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Is there a limit to "personal success?"
Posted 2/19/12 , edited 2/19/12
To be honest, I didn't know what to put in the search bar when it came to trying to find similar topics - if this is a duplicate, I apologize, and please carry on.
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A lot of people decide growing up that there's something/someone they're meant to do or be - career-wise, relationship-wise, etc; you're meant to be a fireman, a policeman, or a singer. You're meant to marry this person or that person. You get my point.

Then you have those people who some believe take it to an extreme. They say they were meant to be a member of the opposite gender and so that's what they try to become. You have others who say they were meant to be in the country, like me, when they were born in the city.

But isn't it the same thing? You can say they didn't come into this world a certain way and they shouldn't try to change those things, but isn't that what you're doing, just to a lesser extent? Is this even measurable in the first place?

Not gonna front and say I didn't come here for my own personal gain. I love country music and love visiting the south, but sometimes feel guilty because I do feel more at home out there than I do where I live presently. I have people tell me often I'm better suited for that lifestyle. It makes me feel as if I'm not owning up to reality. Still, I can't help but doubt it; if I was MEANT to be there, why wouldn't I be? Is it something I should change, or something that would have happened from the start?
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Posted 2/19/12
If 20 is your age I would think you still have your whole "rest of your life" ahead of you. I don't know your particular situation but having doubts and inner turmoil with your inner self is an ongoing process of living. Welcome to the world we live in and the cognitive attributes we perceive or not perceive. Change is constant. Get ready. Also, believe in yourself.

As the old saying goes:
friends that mind, don't matter;
friends that matter, don't mind.
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Posted 2/19/12
Yes, there is, since a human is a finite being.
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Posted 2/19/12
There is a limit, we are all going to die someday, that is a given, but despite that, live like you believe there are no limits.
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Posted 2/19/12
life has no limits.
well until you die.
then you're pretty limited.
Posted 2/19/12
yeah....when you die
Posted 2/20/12
I don't think anyone is "meant" to do anything. Some people may decide that they feel they want to do something, and just brand themselves "meant" for the job or w/e. Not saying it's a bad thing. I guess it motivates people to try harder to succeed and so on.

As most people have seen saying, success is limited to your life span. Unless your dead body turns out to be the cure for cancer.
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Posted 2/20/12 , edited 2/20/12
I suppose there is a limit to personal success however it's up to you to figure out what that limit is. For me I'm very comfortable where I am right now. I'm single, I have a stable full time job that pays well. And now I have reached a point in my life where I've been given the opportunity to take it to the next level. And yet I have certain fears and doubts about taking that opportunity because it's something I've never ventured into before. It's something that would certainly take me out of my comfort zone. For that very reason I feel that I am up for the challenge, and I'm willing to give it a try. You won't know unless you try am I right? It could end up being something I am incapable of or could very well lead me to something much bigger and better than I ever imagined. Life can be full of surprises. I believe God put us on Earth for a reason and purpose and it's really our call to find out what that is.
Posted 2/20/12
Greed is good.
Posted 2/20/12
Limit loves me.
Posted 3/31/12
All things get old, including you so yeah there is. Unless you have someone to carry on your legacy.
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Posted 3/31/12
There is no speed limit. - http://sivers.org/kimo


But the permanent effect was this:

Kimo's high expectations set a new pace for me. He taught me “the standard pace is for chumps” - that the system is designed so anyone can keep up. If you're more driven than “just anyone” - you can do so much more than anyone expects. And this applies to ALL of life - not just school.

Before I met him, I was just a kid who wanted to be a musician, doing it casually.

Ever since our five lessons, high expectations became my norm, and still are to this day. Whether music, business, or personal - whether I actually achieve my expectations or not - the point is that I owe every great thing that's happened in my life to Kimo's raised expectations. That's all it took. A random meeting and five music lessons to convince me I can do anything more effectively than anyone expects.
Posted 3/31/12
It's possible that there are things we were 'meant' to do. I wouldn't know, but it's possible.

I do know that for one, it does make a great metaphor and tool for personal motivation -- if you convince yourself that you were meant for something, it can give people the strength to push through a lot of opposition or inertia.

But if you over-analyze destiny, fate, or what you were meant to do, you can very easily paralyze yourself.

So you were born in a city...so what? What does that have to do with your personal destiny or fate?

Maybe you were meant to experience the change between city and country? Or you were meant to experience the difference between Yankee and Southern culture?

Maybe you were meant to experience southern culture for a few years, get sick of it, then move to Whitehorse, Yukon?

One last thought...why would you feel guilty for being happy somewhere? Do you think the people back home are really going to be better if you stay there, but you're unhappy? No, you're just going to be that one miserable guy who gets more bitter over the years.
Posted 3/31/12
Sorry, just that I am not a person.
Posted 3/31/12 , edited 3/31/12
there are infinite possibilities existing in the mind but it's up to you to choose what would really fill yur time. an easier way to figure this out is to shut out outside advice and listen to your own.

it doesn't matter what they say, it's your life, not theirs.

and i don't believe in fate. you make your own path on things. you choose your own goals.

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