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Why Do You Think Its So Hard To Reveal Things About Yourself?
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Posted 4/22/12

agira wrote:

I'm the same..the worst thing is that when i actually DO try to talk, or am give the chance to, it either comes out wrong and sometimes it's just plain mean. I've suppressed my feelings about EVERYTHING for so long that i don't know how to express myself well now. So most of the time i don't even bother talking!!!!


I'm that way too, always the silent one in the conversation until I'm asked a question.
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20 / F / Aslyum 626
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Posted 4/22/12
I open up a lot to people if they you know..Actually ask me something. If they never ask they will never know. I just don't tell someone some random stuff out the blue...Its not really like me at all
Posted 4/22/12 , edited 4/22/12

mystic17 wrote:

I personally just don't like it since it seems like a waste of time. I don't think the person I would be talking to cares at all or would make my situation better. Also, I would worry if they'll judge me in an negative sense afterwards. I prefer to keep my feelings bottled up like I've been doing as usual.


Second this mostly.

I don't mind judgement as I'm usually my harshest critic in a constructive way. Apart from my lethargy at times I reckon I'm dedicated and consistent.

It's just that how would they be afterwards. Are they trustworthy? Will they chuck what you said back at you to take an upper-hand of you ever?

In terms of others helping you'll always have to tug at your own steam boat. A close confidant will sometimes make you feel like you're not tugging a thing when they're next to you tugging along too.

I personally feel I couldn't ever share a majority of myself with others. I'm more of a practical guy with frequent effort. Saying my emotions don't necessarily make me a better person or feel better. You won't find me spilling my beans to others instead doing what I can in the physical realm.
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toxxin wrote:

The judgement isn't the issue for me I can handle that it's the consequences resulting from the judgement that I have my issues. I don't care what they think of me but I care about what they might do when they know certain things about me.


Same here.
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It's not.
Posted 4/22/12
becorz... well, for me its because im afraid of what people will think of me afterwards. and sometimes when you confess some big inner secret your hoping for advice but they just reply 'uuh, yuh.' and it annoys me xD
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It's really hard to open with other person you really don't trust even for your family... but sometime b4 i know it I say something very important to myself that I didn't want the others know about me but those people around to me don't even believe it to what I'm saying so I think it's ok ... but I open myself to one person who really care for me and treat me just who I am... that person is the most important person to my life... sometimes you need to tell those biggest secret of yours or else one day your mental can't take it anymore it will turn bad....
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Posted 4/23/12
well of course its hard since opening up makes you vulnerable and opening up to much can make you an outcast since many people only like whats normal and cool especially when you're still in school
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Posted 4/23/12
Answer to question:

Because when you reveal some things to some people sometimes they will mock you for it.

Who wants to be mocked?

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Posted 4/23/12

maybe because i dont trust people easily
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23 / M / California
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Let's face it, there are some things about ourselves that we have to admit, you can't just go around telling people about. I love my friends and family but there are some things about me personally that I know nobody will be able to understand, hell some of my greatest secrets about me I don't even fully understand them myself and yet I deal with them. So what is the liklihood that if I don't know why I do some of the things I do that my loved ones will understand it?

As a side note, I'm a psychology and logic nut, and yet I still don't understand some of my own greatest secrets. There are just certain things about people that have no need to be revealed. In fact it's a way of protecting your loved ones from yourself. That's what I think anyways.
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Posted 4/23/12
It is no one else's concern.

They are your personal thoughts and feelings and should be reserved as such. No matter how much you trust someone there are always secrets each and every person keeps to themselves. Personally, I've never wholly trusted anyone enough to spill my guts. Being found inadequate or unacceptable is a strong motivation to keep things to yourself. People will view you in a different light and may treat you differently or do something for whatever reason. Fear of having your confidence betrayed can cause someone to keep everything to themselves and cut off contact with others.
These kinds of topics are so open-ended and broad that they can be adjusted to just about any scenario. If you want anything more specific then it will require more details for anything clearer. Being anonymous on the internet allows people a new kind of freedom of speaking their minds without the risk of being persecuted.
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Posted 4/23/12
Only two people in my life actually know im a huge anime fan.
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