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Posted 10/17/11

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ReaperEXE wrote:

To answer your question, you stop playing the game when you smarten up and realize that looking for a serious, or even a socially acceptable/functional relationship isn't at all game. According to your profile, you're 15. To put it bluntly, even though you've had 5 failed relationships (or perhaps especially because you've had 5 failed relationships), you don't have the right to question whether or not it's time to quit, and you most certainly do not have the right to tell people to give up on finding love, for several reasons:
1) You're too young. You. Are. Too. Young. At that age, you're lucky if you can get a relationship to last 5 minutes, let alone a lifetime. No one at that age truly knows what they want in life - forget about relationships.
2) Love comes in all shapes and forms. Finding romantic love isn't hard. Some people take a lifetime to find it, but the point is that they do find it.
3) You have nothing to lose by not quitting.
4) The only way to truly quit is shut yourself off from any form of contact, or kill yourself because love can find a way to sneak up on you when you least expect it.

The World is a big place. There are over 6 billion people, and over half of those are women. As you get older, it gets much easier to find compatibility in a partner. Part of that is growing up and maturing as an individuals through various experiences, and part of that is dropping the importance of the superficial things you looked for in a partner when you were younger.

Here's a perfectly relevant quote from How I Met Your Mother:


I'm not exactly superficial, I settle.

A LOT,

The only problem I have in relationships are betrayal, often I hear. "That's because the girl is young."

I know age does in fact plays a part, but I thought a bit deeper about it whenever my friend's mom is 45 and STILL looking for the right person, whenever her sister met her current husband at the age of 7, that's right.

Childhood friends.

They started dating at like 14-15 but they broke up because of distance and rekindled the relationship in their early twenties.

Judging from your comment, I guess your answer is.

"There's no way to give up the 'game' unless you kill yourself." Correct? Fair enough.

It makes sense, I know love is recurring thing, but to prevent myself from liking someone too much, I just think the worst of them.

It works for the most part, I learned this technique from my brother.


No. Read the first sentence I wrote. My answer is that, "It's not a game." In addendum to that answer, you're just too young and stupid to be worrying about all of this. I don't buy that you settle. Seems to me that you go for the first girl that remotely shows an interest in you. Betrayal? The likelihood of either men or women cheating in a relationship is about the same. If you're paranoid about cheating, you're more likely to be the one to cheat, or you're very likely to become abusive. Also, I could buy that childhood friends that break-up around 15 rekindle their love later in life because of distance, but not for any other reason. Some people get lucky and find the love of their life when they're 5, but that's literally almost a 1 in a million chance. If they broke up because of a falling out or something like that, it'd be a mistake to get back together. The amount of people who were high school sweethearts, got married young, and quickly soon divorced is absurd. It happens because neither part of the couple knows what they want. That technique you learned from your brother is completely stupid. Women give terrible relationship advice because they're under the delusion that what's working for them, is actually working for them and could potentially work for others; It's not and it doesn't. Men give terrible relationship advice because they're fucking morons. Love involves risk, and if you deliberately push people away and see the worst in them so as to not like them too much, then why the hell are you on here complaining? The idea of relationships in general is to see and bring out the best in someone, and accept the worst. You're 15 and you're this pessimistic about relationships; you need to grow the hell up.
Posted 10/17/11
*Puts hand on chin and thinks*

Heh, everyone thinks to thread is too complain about my life, and they're all replying to me instead of answering the question.

Not only that, but their judgements seem to also be wrong.

It makes sense why they think the way they think, I'm not saying.... or thinking I'm special, but my love life goes very differently then how they think it goes, oh well, that's a topic for someone a bit closer to me.

When do you think it's time to stop playin' the game?

They also interpreted "Game" as something less than serious, what did they expect me to call it? Oh well, that's also a topic for a different group of people.

Although they told me their answers in the comments directed at me, I could somewhat decipher where they stood on the question

Hmm.....
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Love? I'm not familiar with that. That's a new one to me
Posted 10/17/11

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Love? I'm not familiar with that. That's a new one to me


Seriously?

Is this guy for real?
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Posted 10/17/11

Aero-Mach wrote:


LordSadas wrote:

Love? I'm not familiar with that. That's a new one to me


Seriously?

Is this guy for real?


Well If I pinch myself It hurts So I'm quite sure that I'm real.
Posted 10/17/11

Aero-Mach wrote:

*Puts hand on chin and thinks*

Heh, everyone thinks to thread is too complain about my life, and they're all replying to me instead of answering the question.

Not only that, but their judgements seem to also be wrong.

It makes sense why they think the way they think, I'm not saying.... or thinking I'm special, but my love life goes very differently then how they think it goes, oh well, that's a topic for someone a bit closer to me.

When do you think it's time to stop playin' the game?

They also interpreted "Game" as something less than serious, what did they expect me to call it? Oh well, that's also a topic for a different group of people.

Although they told me their answers in the comments directed at me, I could somewhat decipher where they stood on the question

Hmm.....


You used yourself as an example with your question and you yourself feel that it is time to quit so it is easy to see why people would want to reply to you directly. My original post may have seemed like it was directed specifically at you but it really wasn't. I use "you" with a general meaning instead of saying "other people" or "they". Makes things confusing at times but I really have to try hard not to do it and I get lazy at times. Personally I can see the term "playing the game" as less than literal and simply as something to call it overall.

To answer your question again, simply put, one can not ever fully quit 'the game' until they are dead.

People can however choose to actively reject relationships in order to avoid the issue entirely. From what I have heard, however, doing so can sometimes help make the story of how they ended up finding love unique.
Posted 10/17/11

LordSadas wrote:


Aero-Mach wrote:


LordSadas wrote:

Love? I'm not familiar with that. That's a new one to me


Seriously?

Is this guy for real?


Well If I pinch myself It hurts So I'm quite sure that I'm real.


So you never felt love before? I envy you....... :P

What if a girl was like. "You're so awesome..." This guy must be a TOTAL heartbreaker!
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Posted 10/17/11

Aero-Mach wrote:


LordSadas wrote:


Aero-Mach wrote:


LordSadas wrote:

Love? I'm not familiar with that. That's a new one to me


Seriously?

Is this guy for real?


Well If I pinch myself It hurts So I'm quite sure that I'm real.


So you never felt love before? I envy you....... :P

What if a girl was like. "You're so awesome..." This guy must be a TOTAL heartbreaker!

I don't form bonds with others so It doesn't matter to me one way or another
Posted 10/17/11

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Aero-Mach wrote:

*Puts hand on chin and thinks*

Heh, everyone thinks to thread is too complain about my life, and they're all replying to me instead of answering the question.

Not only that, but their judgements seem to also be wrong.

It makes sense why they think the way they think, I'm not saying.... or thinking I'm special, but my love life goes very differently then how they think it goes, oh well, that's a topic for someone a bit closer to me.

When do you think it's time to stop playin' the game?

They also interpreted "Game" as something less than serious, what did they expect me to call it? Oh well, that's also a topic for a different group of people.

Although they told me their answers in the comments directed at me, I could somewhat decipher where they stood on the question

Hmm.....


You used yourself as an example with your question and you yourself feel that it is time to quit so it is easy to see why people would want to reply to you directly. My original post may have seemed like it was directed specifically at you but it really wasn't. I use "you" with a general meaning instead of saying "other people" or "they". Makes things confusing at times but I really have to try hard not to do it and I get lazy at times. Personally I can see the term "playing the game" as less than literal and simply as something to call it overall.

To answer your question again, simply put, one can not ever fully quit 'the game' until they are dead.

People can however choose to actively reject relationships in order to avoid the issue entirely. From what I have heard, however, doing so can sometimes help make the story of how they ended up finding love unique.


Like how unique? Mind tell me? *Looks at the viewer* Mind telling us a short story of it? Sounds interesting.
Posted 10/17/11

Aero-Mach wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


Aero-Mach wrote:

*Puts hand on chin and thinks*

Heh, everyone thinks to thread is too complain about my life, and they're all replying to me instead of answering the question.

Not only that, but their judgements seem to also be wrong.

It makes sense why they think the way they think, I'm not saying.... or thinking I'm special, but my love life goes very differently then how they think it goes, oh well, that's a topic for someone a bit closer to me.

When do you think it's time to stop playin' the game?

They also interpreted "Game" as something less than serious, what did they expect me to call it? Oh well, that's also a topic for a different group of people.

Although they told me their answers in the comments directed at me, I could somewhat decipher where they stood on the question

Hmm.....


You used yourself as an example with your question and you yourself feel that it is time to quit so it is easy to see why people would want to reply to you directly. My original post may have seemed like it was directed specifically at you but it really wasn't. I use "you" with a general meaning instead of saying "other people" or "they". Makes things confusing at times but I really have to try hard not to do it and I get lazy at times. Personally I can see the term "playing the game" as less than literal and simply as something to call it overall.

To answer your question again, simply put, one can not ever fully quit 'the game' until they are dead.

People can however choose to actively reject relationships in order to avoid the issue entirely. From what I have heard, however, doing so can sometimes help make the story of how they ended up finding love unique.


Like how unique? Mind tell me? *Looks at the viewer* Mind telling us a short story of it? Sounds interesting.


Well I suppose unique might not be the most appropriate word as there could be similar stories out there. One particular story I know of is a guy who was also trying not to be with anyone. He didn't fall in love but a woman fell in love with him and since he wouldn't be with her willingly she basically got very close to everyone he knew. She became close friends with all of his friends, family and even co-workers so that if he was ever with any of them she would, most of the time, be invited to go and join the group. He couldn't escape her and eventually for reasons unknown fell in love with her as well. As far as I know they have been married for 18 years now.

Posted 10/17/11

Well I suppose unique might not be the most appropriate word as there could be similar stories out there. One particular story I know of is a guy who was also trying not to be with anyone. He didn't fall in love but a woman fell in love with him and since he wouldn't be with her willingly she basically got very close to everyone he knew. She became close friends with all of his friends, family and even co-workers so that if he was ever with any of them she would, most of the time, be invited to go and join the group. He couldn't escape her and eventually for reasons unknown fell in love with her as well. As far as I know they have been married for 18 years now.



Well, it sounded like she was a predator and he was prey.

It was apparently a successful hunt.

That's really interesting, although it makes me wonder how she got in contact with his friends, family and co workers, I mean did he give them out or did she somehow get their addresses and hang out spots some other way?

Lets prey I never meet a girl/woman like that.
Posted 10/17/11

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Well I suppose unique might not be the most appropriate word as there could be similar stories out there. One particular story I know of is a guy who was also trying not to be with anyone. He didn't fall in love but a woman fell in love with him and since he wouldn't be with her willingly she basically got very close to everyone he knew. She became close friends with all of his friends, family and even co-workers so that if he was ever with any of them she would, most of the time, be invited to go and join the group. He couldn't escape her and eventually for reasons unknown fell in love with her as well. As far as I know they have been married for 18 years now.



Well, it sounded like she was a predator and he was prey.

It was apparently a successful hunt.

That's really interesting, although it makes me wonder how she got in contact with his friends, family and co workers, I mean did he give them out or did she somehow get their addresses and hang out spots some other way?

Lets prey I never meet a girl/woman like that.


I believe she used the readily available stalker tool known as facebook. Personally I am kind of 50-50 on meeting a girl like that. I don't want to be hunted and yet I would think that it would make life interesting at least for awhile. Guess that speaks volumes on how bored I get...I will even take a stalker to change things up.
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Posted 10/17/11

Aero-Mach wrote:


Starbrite101 wrote:

if you give up VYOOUUU VAAAREEE VWEAAAAK.

that is all /o/


There's nothing wrong with being weak right?

Love just doesn't work out the same way for everyone, your love life is probably fantastic.

But some of us have much less fortunate love lives...



oh no sir there is never anything wrong with being weak ,it is giving up that is wrong.
no actually my love life started off terribly bc my heart was torn into pieces and now i await for the next person to come.
Posted 10/17/11

Starbrite101 wrote:


Aero-Mach wrote:


Starbrite101 wrote:

if you give up VYOOUUU VAAAREEE VWEAAAAK.

that is all /o/


There's nothing wrong with being weak right?

Love just doesn't work out the same way for everyone, your love life is probably fantastic.

But some of us have much less fortunate love lives...



oh no sir there is never anything wrong with being weak ,it is giving up that is wrong.
no actually my love life started off terribly bc my heart was torn into pieces and now i await for the next person to come.


It would be hard to find someone who has never had their heart broken at some point. If someone was found like that then it would only be a matter of time. I don't consider it a terrible thing I just label it a part of life and an opportunity to learn.
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Instead of giving a whole page long response on how I define love, I'll just summarize.

As everybody else has said, it's not a game. And I personally don't think that love can be searched for and found. It can only be accidentally stumbled upon: and only then will it actually bloom into something wholesome and meaningful. Love happens on it's own accord- it's not something that can be forced. That's just my opinion. ♥ And for those of you who've had bad relationships... It's difficult to move on, and almost impossible to fully heal a broken heart. But it won't heal on it's own; you need to focus on living life to it's fullest extent, and not just on finding somebody who will love you. As the saying goes- "loving yourself comes first."
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