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How far would you go to meet someone?
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Posted 2/15/12

eclair-lumiere wrote:I'm sorry. It is nothing personal but I don't believe you can develop an actual emotional attachment to someone online. I just don't see how it is possible with someone whom you have never met.


Oh, I'm not taking anything personally. Oddly enough, responding here has been one of the more calming parts of my day recently. I actually used to think that way too. It changed a few years back when I realized that I actually cared what the person on the other terminal thought of me. I actually talk to one specific person I met online years ago far more than I even speak to my in-person friends. Honestly, I'm starting to think he might know more about me than my parents do, which is kinda sad when you think about it.
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-FueledbyRamen wrote: I actually do wanna meet someone right now, she's one of my closest friends online; She lives in another state, so I think it's impossible for us to ever meet :[

aw, don't be that ready to give up. geez, it's only another state. that's not even a different country. save up money, talk to your parents about it, get proper contact info, and some kind of backup contact method, like staying at a hotel or something.... get on a bus, and go meet.
do all of that honestly tho.. don't fake up stuff for your parents. and talk to the person on video chat at least, before you go to meet them.
i won't pretend this will guarantee safety.. but video chat is at least -difficult- to fake effectively.. and after that, you have to decide for yourself if you trust the person you're meeting.

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Never ever meet someone you met online. Even if they happen to live in the same city. Seriously...it's as if people WANT to get killed these days.
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I agree that the risk can be reduced by meeting in crowded places, letting people know where you are etc. But for me it would still be too much of a risk. And I can't really understand why anyone would want to since you can't really develop an emotional attachment to someone online and it is easy to meet other people where you live.
Also, a lot of people don't even bother to meet in crowded places etc. Those people who meet someone online in the middle of nowhere are just mad.
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I'm sorry. It is nothing personal but I don't believe you can develop an actual emotional attachment to someone online. I just don't see how it is possible with someone whom you have never met.

wow... you sure have a lot of trust issues with people. you're basically implying that every single person online is secretly a serial killer. now i agree, meeting someone (no matter how you met them) somewhere private and out of the way is always a bad idea until you've gotten to know them better. but what's terrible about meeting someone at a public cafe, during the day, say, with a friend or two along as well..? if it goes well, then sure, your friends have "other plans". if it goes wrong, or you feel creeped out, or just -anything- feels weird.. well, "it was nice meeting you, but we have some other plans. bye~"

but.. why do you need to see a person face to face to make an -emotional- connection?
a physical meeting distracts us with all kinds of physical data; what they look like, the noise, the environment, etc etc. is it really their personality you like? or is it their looks that gives you that tingle?

when you talk with someone online, you (slowly) get an idea of what they are really like inside. the way they act, the way they react, and so on. no outside distractions. it's a purely mental (as in, emotional) connection. if you think it's impossible to make an emotional connection online.. i can only imagine you can't make a very real emotional connection in person either.

i don't mean "bunches of friends"... i mean a serious, deeper emotional collection.
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I've spoken to a few individuals online for years but I have never developed anything close to an emotional attachment with them which is why I don't really believe in it. I suppose it is possible to care for someone as a friend but falling in love just really isn't possible.
I suppose the thing about your parents is kind of sad, but if it makes you feel better my dad knows very little about me. He didn't even know what year I was in when I was still at school. And I'm glad you are not taking it personally. A lot of people take any kind of disagreement as a personal insult but it isn't. Everyone has different opinions.
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It depends on the person I'm meeting, really. If it's someone I've known (online) for a while, and we both really wanted to meet each other, then I'd go at least a few states over and hang out for a week or so.
Posted 2/16/12
I would have gone really far I guess, if I were 100 % sure.
If you have a distance relationship the most important things are love and patience.

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Posted 2/16/12
I can meet people locally, I don't need to meet anyone from the internet.
Posted 2/17/12
if you look hard enough, you'll find just what you're looking for in your hometown
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Posted 2/17/12
Well, I met this guy through Gaia and we started IMing. Eventually he asked if I could go out to CA to meet him. I was kinda on the fence about it. I wanted to go, but didn't. Then I had a fight with my stepfather (as per usual) and he told me to hand over my keys. That night the guy and I made a plan. I went to CA for a week and felt so much lighter in a sense. I guess that I was far enough away that I could just unwind and breathe.
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Posted 2/20/12
I've ran around the city to find one person since my phone decided to die out during an important time...
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15 / F / EXO PLANET
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Posted 2/20/12
Hmmm, They Gotta Come To Me. Lmao.
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Posted 2/21/12
if i liked her enough the other side of the world.
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Posted 2/21/12
For a fellow manly soul in Team Dai-Gurren, I'd travel to the ends of the earth to meet them!
For that special girl, there's nowhere I wouldn't go :-)
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Posted 2/21/12
Many Stars away if they are hot enough!
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