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Why is disciplining children by spanking them good/bad?
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I know there are a lot of parents who think that spanking their children is ok and that's to discipline them or punish them for doing something wrong. In my opinion, i don't believe that it is good to hit a child at all. It's violence! Even though the child did something wrong, should parents need to spank them? Will spanking "teach them a lesson?"

You can answer if you're a parent or not. State your opinions!
Do you think spanking a child is good or bad?
Is there another way to discipline a child instead of spanking?
If not, then why do you think spanking is a good parenting tool?
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I don't think that it necessarily bad, but it depends on why the parents use it, how often, and how much force is behind it. Obviously there is a point where "corporal punishment" ends up as just beating up a small child.

My view is that corporal punishment should be a last resort, used sparingly, and should never be used in anger. I think that if someone is having to spank their child regularly it's a sign that it isn't working and they need to look at their own parenting skills, and there are certainly parents out there who dole out smacks for the slightest thing. However, there are times when it is justified. For example, if your child kept trying to stick their fingers in an electrical socket (or doing something else that put them or others in danger) and no other method worked, would it not be better to give them a short, sharp smack than to let them do themselves an injury?
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I don't know... I grew up with it so I have a hard time thinking that it's a bad thing and that my parents are evil people... I agree with maffoo though, that it should be used sparingly and never be used in anger.
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My mom spanked me before, my dad never did...
But I respect my mom more than my dad

I don't know if I should spank my child though...
Maybe if my child is a brat ...
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I don't spank my child just for the heck of it. I spank if it is really necessary. Mostly, I talk to my child and we agree on a punishment that's best suited at that time.
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thanks! i appreciate the comments!
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Spanking your children is good because they learn with true hardship.

Spanking your children is bad because it can lead to your daughter to like being spanked.

Spanking your children is good because it makes your kid know that they are doing wrong with a red mark on their ass just in case they forget.

Spanking your children is bad because it can lead your children to fight back against you.

Those are my pros and cons. Enjoy.
Posted 12/2/11

maffoo wrote:

I don't think that it necessarily bad, but it depends on why the parents use it, how often, and how much force is behind it. Obviously there is a point where "corporal punishment" ends up as just beating up a small child.

My view is that corporal punishment should be a last resort, used sparingly, and should never be used in anger. I think that if someone is having to spank their child regularly it's a sign that it isn't working and they need to look at their own parenting skills, and there are certainly parents out there who dole out smacks for the slightest thing. However, there are times when it is justified. For example, if your child kept trying to stick their fingers in an electrical socket (or doing something else that put them or others in danger) and no other method worked, would it not be better to give them a short, sharp smack than to let them do themselves an injury?


Wouldn't that be ironic since you would be hurting them further?
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Posted 12/3/11

SpanishArmada wrote:


maffoo wrote:

I don't think that it necessarily bad, but it depends on why the parents use it, how often, and how much force is behind it. Obviously there is a point where "corporal punishment" ends up as just beating up a small child.

My view is that corporal punishment should be a last resort, used sparingly, and should never be used in anger. I think that if someone is having to spank their child regularly it's a sign that it isn't working and they need to look at their own parenting skills, and there are certainly parents out there who dole out smacks for the slightest thing. However, there are times when it is justified. For example, if your child kept trying to stick their fingers in an electrical socket (or doing something else that put them or others in danger) and no other method worked, would it not be better to give them a short, sharp smack than to let them do themselves an injury?


Wouldn't that be ironic since you would be hurting them further?


in my opinion, always spanking them hard and bringing anger upon their children will hurt them further, especially emotionally. i guess if you have to, corporal punishment is the last resort, but it shouldn't be too harsh.
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Posted 12/3/11

SpanishArmada wrote:


maffoo wrote:

I don't think that it necessarily bad, but it depends on why the parents use it, how often, and how much force is behind it. Obviously there is a point where "corporal punishment" ends up as just beating up a small child.

My view is that corporal punishment should be a last resort, used sparingly, and should never be used in anger. I think that if someone is having to spank their child regularly it's a sign that it isn't working and they need to look at their own parenting skills, and there are certainly parents out there who dole out smacks for the slightest thing. However, there are times when it is justified. For example, if your child kept trying to stick their fingers in an electrical socket (or doing something else that put them or others in danger) and no other method worked, would it not be better to give them a short, sharp smack than to let them do themselves an injury?


Wouldn't that be ironic since you would be hurting them further?


If a few seconds of mild pain and a few minutes of hurt feelings keeps them from electrocuting themselves, then no, it isn't ironic. In my opinion it's a small price to pay.


eeveetron wrote:

in my opinion, always spanking them hard and bringing anger upon their children will hurt them further, especially emotionally. i guess if you have to, corporal punishment is the last resort, but it shouldn't be too harsh.


I think it depends on whether you are talking about "spanking" as in "bent over mum/dad's knee and being thrashed hard" or an occasional smack from a loving parent to send the message, "that's wrong/dangerous, don't do it". I agree that the former is excessive and can easily cross the line and become a beating, and I would also argue that it is humiliating. The latter, however, is unlikely to cause lasting physical or emotional harm.

Posted 12/7/11
If you are an athiest, it's subjective. What you define as good or bad is what it is. Morality would be subject to opinion.
If you're like me then you could say disipline is nessecary, but it is wrong to act out of anger or hatred. Only use this type of disipline when viewed as nessesary. Like when your kid lights his dog on fire after showering it with gasoline.
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It's good... as long as it don't cross the line...
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Posted 12/9/11
Just spank them while you do it verbally abuse them.. .
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Posted 12/10/11

In light of Judge Adams video,

We often hear from those who fight to uphold this practice for those under the age of 18 (even to the blaming of the social maladies of the day on a supposed "lack" of it), but we rarely, if ever, find advocates for the return of corporal punishment to the general adult community, college campuses, inmate population, or military. Why is that?

Ask ten unyielding proponents of child/adolescent/teenage-only "spanking" about the "right" way to do it, and what would be abusive, indecent, or obscene, and you will get ten different answers.

These proponents should consider making their own video-recording of the "right way" to do it.


Research/recommended reading:

Spanking Can Make Children More Aggressive Later
http://tulane.edu/news/releases/pr_03122010.cfm

Spanking Kids Increases Risk of Sexual Problems
http://www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2008/feb/lw28spanking.cfm

Use of Spanking for 3-Year-Old Children and Associated Intimate Partner Aggression or Violence
http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/126/3/415

Spanking Children Can Lower IQ
http://www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2009/sept/lw25straus.cfm

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak
http://www.nospank.net/pt2010.pdf

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson
http://nospank.net/sdsc2.pdf

"Spanking" can be intentional or unintentional sexual abuse
http://www.nospank.net/101.htm

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Posted 12/10/11

In 31 nations, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child. The US also has the highest incarceration rate in the world.

The US states with the highest crime rates, poorest academic performance, highest obesity rates and health problems, poorest economic ranking, and largest public welfare burdens are also the ones with the highest rates of child corporal punishment.

Of all the things prison inmates lacked in their upbringing, "spanking" certainly wasn't one of them.

There is simply no evidence to suggest that child/adolescent/teenage-only "spanking" instills virtue.
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