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Posted 2/9/12 , edited 2/9/12

Bossy-Cat wrote:

i am extrovert but i love being introvert if it makes any sense


How do you mean?

And for the record, I define an extrovert as someone who is talkative in a room full of people - it doesn't matter if they are or are not talking about themselves. I define an introvert as someone who talks only to one or two people. When you express an interest in getting to know me, I will tell you almost everything there is to know about me, but I'm hardly ever the first to start a conversation. In contrast, the guy I was referring to is very talkative yet gives little to no information about himself. So by society's standards, he is an extrovert and I am an introvert.

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Posted 2/9/12
i don't think there's "too much" of either. it's really a matter of what each individual is comfortable with.

if person A is super-social, and person B is super-private, of course they're going to have to work hard to get along as a couple.

i would imagine that middle-range people would tend to get along the easiest. they would enjoy being around others, without having to compete so much against the huge crowd.

for the record, i'm a per-- i mean introvert.
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Posted 2/9/12
Actually how talkative someone is doesn't make them an introvert or extroverted. They can be introverted and extroverted, but those two traits is just how we process everything.

The question really is do you live more in your external world, or internal world, and which one do you prefer?

I am mainly extroverted, but there are times where I need some time alone to process my information. I am completely comfortable in both environment, but I get this "energy" when I'm around a lot of people. I feel like I'm recharging my batteries being around others haha
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INTJ, quite frequently get the whole "Why don't you want to go hang out with our totally awesome group of 12+ people at Applebee's/insert-other-place-here?" from people outside of my close friends. There is a definite limit to how long I can be around groups of casual acquaintances, and a good chunk of them have a hard time understanding how anyone would want to do *anything but* hang out with people. It can get a bit obnoxious

It's not so much being too social in general, but being too social around people I don't relate with too well. It drains me for a myriad of reasons. It does not make it impossible to be around people by any means, I find I need social contact more often than not, but I would much rather it be with people who I can relate to in some sense (close friends, people with a shared hobby or interest, something I can readily have a conversation around or at least a cool story to hear/tell). Otherwise I find I need to get out for a short walk or otherwise recuperate every few hours. Does not mean I need to go somewhere quiet and be physically alone, just somewhere away from expected social contact. Being alone in a crowd is actually oddly refreshing sometimes (and, at conventions, is often the only option anyways xP )
Posted 2/10/12

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INTJ, quite frequently get the whole "Why don't you want to go hang out with our totally awesome group of 12+ people at Applebee's/insert-other-place-here?" from people outside of my close friends. There is a definite limit to how long I can be around groups of casual acquaintances, and a good chunk of them have a hard time understanding how anyone would want to do *anything but* hang out with people. It can get a bit obnoxious

It's not so much being too social in general, but being too social around people I don't relate with too well. It drains me for a myriad of reasons. It does not make it impossible to be around people by any means, I find I need social contact more often than not, but I would much rather it be with people who I can relate to in some sense (close friends, people with a shared hobby or interest, something I can readily have a conversation around or at least a cool story to hear/tell). Otherwise I find I need to get out for a short walk or otherwise recuperate every few hours. Does not mean I need to go somewhere quiet and be physically alone, just somewhere away from expected social contact. Being alone in a crowd is actually oddly refreshing sometimes (and, at conventions, is often the only option anyways xP )


I concur....but I am INTP.
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Posted 2/10/12 , edited 2/10/12
a term new to my ears, but I'd say ambrivert then, even as most INTJ's are 100% introverts to the bone ;D
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Posted 2/10/12
I'm more introvert than ambivert since I'm not exactly extrovert. I'm usually very quiet and to myself, but depending on certain people, I can be completely different. Some people joke around and say that I'm bipolar, which is not really the case. And yes, there is such thing as being too social like telling everyone everything that's going on about you and the rumors and the tension and yada yada yada...
Posted 2/29/12
I know the type.

*endless string of conversation jumping from one subject to the next without me even getting a word in*

Me: "Please stop talking" -__-
Posted 2/29/12
I'm not so social, but sometimes having overly social people around is great. In the very least though, I don't talk much to people.
Posted 2/29/12
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Posted 2/29/12
Locked because OP has nuked, feel free to recreate this topic.

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