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Posted 10/9/12

Kayuzo wrote:

Meh I like possessive boyfriends lol it makes me feel like they care about me a lot and really don't want to loose me :3 and I know they trust me they just don't trust the other guys ^^


...which is actually good thing.^^What with lots of trash out there and whole relationship building on base of trust.
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Posted 12/24/12

animeaddict0 wrote:

hmm.. well i just havent seen any topics bout this..

just lock it or whatsoever if its a duplicate..

well its just that while i was reading manga books.. most of the manga i read is about possessive boyfriends.. their so overprotective over their gf's and wont even let their girlfriends hang out with other guys... their like.. so obsessive and crazy over the girl..

hmm.. i just wanna hear your thoughts if you were in this relationship.. or just your opinion bout this kind of stuff!!!


There nuts it just pushes the girl away
Posted 12/24/12
I don't mind some possessiveness.....it shows that they care. It seems like most of the guys I had a romantic interaction with didn't care where I went, or what I did with my life.........
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Posted 12/25/12
Possessiveness derives from a relationships emotional insecurity with contributions made from either or both of the given individuals in the said relationship. Strong relationships rarely display signs of possessiveness as large quantities of trust can be found, without trust relationships stagger and become questionable, questions create doubt, personal insecurity combined with doubt of relationship security sees the reaction that is possessive behaviour in an attempt to control the relationship.
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Posted 12/25/12
I think it's cute that they're possessive, shows that they don't want to lose you. ^-^
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Posted 12/25/12 , edited 12/25/12
I was in a relationship with an idiot like that in the past. He did not like me hanging out with any of my guy friends, even if I knew them for over 10 years & were basically like brothers to me. Did I listen to him when he wanted me to stay away? HAIL NAH! Long story short, that relationship came to a much needed end.
Its a huge turn off for a guy to be super jealous and hella possessive like that, not to mention unhealthy.
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Posted 12/26/12
I was dating a girl that had a couple bars. She bar-tended at one regularly. Her job was to flirt with customers and get them talking so that they'd drink more.

I never had a problem with it.

A. If she's with you, there's a reason.
B. If she likes someone else more than you, can you really be content with that?
C. How would you like it if every part of your life outside of the relationship, she scrutinized and worried over your shit?

Relax and enjoy the ride.
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Posted 12/26/12
When i was 13 i dated a guy like that. Being in a relationship like that sucks the life out of you. I remember one time he called me and i didn't pick up because I was sleeping i woke up to 23 text messages 30 missed calls and 10 voice mails and he even came by my house. He didn't trust any of the guys I was friends with because he thought they all secretly in love with me and i wanted to take me away from him and every time i tried to break up with he'd make me feel guilty about leaving him or told me that if i broke up with him he'd kill himself.
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Posted 12/26/12

desny wrote:


SecondLife wrote:

Possessiveness derives from a relationships emotional insecurity with contributions made from either or both of the given individuals in the said relationship. Strong relationships rarely display signs of possessiveness as large quantities of trust can be found, without trust relationships stagger and become questionable, questions create doubt, personal insecurity combined with doubt of relationship security sees the reaction that is possessive behaviour in an attempt to control the relationship.


So much partial information, so little view of the overall predicament.


I'm honoured that my opinion based words can be classified as information, and who's to say that possessiveness can be a predicament? Would it not appeal to a certain market of men/woman and have its own benefits?
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Posted 12/26/12

desny wrote:


SecondLife wrote:

Would it not appeal to a certain market of men/woman and have its own benefits?


No, any being with intelligence gets it eventually. It's a predicament, for one or both sides.


Limited observation of reality and it's variables and complexity detected. True predicament identified. Abort.
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Posted 12/26/12 , edited 12/26/12
I think some level of possessiveness is an attractive quality, as long as it doesn't go too far. Something like constantly touching- for example, hand on the small of the back- to show we 'belong' to each other is okay, but I wouldn't tolerate someone telling me not to talk to other people or whatever.

To be honest, how often this trope appears in shoujo manga is actually one of the reasons I find the majority of it difficult to read. Like, 80% of shoujo manga is glorifying relationships that are arguably (and a lot of the time, solidly) abusive. It's kinda gross.
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Posted 12/26/12
Insecurity has a lot to do with it.
Posted 12/26/12 , edited 12/26/12
Best experienced in modesty. Not that I know what I'm talking about.
Posted 12/27/12
My dad is very possesive towards my mom..that seriously wont happen to me. Well my opinion is that a little jelousy here and there ia cute and shows a guy cares but theres a certain limit and no one has a right to control another persons life...well maybe i am like this cuz ive seen to an extreme how possesiveness can hurt your partner greatly and its not worth being with anyone like that
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