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First things first, this isn't coming from a lovestruck, depressed, cynical teen. Just from someone who's interested in how this works, if it exists at all. So I was reading a book about human interaction and body language, and the topic of love and attraction came up.

It seems that love is initially based upon mutual physical attraction, as expected, and then develops into something stronger. If I apply this into context: You meet this beautiful person, get to know them, fall in love, marry, have lovely babies and live happily ever after. Everything has supposedly gone perfectly; but what if this person was butt ugly and you never felt attracted in the first place? Would you simply find another person and live happily ever after with them?

Now if you sacrificed outer beauty and went for inner beauty instead, personality over appearance, and applied the same 'happily-ever-after' scenario above but then found a major personality flaw, would you stick with them? What I'm trying to say is if the reason you fell in love with a person is no longer appealing, would you just fall out of love and move on? How shallow are people really?

TL;DR Do you think unconditional love exists? Think about your love or your partner, would you still love them after you see a major flaw, perhaps one you were not aware of?

Do you need a reason to love someone? And if so, what would happen if that reason disappeared? It can be any type of love, romantic, cyber, platonic, whatever. rawr discuss?
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Do you need a reason to love someone?


Yes. There is always a reason.

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Unconditional love? Yeah it does exist.
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I thought loving someone is accepting their all including their flaws.
It exist but pity it's rare to find such love.
Posted 12/10/11
I don't know, never experienced it. Think it really depends on the person's definition of "love" and how they see their situation as.
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You don't need a reason to love someone, but there probably is one.
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ReaperEXE wrote:

You don't need a reason to love someone


You do. Or else people would be falling in love with every single person they walk past.
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chrome_mist wrote:
Yes. There is always a reason.


what if you weren't aware of the reason? would it make the feeling weaker?


CarboKill wrote:


ReaperEXE wrote:

You don't need a reason to love someone


You do. Or else people would be falling in love with every single person they walk past.


LOL funny way to put it. The other thing I wanted to know was what would happen if that reason disappeared?
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Posted 12/10/11 , edited 12/10/11

CarboKill wrote:


ReaperEXE wrote:

You don't need a reason to love someone


You do. Or else people would be falling in love with every single person they walk past.


Actually, some people do. It's called love addiction, true story.


CarboKill wrote:


ReaperEXE wrote:

You don't need a reason to love someone


You do. Or else people would be falling in love with every single person they walk past.


LOL funny way to put it. The other thing I wanted to know was what would happen if that reason disappeared?

It can mean one of several things, depending on what the reason was to begin with. It could mean that you're an incredibly shallow person, or that your partner may have been pretending to be something else.
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Why would anyone love somebody for no reason? Does that ever happen?
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TL;DR Do you think unconditional love exists? Think about your love or your partner, would you still love them after you see a major flaw, perhaps one you were not aware of?


Hmm, I find flaws attractive. I'm full of them as well. Which makes me simply handsomely flawed/
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Why would you date someone in the first place if you dislike their flaws? The whole point of loving someone is loving them from their perfection all the way to their flaws. I'm thinking about the person I love, and I can't seem to think of one flaw. Although to others, I'm sure he's flawed. I just can't think of anything. :/
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well obviously you need an initial attraction...
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Kippu wrote:

Why would you date someone in the first place if you dislike their flaws? The whole point of loving someone is loving them from their perfection all the way to their flaws. I'm thinking about the person I love, and I can't seem to think of one flaw. Although to others, I'm sure he's flawed. I just can't think of anything. :/


maybe I really have messed up the meaning of love in my head, I give up on understanding it pfft.
Posted 12/10/11

You meet this beautiful person, get to know them, fall in love, marry, have lovely babies and live happily ever after. Everything has supposedly gone perfectly; but what if this person was butt ugly and you never felt attracted in the first place? Would you simply find another person and live happily ever after with them?


That doesn't make sense... or maybe I'm misinterpreting it wrong? Any who, I was thinking what kippu wrote. Unconditional love is loving someone regardless of what they or the world considers a flaw, whether it be mannerisms, beliefs, or something that's physical or emotional (ex. self-esteem).
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