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Whats your right age to start SERIOUS dating?
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Posted 10/5/11
I just, got out of a pretty long, but maybe not so serious relationship. I'm good don't worry haha... ok thats not what this topic is here for.
It raised the question in:
WHEN SHOULD A PERSON START LOOKING TO GET IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP? (if at all?)

I'm sure it's different for different people, but I'd be curious to hear what people think!
Posted 10/5/11
When you reach puberty, clearly, Justin Beiber is doing it wrong.
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Posted 10/5/11

SpanishArmada wrote:

When you reach puberty, clearly, Justin Beiber is doing it wrong.


We probably shouldn't use Justin Beiber as a reference to anything that we do or think though..
Posted 10/5/11

PandaJungle wrote:


SpanishArmada wrote:

When you reach puberty, clearly, Justin Beiber is doing it wrong.


We probably shouldn't use Justin Beiber as a reference to anything that we do or think though..


I was using him as a reference as what we NOT do. :l
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Posted 10/5/11

SpanishArmada wrote:


PandaJungle wrote:


SpanishArmada wrote:

When you reach puberty, clearly, Justin Beiber is doing it wrong.


We probably shouldn't use Justin Beiber as a reference to anything that we do or think though..


I was using him as a reference as what we NOT do. :l


Still involved in the though process haha. No worries, I'm only kidding! Puberty could be a good starting point for some people, definitely!

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Posted 10/5/11
Whenever you think you can handle a real, serious relationship and not base it on sex.
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Posted 10/6/11
Six.

...in dog years.
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Posted 10/7/11
When the sexual aspect of a relationship is reaching a level where condoms are left out of the game and anticonception is not consumed regularly. Or..always? Or are there people who can afford to date just for fun? I don't know, but when I date someone, then I'm mostly interested in it seriously. But if I just want to screw around..then I don't call it a relationship as 'relationship', but more like a sexual escapade.
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Posted 10/7/11
There are many factors that determine when a person should come into a serious relationship. personally I believe that probably 60% of all people if not more are unable to and shouldn't even try to ever pursue a serious relationship because it will just end up miserably. somewhere a long time ago I read that something like 99% of all relationships fail and a lot of it probably has to do with the people having expectations of the other person that are plain unreasonable.

i'll use an example of my last "relationship" to show what to me reasonable and unreasonable things are.

upon deciding to let her move in with me we setup some unwritten rules which were agreed upon before ever agreeing to let her move in.

basically it had to do with laundry cooking cleaning and went mostly along the lines that any two roommates would have, simple rules like:

if person 1 cooks food for both people than person 2 will agree to help with the cleanup
whoever uses the bathroom will leave the bathroom in the same fashion they entered it if possible.
since she gets out of bed 4 hours after I do she has to make the bed

since I was paying about 95% of all the bills she could barely pay anything she agreed to do stuff like laundry and vacuuming and I would take the trash out when I walked my dog since thats what I would normally do anyways.

so splitting chores around the house reasonable.
her failing to do her part and me kicking her out after repeated warnings reasonable

her requirements to be in a relationship were unreasonable to me;
on days off lay in bed for like 3 extra hours because she doesn't want to get up and wants me next to her
she wanted me to respond to every text message immediatly and if I don't she would send repeated texts with just "?????????" (in one instance I had 106 texts with just a bunch of questionmarks in the span of 15 minutes) knowing that in the cases of me being at work I am not allowed to use it except on coffee and lunch breaks.
she wanted me to give up hanging out with any of my friends unless she was there to latch herself to my arm.

my unreasonable requirements(according to her)
her "family plan" with her ex boyfriend for her phone needed to be split up if she wanted to continue living with me.

Back to the point..... there is no real set age because some people are good at 16 and marry their high school sweethearts while the majority of people don't. if your happy with where your at in life and are looking for something stable and can basically accept that there are two different types of women out there then as a man theres hope of you being able to forge a relationship.

fyi the two types are
the women who are way too crazy for you to handle and
the women who are just crazy enough that you can stand it.

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Posted 10/8/11
Don't get serious with anyone until you're 27. If you live to see 28, then do as you please.
Posted 10/8/11

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Don't get serious with anyone until you're 27. If you live to see 28, then do as you please.


Makes sense to me. I've lived freely without much hassle due to puppy love and other forms of insanity. The best things we can have from life take time to obtain.
Posted 10/10/11
i think you should start getting serious with someone when your 21 or so :\
Posted 10/14/11
Relationships suck!.....just don't tell my girlfriend that.......
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Posted 10/15/11
I've never actually thought this from a perspective of 'serious' vs. 'non-serious' dating: that concept seems almost alien to me.

I was going to say at least 16 ideally, though some are possibly able to start trying on love from 14 or so; however this question is clearly more complicated than "I think a is fine at n years old, a+b is fine at o years old etc etc.

Definitely one to chew over.
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