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Why Do You Think Its So Hard To Reveal Things About Yourself?
Posted 2/26/12
To be honest there are lots of things about myself I keep from my family and close friends. Just something about revealing your most inner secrets and thoughts frightens me and fills me up with anxiety. But it almost like a voice inside shouting wanting to be heard but when ever time it talk you shut your mouth.


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Posted 2/26/12
I'm like that with everybody. I can never feel completely comfortable with anybody to share everything about me.
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Drink a few beers. It will help you lossen up. Told my dad most of my secrets and it was worth it.
Posted 2/26/12
I personally just don't like it since it seems like a waste of time. I don't think the person I would be talking to cares at all or would make my situation better. Also, I would worry if they'll judge me in an negative sense afterwards. I prefer to keep my feelings bottled up like I've been doing as usual.
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Posted 2/26/12
Just because someone is family doesn't mean you should automatically trust them. A relationship where either of you can be a confident takes time to be built.

The biggest mistake you can make with family is just assuming you can tell all..no. You can't just trust anyone with your inner self..and if you make the mistake before building a trusting relationship, that family unit is where the trust issues tend to develop.

And forcing yourself is the worst thing. When you feel comfortable with someone it should flow naturally. But...you will have to take a little chances..offer very small tidbits of yourself..to test the water so to speak. And if the feeling of mutual trust is there, than you know you can release yourself..little by little. Like I said, it all takes time.
Posted 2/26/12
I am limited to what people should know about me. Just because I have complete trust in someone, it doesn't mean that I am going to purge my whole life on that person. I find it rather annoying.
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Posted 2/27/12
Ehh .. well I kinda feel the same way as you do. I would like to tell my friends all my secrets but it just wouldn't make sense. They would most likely judge me or as OB1 up there said they would get annoyed and say "Why the hell are you just laying out all your shit on me?" Also, I agree with Raya about some things when it comes to the family. I think I can trust my family with most things but I wouldn't want some members of my family to know other sides to me. Ok that is kinda confusing but it goes like this My sis - religion deep stuff My bro - women nasty stuff and dark thoughts My mom - general stuff about everyday life and what is going on in general with relationships. So in some way or another my family does know me just not ALL of me. I dont really know what your family dynamic is so I can't really comment on it but hopefully some of that helped.

As for the revealing of the inner thoughts, secrets, and problems. In my opinion/philosophy, I think you will only meet two people in life who you can share that with. 1 your best friend - doesn't really matter at what point in life you meet them. 2. the person you want to or will marry. Yeah I know sappy but I really think your wife/husband should be your best friend and lover. Again this is all my personal philosophy but I hope in some way it helps. Living with a bunch of secrets sucks! lol
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Posted 2/27/12
My two best-friends know almost there is to know about me, they don't judge. However others may and as a precaution I don't tell many people about things I like to keep personal as there are mean people out there! >:)
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I am as open as a book most of the time.
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It can be hard because you never know what people are gonna think. It might completely change someone's opinion of you.
Posted 2/27/12
I don't see the point in telling someone, tried it once never again.
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Posted 2/27/12

AKidEnraged wrote:

To be honest there are lots of things about myself I keep from my family and close friends. Just something about revealing your most inner secrets and thoughts frightens me and fills me up with anxiety. But it almost like a voice inside shouting wanting to be heard but when ever time it talk you shut your mouth.


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Well it all start with a question; "Have you been hurted before?"
Humanbeing that gets betrayed and hurted do crate a shell to defend themself.. There for it is natrual to consel things..
Tho it is sad as it actual distance yourself to have a deap conection with anyone.. tho it is not ment to be that with evryone as most people are not true.. and there for can hurt one real bad..

My own experiance makes me just show a sunny and cheerful outside.. never let anyone see me weak and hurted.. if they actual find me crying in a corner i get aggresive and force them away intil that is over.. But then again i state that from begining that people shall keep walking when i fall into the pit of darkness.. As i want to save myself and not want a freeking hero or heroine that save me from myself..
Selfish, yes! But in the end we are always alone.. we are born alone.. and we will die alone.. There for it is only natrual to save yourself when it comes to that..

The only people i talk my inner thoughts with is people i pay to listen and give tools in the daily life.. As they are bound under a contract that hinder them to speak about me to anyone.. and if they do i can just sue them for braking the contract..
But i'm happy with that.. what i kinda understand by you, is that you suffer that you can't talk and be your trueself? or maybe i missread and missunderstod you overall..

First thing, stand infront of a mirror and learn to love you for who you are.. even with weakness and strength.. To feel more safe around people there you want to revele yourself means in the end you need to be sure on yourself.. As if things go bad you are the one that shall handle it.. and best way to handle it is to respect yourself and love yourself.. Becuse when that happen none can hurt you if not you let them..

Why keep it for yourself? Hmm.. i kinda translate that you feel something that you fear for someone around you.. or maybe that is wrong..
Or something happen to you that you need to tell but dont dare becuse you blame yourself? Anyhow most importand thing to know is that your own feelings and thoughts is not wrong.. you are you there for shall embrace yourself as you are.. If you dont want to share with others then dont.. and if you want to.. then talk to someone that you know with 100% cant use it agenst you.. if it is that importand if say.
Maybe a school consular or a Phycologist is something you can start with. It is more safe and good training in the end game..



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Posted 2/27/12
I don't feel comfortable telling you why...
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Posted 2/27/12
i dont like telling people things about me cause it might be used against me sometime. knowledge is power
Posted 2/27/12
I walk around naked all the time
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