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Posted 10/1/12
I'm ashamed to say, I was the Possessive boyfriend at one stage, albeit I've grown up now.

But women shouldn't have to be controlled. If you trust someone then trust them. If other guys are hitting on your woman, take it as a compliment. If your woman has guy friends, who cares, who is the person she comes home to every night? Things like that. Realizing those things helped me grow up a bit
Posted 10/1/12
I do not mind...
As long as the reason or his reasons are rational enough and dignified i wont go against it.
However, if it is like his now dictating me on what to do and claiming my freedom that one i do not tolerate. I will argue and fight for it until he realize it. His my boyfriend not my bodyguard or my Dad so he better act like one. None the less i am pretty submissive and do not and try hard not to argue for i hate my mouth and my self when i am arguing it brings out the communist in me
Posted 10/2/12
A long time ago... in a high school far, far away (unless you were me or lived in AZ) I was this insufferable prick archetype. I learned real quick it doesn't make you friends, you stress the hell out all the time and you lose the one PERSON (she's not a possession guys) you're trying so DESPERATELY to hold onto faster than if I had just learned a little 2 way trust. Seriously, Trust goes a long way. Everyone I think is allowed to flirt and draw attention to themselves if that's just how they are. Asking them to change or trying to control that aspect of a person be it guy or girl is a fruitless and ultimately exhausting endeavor so don't. I learned if you are in a relationship with a girl that gets a lot of attention either naturally or because she's a flirt, let her have her fun. Just draw the line at who she goes home and gets into bed with. Fidelity should be respected but so should freedom.
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Posted 10/2/12

DangerousYams wrote:

A long time ago... in a high school far, far away (unless you were me or lived in AZ) I was this insufferable prick archetype. I learned real quick it doesn't make you friends, you stress the hell out all the time and you lose the one PERSON (she's not a possession guys) you're trying so DESPERATELY to hold onto faster than if I had just learned a little 2 way trust. Seriously, Trust goes a long way. Everyone I think is allowed to flirt and draw attention to themselves if that's just how they are. Asking them to change or trying to control that aspect of a person be it guy or girl is a fruitless and ultimately exhausting endeavor so don't. I learned if you are in a relationship with a girl that gets a lot of attention either naturally or because she's a flirt, let her have her fun. Just draw the line at who she goes home and gets into bed with. Fidelity should be respected but so should freedom.


hehehehe a long long time ago when I was in highschool. 400 miles above you in vegas I learned the same thing
Posted 10/2/12
Like above I learned the hard way. Used to be very possessive, but completely did a 180 after a long term relationship ended. Nothing good comes from trying to own your girlfriend/boyfriend. Independence and not having the need to keep complete control of the other is attractive, the opposite, not so much.

Now if someone shows signs of wanting to possess me it only makes me back away. It might sound sad, but getting burned badly made me shut down alot of my feelings when there's someone I like, in fear of getting hurt again. So if I like someone and they flirt with others I don't care so much and I especially do not want to possess them in any way. It comes across sometimes as pretty cold to some, but I'd rather be completely free and flirt with anyone I want, than being trapped again in the same situation.
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Posted 10/2/12
I'm not a possessive, jealous boyfriend.

As a matter of fact, I've been accused of not caring enough, being too lackadaisical lol. I figure I'm dating an adult, a woman, if they're going to do something behind your back they'll do it anyways. No need to spy on them 24/7. Plus there's always more fish in the sea.
Posted 10/2/12
The trick is to pretend to care just enough, but not too much. There isn't a lot of middle ground, it's a narrow target.
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Posted 10/2/12
I think guys should just be happy to have someone
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Posted 10/5/12


Exactly

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Posted 10/6/12
Possessive behaviour scares the partner away, it's obtrusive.
Posted 10/6/12 , edited 10/6/12

Winterfells wrote:

I'm not a possessive, jealous boyfriend.

As a matter of fact, I've been accused of not caring enough, being too lackadaisical lol. I figure I'm dating an adult, a woman, if they're going to do something behind your back they'll do it anyways. No need to spy on them 24/7. Plus there's always more fish in the sea.


Reminds me of me, haha. I'm kinda spacey and I give people their room because I need my own. They misinterpret that as me not caring even though I do and I never forget important dates and like to cook for my boy.

And then there are those guys who want to kill every dude you hug. Geez, relax...
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Posted 10/6/12
I like freedom as much as possible so i try not to attach titles when im with a girl. She does her thing and I do mine and we both win if we hook up some nights
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17 / F / Miami, Florida
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Posted 10/6/12
Meh I like possessive boyfriends lol it makes me feel like they care about me a lot and really don't want to loose me :3 and I know they trust me they just don't trust the other guys ^^
Posted 10/6/12 , edited 10/6/12

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Exactly



Exactly

Yuno is really sexy though. Doubt I'd mind possessiveness.
Posted 10/6/12
I'm a possessive girlfriend and my boyfriend doesn't mind it, actually he likes it.
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