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Being TOO social
Posted 1/11/12
Many people argue that you can be too standoffish, but not too social. I think this is because on the surface, in the external world, those who get involved and really make themselves visibly known do seem to get more VISIBLE recognition. As human beings, I believe that many of us have a tendency to place judgement simply on what's in front of us - in turn, we see extroverts as "better" because we can SEE the attention they get. We disregard the idea of being happy while being by yourself and consider that to be a bad thing. I don't believe the external world was really designed for introverts (think about it: EXtrovert = EXternal. INtrovert = INternal.)

As an introvert, maybe 95% of the guys I've dated have been extroverts - in fact, my current boyfriend is one as well - and I can tell you that, being a homebody and someone who often likes to be by herself, it's very difficult (but rewarding) to be with someone who, when it comes to the introvert/extrovert part of your personality (see "Myers-Briggs,") is the exact opposite of you - especially since I value one-on-one time and he's constantly with other people. We've had to make a deal in which we set aside at least 1 day a week to spend time together alone, and yes, I sometimes wish he could be a little bit more like me. in my opinion, that might make a person TOO social.

Just to clarify, there is such thing as an AMBIVERT - someone who is both an introvert and an extrovert. I'm not calling anyone with this type of personality "perfect." I am saying that I believe introverts and extroverts may both be slightly off balance when it comes to the internal and external world. Please make sure you know the difference before posting your opinion.

So, please, share with me your thoughts. And, as always, IF THERE'S ALREADY A THREAD LIKE THIS, DO YOUR STUFF.

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Posted 1/11/12
I'm too selfish to really be anything other than an introvert, but, I can be very outgoing at times. No, I don't think all introverts are selfish that's just how I honestly see myself.
Posted 1/11/12
Dunno about being too social or too introverted. Perhaps you should check out the Myers-Briggs personality test. It lets you rationale from a list of categorizations and decide for yourself what type of personality you most closely identify yourself with.

Some people can be total introverts one moment and then flick a light switch and be social if they feel like it. On the other spectrum the same applies for many people you usually know to be extroverted. Some live within whatever confines they understand as their personality border.

Are either superior to one another? No. Both introverted and extroverted characteristics have an incredible wealth of humanity behind them.
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Posted 1/11/12
True as surmised, despite the social norms and quantitative tests people can't be grouped into just two groups because more often than not you'll have plenty of exceptions.
Posted 1/12/12
Never knew there was a term for that, ambivert. I'm definitely like that, mostly intro though
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Posted 1/12/12
I could definitely be labeled an ambivert too even though it's apparently not in Google Chrome's dictionary, heh.
Posted 1/12/12
I like this term "Ambiversion", if the definition I found is correct.
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It's not a word you hear everyday but it was in an online dictionary.
Posted 1/12/12

Ambrivert here.
An introvert in real-life while being an extrovert in the internet.
Posted 1/12/12
Being an introvert doesn't exactly mean staying at home all the time, it's simply being alone or not interacting much wherever you are. I really like outdoors, it makes my mood so much better.

Never thought of outgoing people as better or worse. They do seem to get lonely easily, are needy more often than not, and don't value romantic relationships much.
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Posted 1/12/12
does this count
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id call myself an introvert,but only because i have no solid connections to any real extrovert so call me a bit of a forces introvert.id agree they are the right and left of ambivert i also think many people would classify themselves as such even if they know witch way they actually lean.either way both sides would compliment each other and make you feel less off balance thats what it seems to be with you and your boyfriends,attracted to the opposite.
also the world does seem to cator to the more loud people than the ones who keep knowledge to themselves, people just dont like what they cant see with their own eyes plus a hand full of secluded people end up crazy, solitary confinments supose to be a punishment to me its just more time to think
Posted 1/12/12
Screw this, I am going to go back into my closet.
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Posted 1/12/12
i am extrovert but i love being introvert if it makes any sense
Posted 2/9/12
Introvert...introvert.
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