Post Reply aggressiveness in this, other yaoi
Posted 2/4/12 , edited 2/4/12
SIH is 1st yaoi I'm watching, tho I've seen bits, pieces of other ones. Storyline, art, comedy great. Only watched 2 episodes so far but do want to watch all. Junjou Romantica too.

One thing bothers me about yaoi anime & manga I've seen so far: The aggressiveness of the seme when he makes the moves on the uke. Instead of tenderness, too often it's a "force him down & make him holler" moment. That is love?! Um, not by me.

Esp. in scenes building up to sex, I find it disturbing to see the poor uke crying, filled with fear, etc. while the seme essentially attacks him. That looks a lot like rape to me.

Sure, you can say, "But the uke really does want it, he's just inexperienced & *needs* a firm hand to push him along." But if I were the seme, I'd be more considerate of the poor kid's feelings.

I'm not trying to start a flame war, just thoughtful discussion.

And please, don't tell me it's "cultural" and therefore acceptable. Female circumcision in Africa is cultural and most of us would agree it's a bad thing. Honor killings of young women in some middle east places is "cultural" but that doesn't make it right.

Thanks everyone.

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Posted 2/20/12
I'm *really* disappointed in CR community having no responses to this. I'm going to move it elsewhere for some intelligent discussion.
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Posted 9/2/16
Yeah, I have to agree with you on this. The romance felt so forced and cliche-filled; it's like the seme never has respect for the uke as a human being and treats them like an object. Why would this be considered a nice loving relationship when they typically are on the point of (or already) harassing the person they call "lover." It feels so disturbing to see them do this over and over again. It's almost displaying one of those relationships no one wants to be in.

Not only that, but as a show, the characters can feel either too weak or too comical for me to feel human connection to them. And most of the female cast are side characters just to flame up conflict, and other than that, there's nothing more to them and are abruptly thrown away. Which extremely disappoints me, considering how very little female characters in yaoi mean nothing more than side characters. They should be just as interesting as the main characters and they shouldn't be disposable. Also, it seems like this show borderline antagonizes any rival as if it's their fault, when in reality, they should feel bad for them.

Unfortunately, most of this fandom consists of younger teenage girls who are fine with something as long as it's gay, whether it be a healthy relationship or not. And that's the reason why I typically stay away from yaoi.
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