that saying "ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER" So then don't care & just forget & never look at that person back again....
But if it's a friend who has lied to you for a small reason or if they hurt you for something then it's ok to forgive & to give a second chance....But everyone does not deserve a 2nd chance.......


very well said… but i believe that forgiveness is different from second chance.


Well......You can always NOT forgive but give a second chance so that you can get back in our own way & on the amount that you are hurt you can actually take revenge on that person. Let that person suffer.....maybe that's your idea......Hmmmm.........better not piss you off ;)
Posted 9/13/11
What the hell does that mean!?
You think your gonna get a second chance from me your outta your mind.

Just kidding I give second chances out all the time, like candy.
That's why my life is shit.
That's why there are dead bodies in my walls.cough*
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Posted 9/15/11

shiine_3000 wrote:


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We never know if we have a second chance, so why in hell would you be dumb enough at the start?


sometimes we make mistakes and the only way to make things right is to admit you've been wrong...
that's the time we needed the second chance.. to prove that we can change and be a better person.


While that is true, it would be a mistake, and you wouldn't know it, so how could you waste the first chance?
Posted 9/15/11
No. It means it's human to make unintentional mistakes, and if we all gave up after one try or didn't allow others an informed do-over, nobody would learn much, and progress would never happen, not personally, and not on a grand scale.

It's not a license for laziness or negligence, so don't abuse it.
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Second chances are pretty rare to come by, especially if it has something to do with something that is very serious. So, I don't think you should try and screw up your first chance on purpose.
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